J-Mail/MintJ Experience

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So saw a recent post on title of my post and went down the rabbit hole of deai cafe Kirari. Didn't end up really finding any that caught my interest and never figured out where I could go. While digging around I found an older post for mintj. So I dug into it.

So decided to post this and share my experience and what I thought it was. Since the last post I could find on it was 2017. It was a very detailed post I do not write as well as him. So here goes.

So to me mintj is kinda like the old school internet message boards for the purpose of dating. Supposedly it allows normal and adult dating. Reality was there seemed to be much more focus on adults which is good. Though unfortunately unlike the older ones it isn't free to message people. You have to purchase points to able message a other people.

So I purchased some points and dove into the message board. I will also add I striaght used Google translate for everything. It worked pretty well. Right off the bat several of the girls who's posts I answered came right back with offers bjs and dating as adults for about 10000 to 15000 yen. Had one or two offer car dates. Which was super interesting to me. A few who wanted me to come to some random hotel.

So I started talking to two girls who were local to me. ( I will add you spend points for every message) so it's best to arrange the meetings or move to Line or telegram as fast possible. Also if you want to view any pictures you have to use points. I also never even bothered asking for pictures I was playing by ear. Neither of the girls actually asked me for money up front. They both kinda flirted and asked to meet, one at her own place other one wanted to meet in public.

So I set up dates with both. Well as soon as I showed up lol they both requested money. I was like damn it I thought this was a hook up. They were both average looking one was a little chubby so when they both asked for 15000 I was like sure. So far after two dates and talking to multiple girls haven't met someone who didn't want money. The service from both actually wasn't bad for the price. One actually gave me a mini soapland experience. Didn't rush me or anything. Though you'll generally only get one pop unless you add more money.

Basically to me it seems to be a cheaper version of paters. Supposedly there are girls who use it who don't want money haven't found one yet though. For me being out in Tachikawa/Hachioji area there were plenty of options. For me this is kinda my back up if I don't feel like going deeper into Tokyo.
 
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This doesn't talk about actual dating cafes like Kirari. I renamed the title to make more sense. (also moved out of Q&A to correct sub-section)
when they both asked for 150000
Damn, you got some deep pockets lol.
 
This doesn't talk about actual dating cafes like Kirari. I renamed the title to make more sense. (also moved out of Q&A to correct sub-section)

Damn, you got some deep pockets lol.
Thank you sorry for the confusion. Lol I corrected it 15000 yen. I unfortunately have never been at good proof reading and catching my own mistakes. Buy yeah no way would I have paid close to that for any of the girls I met so far.
 
J-Mail is a cesspool of scams and sakura and is best avoided unless you want to waste a lot of money paying for messages that don't lead to anything.
 
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J-Mail is a cesspool of scams and sakura and is best avoided unless you want to waste a lot of money paying for messages that don't lead to anything.
Adding Wakuwaku Mail, Happy Mail, and PCMAX for the most commonly used "mail" sites. They're best avoided, but they're not inherently scams. The more nefarious sites (Firstmail, among many) are outright robberies and actual scam operations.
 
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J-Mail is a cesspool of scams and sakura and is best avoided unless you want to waste a lot of money paying for messages that don't lead to anything.
Dunno it's works fine for me have even met two non pro girls so far that I didn't pay anything for. Truthfully it all comes down to what you consider a waste of money. I drop about 10000 yen into it about 70 US. I can usually meet about 5 to 6 pure escort girls for that. I can also find maybe 2 to 3 normal girls as well. So to me that's not really a waste of money.
 
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Dunno it's works fine for me have even met two non pro girls so far that I didn't pay anything for. Truthfully it all comes down to what you consider a waste of money. I drop about 10000 yen into it about 70 US. I can usually meet about 5 to 6 pure escort girls for that. I can also find maybe 2 to 3 normal girls as well. So to me that's not really a waste of money.
Maybe in the past this was true, but after experimenting with Jmail for about 2 weeks, heres what ive discovered:
2 real women that only wanted to chat because their lonely and had no real interest in meeting or anything more than Chatting at all. (Time wasters, strangely enough they were both Half J/Half C)
6 women that accused me of being rude, when i said that their asking me for compensation made me uneasy (Lame Sakura)
5 Women that asked for money at the last minute as we were on our way to meet up or immediatly after meeting up (DATE & SWITCH Sakura) i walked away from all because dishonesty is a HUGE turn off for me and only 1 matched their pic.
30 BOTS/SCAMMERS
8 Pic/email collectors
10 maybee real women that split as soon as i mentioned i was a foreigner (Racist/Xenophobe)
0 Cool people that legit just wanted to m,eet for a drink and have some friendly fun.

