I've tried that but every time they want more time exchanging emails before they would consider meeting me.
Every time?
In my case such girls are like 5~10% of the first contacts and, if they request more exchanges, I simply forget about them and move on. Because these kind of girls are the worst : coward and insecure on too many levels.
On the other side, maybe your profile isn't detailed enough ... which would explain their request.
I have to plead ignorance on this. Where I come from men are expected to pay. My Japanese teacher (I take private lessons once a week) who always tries to fix me up with some of her friends told me it's very important to pay in Japan or else the woman won't even consider seeing you again. I don't know who to believe.
Your Japanese teacher is half right.
From my experience, the bitchy/dumb ones will expect you to pay.
The ones who have some pride and self-esteem simply won't.
Actually, in my case, it's the easiest way to determine what kind of girl she is from the very first date.
Sorry but no free lunch with me.
She earns a salary just like me, she is then supposed to be able to pay for her meal, like any adult.
Even the 19 y.o I dated recently always insisted that she paid her part.
You have to keep in mind that the Japanese men love to pay for everything in order to counterbalance their lack of communication skills.
Not only that, they love to feel superior to their girls. Paternalism rules here.
But fortunately, the girls I date just hate that.
You simply have to find them.
I have passed N3 so I'm in between N3 and N2, meaning not that good but not complete beginner either. I know I would date a woman whose English or French is only intermediate if she seems committed to improving her language skills. I thought some non-English speaking women might give me a chance. Again maybe I'm wrong on this.
Sorry but N3, N2 etc. doesn't mean anything when it comes to real communication in Japanese.
But for sure (I've seen it quite a lot), non english speaking girls who are not too interested in learning English would date a guy like you. Again, you simply have to find them.
I think it's more complicated than that. You get used to some of the stuff but some of it you can't be expected to get used to it, nor should you I think. I once had a date with a girl who wouldn't stop using her cellphone in front of me, like messaging her friends and stuff. I know a lot of Japanese people do that, in fact I often see young couples going on a date and not even looking at each other. Well it may be cultural but I'm sorry, it stinks. I pretended I had to go to the bathroom and left the place. Some things I won't accept.
None of my date never ever dared to play with their phone in front of me during the last 20 years.
It's not considered normal in Japan. It's considered rude here as well.
So, you did the right thing and I would have done the same.
