How/why Did You Start With Mongering?

[jacqueh]

Hey guys,

I was just wondering how did you guys get started with the hobby. We all have different stories, and I'd like to ask this out of simple curiosity.

Here's my story.

I started when a streetwalker touted me in the street in western Europe (I was a student back then). She looked really slutty, but in a good way. She was a buxom, provocative blonde, with the body of an American porn star. She probably caught me unconsciously staring at her rack, so she smiled at me and initiated a conversation. As I realized she was a pro (although it was obvious from the beginning), I backed off and said something like "Hum... no thanks".
The following days, even though I was already seeing someone, and had quite a healthy and active sex life, that body of hers kept coming back to my mind. So a week after, as I stumbled on a porn ad, I thought "hey but, you can do a girl like that too!", went back to the spot, looked for the girl, came back to her, and, well, got my first p4p experience, which was quite good. No kissing, but a few laughs and smiles, just pure sport action for 40 minutes. It felt more fun than sensual, and it was exactly what I was looking for.

This probably shaped what I'm looking for when I p4p. I'm not into GFE, I want PSE. I want to have fun with the type of girls I don't date, doing things I don't usually do.

 

[SpookySmoothie]

It wasn't really something I intended to start I always thought working girls would be ugly crack heads in their 40's or some nonsense in my teens until I went to visit family in Costa Rica. Some friends of my uncle came from the States with their sons in their mid twenties I guess and they were these crazy wrestler looking guys lol. I was just turned 18 at the time and still a virgin. I told them this and they took me to a strip club and got me a lap dance from an attractive stripper. Then they decided to go one better and took me across town to some bar which turns out is a brothel. There are a bunch of girls sitting at a table they look over and smile and I'm basically told to pick which one I like. They are all super attractive College age girls like around my age.

I pick out this petite looking girl with a cute smile and big dark eyes. She was really friendly but spoke no English at all. We spoke in broken spanish. Showered together and she washed me then I had sex for the first time. I wasn't a porn star or anything but it was enjoyable XD.

After that I pretty much completely opened up on the idea of p4p since my perceptions of it were broken. When I went to University after my year break I found a local ad for Asian massage and decided to try it. A cute Korean girl turned up at my door and well the rest is history lol.

 

[Tom Clumsy]

In Japan I started Dec 2011. I was dealing with a mid life crisis or some shit, wondering why I don't fit in and why I can't get laid. It was a dreary winter night walk near Okayama station, this is down south of Japan. A lady offered me massage, then accompanied me up the stairs. A different chinese lady went to my room. She's aged and terrible-looking. Had big tits but never bared. Got me off, but less than satisfying experience.

But this started the ball rollin'

for the next five years, I've frequented PS, chinese/korean esute, soaplands, happy ending massage and that sort of shit

 

[Tom Clumsy]

in my home country I've been paying for sex since 2006 when I first got employment

the problem there is that hoes would fleece you as much as they can before letting your dick in. Which makes Japan a really great place for the mongering hobby. If you paid for thirty minutes, you get thirty minutes, and you pay nothing more.

 

[meiji]

the problem there is that hoes would fleece you as much as they can before letting your dick in.

This is why I only see providers that are well reviewed. Ignoring the big head and letting your small head lead the way is just asking to get taken advantage of.

My story is that I started in the hobby many moons ago when I got stabbed in the back by someone I really cared about, and decided to just have some mindless anonymous sex for a while. I can't remember why I went looking for it, but I found a hobby board called ASPD (now defunct) and read everything I could about the hobby and the proper 'steps' for a session in the hobby. There's a surprising number of full-service asian massage parlors (or AAMPs) in just about every major city in the US. I was on a road trip visiting a friend and had read about this spinner Vietnamese chick, so I stopped at her parlor on my way out of town. She wasn't there, but the girl that met me at the door was attractive enough, so I ended up doing the session anyway. My next few sessions once I got home were with some smoking-hot providers, so I was hooked.

I eventually got to meet the spinner Viet chick a few times- it wasn't anywhere near GFE, but she was cute with a killer body that rocked my world in doggie style, so I remember my time with her as some of my favorite sessions ever. I went back to see her fairly recently (5 years or so later) - she's still working at the same shop, still looks pretty good in doggie style, but has gained about 10-15 lbs or so.