This is all in an around Tokyo 23 Wards.
For the amount of time, energy and money that was sunk into this experiment, I could have just went to Sugamo and had 2 or 3 guaranteed fun experiences (variable because sometimes you just get a stinker) and a wehole Lotta fresh made creame cheese Anpan ;P.

I guess i'll leave my profile up and if somehow a real women finds it and likes what i wrote and contacts me ill report back, but don't hold your breath. i certainly wont be holding mine.
 
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Everyone has their preferences.. If any particular girl doesn't want to meet a foreigner, that doesn't mean she is a Racist or a Xenophobe.
While technically true, my overwhelming experience not just with women in dating services but in everyday life conversations in both friend circles and random acquaintances is that there is alot more xenophobia and racism going on than you would ever imagine. Get them a little bit drunk or out of their own element and you see it bubble up & out.. I may be extremely sensitive to it but the number of times i've heard pure blooded Japanese people make both ignorant, racist and xenophobic comments that i wouldn't even repeat is staggering. So maybe I'm generalizing a bit. Your results may very, overall I find it to be a lot more prevalent and noticeable the longer i stay here.
 
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While technically true, my overwhelming experience not just with women in dating services but in everyday life conversations in both friend circles and random acquaintances is that there is alot more xenophobia and racism going on than you would ever imagine. Get them a little bit drunk or out of their own element and you see it bubble up & out.. I may be extremely sensitive to it but the number of times i've heard pure blooded Japanese people make both ignorant, racist and xenophobic comments that i wouldn't even repeat is staggering. So maybe I'm generalizing a bit. Your results may very, overall I find it to be a lot more prevalent and noticeable the longer i stay here.
I lived and worked in Tokyo for more than 10 years. I also maintain various connections to Japan. I have a realistic and accurate picture of Japan.
 
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So maybe I'm generalizing a bit.
Ya think?

As the old saying goes, if you ran into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.

If you're running into a constant stream of racism, you're either eliciting it in conversation or you're actively seeking it out, because it's most certainly not the norm here.
 
To be fair it's probably more xenophobia, or radical nationalism, and then occasionally racism, but as Im a "no escaping it white guy" it's often felt in very minor ways. It's not just me that pics up on it either, or me thats subjected to it. Often times I overhear japanese folks who have no idea I can understand a bit of what thier saying go off about Koreans, or Chinese, or Indians, or Nigerians, or Jews or .. the list goes on.. like really it's.. oh and I am fully ok with being the asshole. But that's not what I'm talking about here.
 
Maybe in the past this was true, but after experimenting with Jmail for about 2 weeks, heres what ive discovered:
2 real women that only wanted to chat because their lonely and had no real interest in meeting or anything more than Chatting at all. (Time wasters, strangely enough they were both Half J/Half C)
6 women that accused me of being rude, when i said that their asking me for compensation made me uneasy (Lame Sakura)
5 Women that asked for money at the last minute as we were on our way to meet up or immediatly after meeting up (DATE & SWITCH Sakura) i walked away from all because dishonesty is a HUGE turn off for me and only 1 matched their pic.
30 BOTS/SCAMMERS
8 Pic/email collectors
10 maybee real women that split as soon as i mentioned i was a foreigner (Racist/Xenophobe)
0 Cool people that legit just wanted to m,eet for a drink and have some friendly fun.

This is all in an around Tokyo 23 Wards.
For the amount of time, energy and money that was sunk into this experiment, I could have just went to Sugamo and had 2 or 3 guaranteed fun experiences (variable because sometimes you just get a stinker) and a wehole Lotta fresh made creame cheese Anpan ;P.

