@Wwanderer thank you very much for your answer, and telling me about all this !
No problem...you are welcome.
Just a few more questions...
How do i get a private dance? Do i have to ask or will it be proposed by the dancer?
The dancer will offer a private dance at some point and tell you how much they cost (JPY7000 per song probably); she might do it immediately when she sits down with you, or she might make small talk, flirt, get you to buy her very overpriced drinks (on which she gets a kick-back of course) etc for a while, maybe even an hour, before mentioning it. Anyway, you are free to bring it up yourself with either the dancer or with one of the floor managers who will seat you. It is not at all a sensitive topic, just one of the standard services the clubs offer.
You might, however, want to talk to a floor guy before he brings a dancer to sit with you about wanting a dancer who would be comfortable giving you and your gf jointly a private dance and also try to negotiate to not be charged double for the dances simply because both of you will be in the private dance space. I have taken a lot of women/gf's to strip clubs and had private dance with them, and the clubs will usually agree to just charge the normal (already sky high by international standards) rate, especially if you give the impression that you otherwise won't be buying any dances.
Btw, in most Tokyo clubs the manager brings the dancer to you based on some queue systems, i.e., you get whichever dancer is next in line for a customer, but you can ask the manager for any specific dancer you want or tell him that you'd rather "just watch" for a while and then invite a dancer to join you or basically whatever you want. If you and your date want to soak in the scene at the club and watch the stage dances (which are often pretty damn lame), you are probably better off waiting a while before having a dancer join you.
Same for The handjob, does it have to be suggested?
I guess my question is, should i be straightforward and ask for what i want? I might be a bit shy for that!
I don't have a good answer for that; it has been a loooooong time since I went to a strip club looking to get off. But it is definitely not one of the services openly offered by the club/dancers, and my *instinct* is that it would be counter-productive to directly ask a dancer or floor guy about a HJ off the bat and in the open club. I'd suggest mentioning it only after you are in the private room and have already bought a few dances. I'd offer a tip (maybe 10,000 or 20, 000 yen?) and imply that you're ready to stop the string of private dances at that point if she doesn't go for the deal. But again, this is just what sounds/feels like the right way to go about it to me, but I can't say how likely it is to work...just haven't tried such a thing myself in a long long time, probably never in Japan. I have, lots of times, been offered HJs and more in club private dance rooms, but I don't accept such offers and usually counter by asking her to meet me outside the club and go to a hotel where we can get it on comfortably if I like her (and if I don't I wouldn't be in the private dance room with her long enough to receive such an offer).
It *might* be helpful to mention to the floor guy that you'd like a dancer who is comfortable with "a lot of touching" or something like that and slip him a tip when you ask; that might get you one of the more permissive dancers...again just my guess.
Btw, if she does agree to give you a HJ, you can expect her to try to draw it out for as long as possible since you will have to keep paying for more songs in the room until you get off. If you aren't able to cum pretty fast, it could get seriously expensive.
I guess i should also ask for an english speaking girl!!?
Pretty much all of the dancers speak at least minimal English (in these gaijin-style strip clubs), and if you go in speaking only English and being obviously non-Japanese, they are not going to bring you an non-English speaking dancer. I.e., probably not necessary to ask. But it won't hurt. And you might want to ask for one who speaks English well or something like that... Not a big issue I'd guess.
Also, going to a bj bar like hinomaru doesn't seem like a good idea, right? Would they even let us in? As i dont speak japanese, i could not explain my gf would just watch - that wouldnt help, i guess...
I haven't been to one of those places in years and years and years; others here can answer much better. However, if a couple were allowed in, I'd be really surprised, and if a non-Japanese speaking couple got in, I'd be shocked. Imo, you'd be wasting your time trying to go that route. However, as noted, my opinion is not particularly well or recently informed, and others here would know better.
Last question, which club would you recommend? 7th? Tantra? What are these less famous places you're talking about?
Of the two, I'd go to Tantra probably...but it depends more on the dancer than the club. There are a number of smaller, less posh but often more permissive clubs around Roppongi, same general area as 7th and Tantra. They tend to go in and out of business and change their names a lot, and I lose track of them. There was one called Climax that was *very* permissive, but I am 80% sure it closed a while back. There is one called The Office that I know was open within the last year. There is or was one called Roaring 20s... I can't recall any others off the top of my head, but if you wander around the area you can find them. (But don't go anywhere with one of the touts...who will promise you anything you ask them for and usually deliver something you *definitely* do not want!)
-Ww
