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However, the welfare and peace of mind of the paying customer must also be upheld, in my opinion.
Also, some men are very very straight to the point that they feel grossed out by the idea of being with a very beautiful girl who turned out to be was once a man. It is their preferrence and their choice, not to accept a trans as equal to a woman.
The preferrence and the welfare of the paying customer must be upheld at all times. How he sees is more important than how the trans sees herself.
This is not a matter of discrimination in my opinion.
I have imported the above quote from a post @Ches made in the current thread about t-women doing sex work and about their general gender status and "merit" (a weird word to use imo). I have expressed my views on that general topic in that thread but am starting a new thread on what I see as a separate and much more subtle and tricky issue, one that is important for trans sex workers but also in many other sex work (and casual sex contexts). I think it deserves its own thread.
Let me start out by saying that I disagree with what @Ches says in the above quote and particularly the part which I made bold. Imo how a people see themselves is always more important than how others see them in nearly all contexts. I might add that I am not sure what @Ches means in the above quote where she uses the word "welfare"; I do not see any sense in which the "paying customer's" welfare is in play.
However, despite my disagreement, I think that this is an issue on which rational people could disagree. The basic reason is that important human rights are coming into conflict here (like the cliché of freedom of speech being limited by the rights of others not to be harmed by "hate speech" or false information). Such situations are almost always gray areas filled with slippery slopes.
In this case we are talking about the right of personal privacy (for sex workers) versus the right of people to select their sex partners on the basis of their personal feelings.
Imo, the proper/best resolution of this conflict is in favor of the right to personal privacy, assuming that no one's health or life is being put in jeopardy. In a similar sense, I would give the freedom of speech precedence over a right not to be offended, upset or hurt by something people say, again as long as no one's health or life is being put at risk.
-Ww