 

[User#6326]

I want to sleep with attractive women who are incredible in bed (said every man ever)

 

[User#6326]

Bah don't seem to be able to delete that useless comment, after further thought, for me I think its about reclaiming my sexual identity after a finding myself single again after a long time.. But doing so without the emotional complexity of more traditional routes

 

[john.smith]

Started last month, I am soon in my thirties and was virgin.
I'm very attracted to japanese girl, found this forum candidly by searching about "my little poney" on google, and you made me understand that in Japan having sex is relatively safe if you stick to reviewed places.

I did not plan to go during my trip, but because where I live prostitution is illegal, and I won't travel a lot in the following years I said "fuck it, I'll want all my fantasies come true before coming back home, and I don't want to be embarrassed by total inexperience when I'll get my first gf".
So I will enjoy all the experiences I missed my 10 last years while I can and get too busy !

In any case, even if I had a gf, P4P was one of my fantasy, so better doing it now while I can freely. (well... except if I find a gf who is fine to go with me though)

There is an old saying who says that
-teenagers have time and energy but no money
-adults have money and energy but no time
-seniors have money and time but no energy

It seems I am now in the perfect spot where I have time, money, and energy, but it won't last long.

 

[ShibaKen]

Started last month, I am soon in my thirties and was virgin.
I'm very attracted to japanese girl, found this forum candidly by searching about "my little poney" on google, and you made me understand that in Japan having sex is relatively safe if you stick to reviewed places.

I did not plan to go during my trip, but because where I live prostitution is illegal, and I won't travel a lot in the following years I said "fuck it, I'll want all my fantasies come true before coming back home, and I don't want to be embarrassed by total inexperience when I'll get my first gf".
So I will enjoy all the experiences I missed my 10 last years while I can and get too busy !

In any case, even if I had a gf, P4P was one of my fantasy, so better doing it now while I can freely. (well... except if I find a gf who is fine to go with me though)

There is an old saying who says that
-teenagers have time and energy but no money
-adults have money and energy but no time
-seniors have money and time but no energy

It seems I am now in the perfect spot where I have time, money, and energy, but it won't last long.

I'm actually in a very similar situation to you although a little different. Virgin, going to be 30 soon(although I'm more around the mids 20s), fugly and am incredibly attracted to beautiful Japanese women. I'm about to face huge massive changes in my life very very soon, moving to another country and will soon not only have money issues but also time issues. And as somebody who has always had a thing for Japan and Japanese girls, wanted to let loose and enjoy while I still can right now with Japanese girls. I actually started 2 years ago and never actually thought of losing my virginity to P4P and only wanted to experience everything else as safely as possible(CBJs, HJs, Kissing, Groping and etc) except actual intercourse but like you I said "Fuck it! it's now or never. You're never going to get another chance with a gorgeous Japanese girl if you don't do it now considering you're financial status, appearance and work commitments." and went ahead and did it just this past week. YOLO is really the motto I live by right now although I still think twice before doing anything stupid that would get me killed. I mean there's no guarantee that I will get a pretty Japanese girlfriend or even marry one in the near or foreseeable future, so this is my only chance to experience intimate and sexual situations with one.

The only problem with me is that I always grow emotionally attached and invested in the providers I like and it always pains me when I have to finally return home. I can't help it. I mean, I lost my first kiss to a girl at an oppai pub and my virginity to a girl who works at a Soapland and these are things I hold in high regard and as such remember these moments very vividly. I guess it due to the fact that I've never actually been in relationship with a girl on my life. I'm glad I got to lived out some of my fantasies although there are still some on that checklist that will probably never get done. Ah well...

 

[john.smith]

I actually started 2 years ago and never actually thought of losing my virginity to P4P and only wanted to experience everything else as safely as possible(CBJs, HJs, Kissing, Groping and etc) except actual intercourse but like you I said "Fuck it! it's now or never. You're never going to get another chance with a gorgeous Japanese girl if you don't do it now considering you're financial status, appearance and work commitments." and went ahead and did it just this past week.

I am confused, did you started 2 years about or past week ?

The only problem with me is that I always grow emotionally attached and invested in the providers I like and it always pains me when I have to finally return home.

So you started mongering 2 years ago ? You mean you fall in love with your providers, or just that you would be sad if you stop seeing her ?
I expect escorts who get a well known regular will feel the same kind of void the day he stops mongering. It is a kind of normal thing that would happen with anybody you know long enough to appreciate.
For the two women I P4P, I want to see them again because they are awesome (I always feel lucky !), but I don't think about it as being emotional attachment. I would feel the same about meeting a new man friend with the same interest as me in a bar.