I guess i'll leave my profile up and if somehow a real women finds it and likes what i wrote and contacts me ill report back, but don't hold your breath. i certainly wont be holding mine.
Honestly that seems pretty accurate, the only thing I have found is time and learning how people post has helped. Mostly I use mint for kinky experiences. You'll find random girls wanting to have car sex and outdoor sex or just a complete random encounter. But they post real fast and usually delete it pretty quick so it comes down to lucky timing. Plus in most cases you have to be able to act fast. I compare this to craigslist back in the day. Except you've got to pay. It's a side hustle for me I now have married girl I see like once week. It's litterly a pump and dump but that's what she wanted so it works for me.
 
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Often times I overhear japanese folks who have no idea I can understand a bit of what thier saying go off about Koreans, or Chinese, or Indians, or Nigerians, or Jews or .. the list goes on.. like really it's..
You can understand "a bit". So you're assuming when you hear someone mention China or Korea that they're being racist - without understanding the context or content of what's actually being said. And I can't remember the last time I heard a Japanese person talk about "Jews". Israel maybe if it's been in the news, but I honestly have had to explain to taxi drivers what the pro-Palestine protests near a station were about.

You're taking a small snippet of something you overheard and understood maybe 5% of, and spinning it into some fantasy about how racist everyone is here. Look back on this once you actually learn to understand Japanese and you're going to be embarrassed for your past.
 
You can understand "a bit". So you're assuming when you hear someone mention China or Korea that they're being racist - without understanding the context or content of what's actually being said. And I can't remember the last time I heard a Japanese person talk about "Jews". Israel maybe if it's been in the news, but I honestly have had to explain to taxi drivers what the pro-Palestine protests near a station were about.

You're taking a small snippet of something you overheard and understood maybe 5% of, and spinning it into some fantasy about how racist everyone is here. Look back on this once you actually learn to understand Japanese and you're going to be embarrassed for your past.
I now think it's funny that your making assumptions about what and how much I understand. As I said before I'm not the only one experiencing this. Quit being an aplologist for situations you have not personally been in. I am offten with multiple native 100% fluent language speakers who generally become embarrassed by what we collectively overhear. And I literally had someone tell me that they hated Jews and that the Jews were the cause of all Japan's problems like 3 days ago so sorry but you're just wrong here. Maybe it's where I live? I don't effin know at this point but I know that what I overhear is real and I know the context of what I overhear and see how other foreigners are treated as well. No amount of gaslighting by someone who has no clue who I am or what I know is going to make any difference. So maybe you should just shut it and let it go..
 
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What assumption? Your own words...
Your Assumptions:
"that they're being racist - without understanding the context or content of what's actually being said"
"You're taking a small snippet of something you overheard and understood maybe 5% of, and spinning it into some fantasy about how racist everyone is here."

You assume i understand only 5% of whats being said
You assume that i dont understand context or content or that i could actually be in the company of fluent speakers that don't sugar coat explanations to me.
You assume that i am saying everyone is racist here. I've never said that, ever. that came from your own mind buddy! I did point out the longer ive been here that i've noticed there is more racism here than people realize..
You assume that im spinning whats said based on my... fantasy? Gaslight much?

Your words.. Your assumptions, need i go on? I think rather than making assumptions about me, you might be better off reading up on Racism in Japan. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Racism_in_Japan
a salient excerpt:
"Japan lacks any law which prohibits racial, ethnic, or religious discrimination. The country also has no national human rights institutions.[3] Non-Japanese individuals in Japan often face human rights violations that Japanese citizens may not." My expeirnce has been that this echoes the ethos of some of the population as well. NOT ALL, but certainly some, and more than people realize on the surface (Tourists would never pick up on this, even though some of the Xenophobia is aimed directly at them.)

But anyways, I think we should all just get back to discussing what we came to this form for..
 
Honestly that seems pretty accurate, the only thing I have found is time and learning how people post has helped. Mostly I use mint for kinky experiences. You'll find random girls wanting to have car sex and outdoor sex or just a complete random encounter. But they post real fast and usually delete it pretty quick so it comes down to lucky timing. Plus in most cases you have to be able to act fast. I compare this to craigslist back in the day. Except you've got to pay. It's a side hustle for me I now have married girl I see like once week. It's litterly a pump and dump but that's what she wanted so it works for me.
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