This was a learning experience for me.
Date #1
I emailed her, and asked her if 5000 yen was ok for a date. We went to Karaoke, and I took her a box of Godiva chocolates with the money inside an envelope in the bag. She seemed genuinely surprised and happy to get the chocolates, and did not open the envelope. We had fun singing for a couple hours, and then it turned into a therapy session. She told me about her life - an abusive father and a string of abusive boyfriends. She had quit her job, and had recently moved out. We went to dinner, and I was impressed that she tried to keep the tab low. Nothing happened during the date; I don't think we even held hands. I walked her to the bus stop, then took the train home, amused that I had had sex with this girl the first time we met, and that the second date would be so uneventful. Still, I had spent the whole day with an attractive girl. She emailed me, thanked me, and told me that she was surprised to find the money inside. She had just expected me to pay for karaoke and dinner. I wondered if I would hear from her again, and how far I wanted to get involved.
Date #2
Several days later, she emailed me again. She wanted me to spend the night at her place. No mention of money. I took her flowers, but I wasn't quite sure what to expect. I wasn't really interested in being the friend / free meal guy. She was wearing a loose shirt, low neckline, and no bra, but wasn't coming on to me. Red Flag #1 - which I ignored foolishly- she told me she found some guy through a dating site to pay for her apartment and all her living expenses, but was basically stringing him along and giving him nothing in return. She had no savings and the guy was going to take her apartment away. She was desperate for money. I got the hint - I offered her 20k for the night. Long story short - she took the money and pulled the dead fish routine. I was so disgusted I wanted to leave that night, but her place was in the middle of nowhere, so I had to wait till morning.
I know this may be very controversial, but many Japanese women are often terribly bad at sex and doing the dead fish routine is common. Many Japanese guys (clearly not all) are intimated by female sexuality and seem to like this dead fish behavior.
Many foolish Japanese women seem to think ALL guys want sex in this style, and they get so used to this habit, that's it's hard for them to break it. Now with some Japanese women, it's an act, and they will do a different style if you tell them to. But the guy has to be keen on telling them to do differently.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying all Japanese women play dead fish, because some of the BEST and wildest sex that I had was with Japanese women. And on the swinger side, I've seen Japanese women like literally going into a sexual trance, do 10 guys in a row, and every hole (including anal).
While I had the best sex with Japanese women, also the WORSE sex has been with them too. Bad at BJs, bad at hand jobs, clumsy, awkward, clueless about sex, not flexible and bad at opening her legs, to stiff, acting childish/immature, stubborn, etc...
But what I'm saying is, there is this amazing dichotomy between the 2 different styles among Japanese women that I have NEVER seen among any other nationality of women or with Western women.
Sex with Japanese women can be fantastic, as many are more willing to do whatever their guy asks. A complete and TOTAL commitment to sex that many Western women don't have. These Japanese women that I encountered also tended to be more athletic and physical types, versus a more soft and fragile acting type.
On one hand, playing dead fish, then on the other side there is insatiable anything goes sex. There is average sex, but I mean there is a very wide range, with way too many Japanese women at the BOTTOM of the spectrum.
AND I have almost NEVER seen good wild sex from P4P women in Japan. I can count awesome P4P women on 1 hand. At best, P4P women being average and then many P4P being amazingly horrible to the extent it feels completely not worth it or being cheated. If you are guy that is a quick in and done (wham bam thank you ma'am), maybe dead fish is cool. It just seemed so weird to me that PRO women that do sex for a living, can have so many that are horrible and with no skills. Like damn, at least WATCH a Western porn and get a CLUE about how to do it. A woman should have at least some skills in what she is doing for a living or often.