In any case I again crossed one in my to-do list today : First massage ! (+ bonus with HJ, just made a review, CELEBRATION !)

 

[ShibaKen]

I am confused, did you started 2 years about or past week ?

Sorry if I wasn't clear. I started 2 years ago when I went to Tokyo for about 2 weeks. However, back then, I was only curious and was never once interested in losing my virginity. I only wanted to try out certain things like CBJs, kissing, boob fondling and etc. things I've never experienced before and like you in some regard, were my firsts. First kiss, first BJ(covered as I was extremely cautious and still am actually), first time time touching a woman's boobs. However, just this past week, I decided to just lose it as it was my only chance left to. If I hadn't, I would've probably regretted it for the rest of my life.

So you started mongering 2 years ago ? You mean you fall in love with your providers, or just that you would be sad if you stop seeing her ?
I expect escorts who get a well known regular will feel the same kind of void the day he stops mongering. It is a kind of normal thing that would happen with anybody you know long enough to appreciate.
For the two women I P4P, I want to see them again because they are awesome (I always feel lucky !), but I don't think about it as being emotional attachment. I would feel the same about meeting a new man friend with the same interest as me in a bar.

In any case I again crossed one in my to-do list today : First massage ! (+ bonus with HJ, just made a review, CELEBRATION !)

I don't really know how to explain that feeling. I wouldn't say I fall in love with my providers(then again it really could be that although I'm really unsure of my feelings as well) but I just can't get the ones I really shared an intimate moment with out of my head. You could say the ones that give that sort of GFE and you connect with when having conversations. And as somebody who hasn't had any romantic relationship with a girl, I kind of latch on to that and somehow just get emotionally attached to the girls. I really miss them and would like to see them again, talk to them again and not necessarily for the sexual act(that really is just a plus) itself but more so for that personal connection or what some would call manufactured love. So I guess maybe I do end up having feelings for them but arghh.. it's so hard to explain... :/ I think I would probably be broke if I were to visit kyabakuras haha

In short, doing P4P in Tokyo is the closest I've ever been to girls. I don't really even have any female friends to speak off and that could be one of the reasons why. Could also be because I'm somebody who romanticizes a lot.

 

[FanBoy74]

I was a sailor in Thailand.... Made it out free and clear (DDF). And been on and off since. Japan is easily one of the best places for PFP.

 

[john.smith]

Sorry if I wasn't clear. I started 2 years ago when I went to Tokyo for about 2 weeks. However, back then, I was only curious and was never once interested in losing my virginity. I only wanted to try out certain things like CBJs, kissing, boob fondling and etc. things I've never experienced before and like you in some regard, were my firsts. First kiss, first BJ(covered as I was extremely cautious and still am actually), first time time touching a woman's boobs. However, just this past week, I decided to just lose it as it was my only chance left to. If I hadn't, I would've probably regretted it for the rest of my life.

Surprised that for you CBJ and FS was so different !
Anyway congratulation !

In short, doing P4P in Tokyo is the closest I've ever been to girls. I don't really even have any female friends to speak off and that could be one of the reasons why. Could also be because I'm somebody who romanticizes a lot.

I don't know if P4P is the best for you, maybe you should try dating. I mean if what you want is a relationship, romanticizing on your provider won't help a lot.

 

[DJV]

@ShibaKen : you said a few times that you are fugly, and it seems an important factor in your path leading to P4P.
Regardless of P4P and its pleasures, I wonder : do you think like you're kind of doomed to stay fugly ? Because this can evolve, you can work on/create your own style and access to enough self confidence.
Lots of savvy people could help you on that part and this should be worth trying.

Back on topic :
I started P4P as a way to spend quality time with stunning ladies.
It turns out that now it's a nice part of my life, bringing me entertainment and adventure.
I discovered much about myself, complex relationships in general, desires and the way they are shaped by society.
I met/read the nicest people including some on this board.

 

[ShibaKen]

Surprised that for you CBJ and FS was so different !
Anyway congratulation !

Thank you. Yea I see them pretty differently but that's just me personally. XD

I don't know if P4P is the best for you, maybe you should try dating. I mean if what you want is a relationship, romanticizing on your provider won't help a lot.

