hawaiianhawk
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I guess it depends upon what criteria you use to classify someone as a friend. There was a similar forum before where I mentioned I had made a few friends in Japan only to be told those are not friends, but acquaintances or Japanese people just being friendly. In full disclosure, I visit as a tourist, not someone who lives in Japan. So with regards to Japanese people, I consider them my "friend" if they meet some of the following criteria: 1) always makes time for me when I visit, 2) we do activities together when I'm there whether its lunch/dinner at a restaurant or their homes, taking me sightseeing, shopping, etc. 3) keep in contact with each other frequently even when I'm back home about current events happening in our lives, 4) speak with me about personal issues they are experiencing and want advice: divorce, boyfriend problems, etc. 4) can't wait to see me again and invite me to stay at their homes instead of hotel and 5) send me birthday, holiday, thinking of you cards. So if that's similar to what you are seeking then I would be really friendly/smile all the time, express a sincere interest in Japan and their culture, be confident in yourself and slowly learn the language. I've met many Japanese people who I consider acquaintances this way and 4 lovely women and 2 guys whom I consider friends. And each time I visit, I get introduced to to their friends some of whom remain acquaintances and others who become good friends.