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Greetings TAG dwellers! I need an advice from you. I will try to tell my story in short and would like to hear some advice from experienced people here.
So, for last half a year I am dating japanese girl (or woman ). Things were really slow in last year. I constantly had impression that she treats me only as a friend because all my tries to proceed in relationship were awkwardly stopped...
Big turn was on Christmas. After half a year of sporadic dates (at least I was thinking about those meetings as dates) I wanted at last to move to next step i.e. have some sex. Also I know that Christmas in Japan is special day for couples. So I prepared to most of my extent: got some nice french perfumes as present for her, ordered table in nice russian cousin restaurant (cause I am from Ukraine and wanted to treat her with food native for me) not far from her home , got my best clothes etc. Overall time in restaurant was ok but after I volunteered to lead her home I again got awkward refuse... I was in a state "fuck all this shit" but anyway politely gave her prepared present. She was like - "Oh, thank you. Sorry I didn't prepare anything for you". But when I came home and checked facebook I got a lot of thanking messages from her because she opened the present and saw that it was actual good french perfumes (which I actually bought in Paris in brand shop during my business trip there several months before).
Next time we met on January 8 when I wanted to go to Oedo Onsen Monogatari on Odaiba with friends and just casually called her with us. She agreed. Due to some coincidence only I and she were able to come. And when we were there I saw a drastic change in her behavior with me so I decided to give it another try.
One of my friends advised me to call her for some shot trip together where we would share room\bed and there everything will quickly should become clear. So I several days ago I actually have called her for such trip to tennen onsen (which means real natural onsen, not those man made onsen) on long weekend of 10-12 February. She agreed.
Now we arrive to questions part.
- Do I understand her behavior well and I will not end in that super awkward situation when I would try to engage her during our trip and would receive something on level "I thought that we are on tomodachi trip" etc? I really hate such situations because something like that already happened to me once and I was feeling like dumbest person in universe that time.
- So if answer for first question is "Yes, she is ready to have some physical training time with you" then can anybody advice some place with tennen onsen or at least looking like tennen onsen and rooms that have good soundproof walls. Since I do not want anybody to disturb us during asobu time because we are noisy .
So, for last half a year I am dating japanese girl (or woman ). Things were really slow in last year. I constantly had impression that she treats me only as a friend because all my tries to proceed in relationship were awkwardly stopped...
Big turn was on Christmas. After half a year of sporadic dates (at least I was thinking about those meetings as dates) I wanted at last to move to next step i.e. have some sex. Also I know that Christmas in Japan is special day for couples. So I prepared to most of my extent: got some nice french perfumes as present for her, ordered table in nice russian cousin restaurant (cause I am from Ukraine and wanted to treat her with food native for me) not far from her home , got my best clothes etc. Overall time in restaurant was ok but after I volunteered to lead her home I again got awkward refuse... I was in a state "fuck all this shit" but anyway politely gave her prepared present. She was like - "Oh, thank you. Sorry I didn't prepare anything for you". But when I came home and checked facebook I got a lot of thanking messages from her because she opened the present and saw that it was actual good french perfumes (which I actually bought in Paris in brand shop during my business trip there several months before).
Next time we met on January 8 when I wanted to go to Oedo Onsen Monogatari on Odaiba with friends and just casually called her with us. She agreed. Due to some coincidence only I and she were able to come. And when we were there I saw a drastic change in her behavior with me so I decided to give it another try.
One of my friends advised me to call her for some shot trip together where we would share room\bed and there everything will quickly should become clear. So I several days ago I actually have called her for such trip to tennen onsen (which means real natural onsen, not those man made onsen) on long weekend of 10-12 February. She agreed.
Now we arrive to questions part.
- Do I understand her behavior well and I will not end in that super awkward situation when I would try to engage her during our trip and would receive something on level "I thought that we are on tomodachi trip" etc? I really hate such situations because something like that already happened to me once and I was feeling like dumbest person in universe that time.
- So if answer for first question is "Yes, she is ready to have some physical training time with you" then can anybody advice some place with tennen onsen or at least looking like tennen onsen and rooms that have good soundproof walls. Since I do not want anybody to disturb us during asobu time because we are noisy .