You're probably right. I would love to date or try dating but have no idea or the confidence how to. I don't have any female friends, most of my close friends have little to no female friends either so meeting girls through introductions is tough for me. Approaching strangers on the streets also seems like a weird move to make and considering my appearance, I doubt I'll have much luck there either. So the only way would be through online sites I guess but I've heard plenty of bad things on there so I'm really hesitant to try it either. I would love to try and date a Japanese girl, have actually been studying a lot more Japanese just so I can communicate better with locals and P4P providers, but I have absolutely no idea where to start. Not to mention, it would kind of require me to be in Japan which I can't right now or anytime soon. It's a fantasy I'll probably never get fulfilled.

you said a few times that you are fugly, and it seems an important factor in your path leading to P4P.
Regardless of P4P and its pleasures, I wonder : do you think like you're kind of doomed to stay fugly ? Because this can evolve, you can work on/create your own style and access to enough self confidence.
Lots of savvy people could help you on that part and this should be worth trying.

Thank you for the reply and I think you hit the nail on the head. I do sort of think that way and I have pretty low self esteem and confidence. It also doesn't help that I was born with poor genes, have poor social skills as well and don't have a single female friend. Most of my female acquaintances are from high school but I rarely if ever even talk to them online via social networking sites. I wish I could be more positive and confident but I guess it's just a psychological problem of mine. TBH there was a time where I thought nothing of it and that it would do be better to concentrate on my studies, career and then try to become successful before entering into the world of romance and relationships but these days I'm slowly thinking otherwise.
Another important factor for me turning to P4P, especially in Japan, is the fact that it's the only way I'd ever get to spend such intimate and time with Japanese girls and I won't lie in saying that I'm really attracted to beautiful Japanese girls for some reason. One of my fantasies is to date and be in a relationship with one but I don't see that happening anytime soon, at least not in the foreseeable future. I'm entering a very important and critical phase in my life right now where it's going to be extremely difficult for me to travel to Japan anytime soon. Add the problem of being a guy who has poor social skills and has low self esteem and I'm just not sure if I'll get anywhere.

 

[john.smith]

I thought nothing of it and that it would do be better to concentrate on my studies, career and then try to become successful before entering into the world of romance and relationships but these days I'm slowly thinking otherwise

Well, on my case, as you, if I would have concentrated on relationship instead of studies and career I won't be on this forum today. This is not something I regret, I still prefer my life than friends's one who are married, have kids and a house. (I love my work too much ! I can talk about it all day with a provider and forget about sex)

Now if you want a change, you should start moving the wheel slowly, if you don't you'll have soon a burnout, been there and it is not pretty either. (I never had a relationship, however I can say that when you want a change but keep your head in work, it always finish in a burnout)
That said I am also shy, but if I would want a relationship, I guess I'll try all the online dating site / meetup mentioned on TAG at once and date lots of girl without expecting anything except training my social skills. I would be freaking stressed, but after a full week doing only that I would expect to start liking it.

 

[User#6326]

You guys need to go on a journey

I am ugly
I have low self esteem
I am not someone a girl would want to be with

This is not helping you.. You need to do the things which let you feel good about yourself

For me, its eating well, not drinking, exercise every day, buy clothes that fit well, be really conscious of my posture/ body language, skin care, use some hair gel

I made this change quite recently and the way people react to me has completely changed

Many men don't bother with this kind of self care.. Now I do and it sends a message "I am someone worth caring about".. People react to this.. I don't even have to do anything except be myself

You know what you need to do, stop settling and stay strong /fistbump

 

[ShibaKen]

@danthrope

Sorry for all the negativity. I guess I just haven't found my way. I've never really been somebody who's been all too confident or active so it's hard for me to imagine myself changing so quickly. Baby steps I guess. I also think you pretty much hit the nail on the head about my body language/posture. For some reason, I always slouch. Really need to get rid of that bad habit but it's hard.

 

[john.smith]

You should check out some "Napoleon Hills" classics, it may help.

 

[User#6326]

@danthrope

Sorry for all the negativity. I guess I just haven't found my way. I've never really been somebody who's been all too confident or active so it's hard for me to imagine myself changing so quickly. Baby steps I guess. I also think you pretty much hit the nail on the head about my body language/posture. For some reason, I always slouch. Really need to get rid of that bad habit but it's hard.

"I've never really been somebody who's been all too confident or active"

You just never chose to be, take responsibility for yourself, life is a one way trip!

 

[Exnocomment]

So necro-thread revive but I'm bored tonight and have newly discovered this particular community so let's share and see what pops up!

How I Started: I was simply busy, bored and horny - in that order.

I think the first time was in Amsterdam after a business trip many many many years ago. I had maybe 12 hours left in the city before I was flying back out again (single day trip, yikes) I had the option of spending a few hours at various bars in the city, calling up some local friends to try to get them moving on some nightlife or, well, a trip down to the red light district for a sure thing?

I work terribly hard and travel a ton. I'd like to say that when properly attired and rested, I am moderately attractive and charming, financially successful, but oh so freakin' busy! So out of initial curiousity, I strolled down to De Wallen, found a looker and..

IT WAS AWFUL. UTTERLY TERRIBLE.

It was a dreary wet day. I got soaked by a sudden downpour. The room was cramped and gaudy, no privacy, no glamour, all business. For anyone that has been there, the girls stand in windowed rooms and beckon passers by, the deed itself, is done in that same little room or a small one a few steps away. It is a cheap, mechanical and cold impersonal business. My level of arousal plummeted to zero, I couldn't keep it up oops and just wanted to leave..

I ended up staying and spending around two hours with her, just talking, cuddling, fascinated by her as a person. Her story, if it was a real one, was interesting and, she as a person was beguiling and my attraction slowly returned, but ended up leaving with a light kiss and wishing each other well. I never saw her again nor have ever gone looking for her. I finished the night at the hotel bar entertaining two girls over from the UK for business.

In time I've come to the realization I really do like "persons" for who they are.. But "people" irritate me frequently. By profession and habit, I am fiercely independent, critical and solutions oriented and, did I say, busy? So I have a strict teacher's patience .. I invest time very selectively in people and relationships. I mentor some people so they can learn, if they can't or won't, then I have no time for them. I am gracious and kind and, well, kind of flawed. I'm incredibly intellectually curious, I'm fascinated by people, places, things, experiences.. But quickly move from one topic to another, I get bored easily, I guess movie plots within the first few minutes, mysteries are usually quite boring, I can't stand indecisiveness and weak characters. I get immense amounts of pleasure by experiencing the giving of - joy and pleasure, whether physical or emotional. One of my best dates was dinner, the symphony and a sky suite with a city view. Another was largely 3 hours of mainly giving vs. receiving. I love sharing experiences. I have yet to take a date on a trip, the logistics and potential pitfalls are astounding, but the idea is pleasant.

I love meeting new people .. I fall in love again and again, usually for an hour at a time, sometimes two or three. I love hosting dinners and being hosted over by friends, I make a killer risotto, I sit at the bar to dine when I can and I love talking to strangers.

And, oh, I am semi-frequently.. Busy, bored and horny - in that order

 

[Frenchy]

I had stopped doing it with my wife, with whom it was never great to start with. We married for all the wrong reasons. I thought hey it took me some real efforts to become who I am so I'd better enjoy it before I'm dead. That's about it.

Would be interested to know how/why the ladies here came into P4P.

 

[TheScientist]

The first must have been in NYC in the early 90s. I was between girlfriends at the time. Saw an ad in the Village Voice which didn't even really pretend to be an AMP but clearly offered service from asian women. Called the number, got an address (somewhere below Midtown Manhattan?) and when I got there I waited in the lobby room with other guys until they called my turn. The madam read me a price list and I went with some option and was presented with a slightly thick chinese girl with reasonably big breasts and long hair. Ended up with CBJ which was not all that awesome but it was kind of "mission accomplished" anyway.

 

[Frenchy]

Funny, as I read this I'm listening to Pulp's "Do you remember the first time?" (I can't remember a worst time)

 

[hkAlone]

The origin? I was 18 yo (more than twenty years ago). I was a complete geek, virgin, with absolutely no confidence with women... but still a quite strong sex drive. There was no internet then but in France we were using an archaic kind of internet network called "minitel". I found after a few "online" messages a local escort accepting my money (I was making some decent money then programming stuff in freelance for small businesses). Not really an awesome experience. I remember how nervous I was and my inability to climax.
Why did I do it then ? I guess my sexual desires were quite strong and it seemed the easiest way to deal with them. The reasons why I'm seeing escorts nowadays are quite different.