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Need someone to love me

Indeed, so the best way to attract females is to get a girlfriend :p. Immediately you don't feel desperate anymore and girls will feel that. Additionally you have been qualified as fit for boyfriend by one girl which leads others to believe you are a good guy.

And yes, I understand that this advice doesn't help at all. :oops:
I thought that too but by hiring a girl as girl friend . But its seems very costly affairs. My company pay me enough to lead a happy life not enough to hire a girlfriend to get a girlfriend :p
 
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I hate to break it to you.. like most said above you gotta first fix yourself. society in general is very vain especialy on first impressions. you need to be physically attractive to some extent. groom yourself, dress well, always be clean shaved, good hygiene etc... the simple things that most people over see. get these basics right and youl realise that its a strong start.

As for activities, get into fitness activities... local gyms or yoga studios have lots of nice women or join adventure groups. if thats not your thing then maybe a cooking class or book club or so... never reek of desperation. girls can smell it a mile away and that reduces your stock. build social capital. all the best!
I do understand patience is the key to success but it like suffering seeing guys less deserving than you is having angel.
 
Funnily enough, the most effective way to attract the attention of women in Japan seems to be to get married.

But in all seriousness, try meetup.com, and get involved in social circles doing things that interest you. You'll meet like-minded people, increase your social network, and overall be less lonely and more content - which in turn makes you more attractive to women.

Yeah, I know slow and steady wins the race but its boring , isn't it . I will try meet.up thanks for suggestion.
 
The more you want something usually the more desperate you seem and the more that repels women. As a woman, I would suggest following the advice of others and focus on working on yourself (mind, body and soul.) Not only with the intent to attract women but to be happy in yourself so you don't feel the NEED for love.

As for causal relationship....there are SO many opportunities for that. Just keep yourself open and expose yourself (not literally ;)) to new experiences and types of people. Let people come to you, if you chase to hard and too soon you'll scare them off.



Owlet, I don't think your example is that helpful in this case, as you are clearly using, (and I hope im wrong here) emotionally manipulating, or at the very least, leading on two women when its quite easy to get laid with out emotionally hurting others and being honest. Sounds like OP looking for actual connection and a relationship. I agree, however that you shouldn't rely on anyone to fix or even complete you. It's just a shame you kinda contradict yourself there a little because, if you'd be happy without them, you'd let them go and they could love someone who would love them back ;).
I do not chase bus and girls. I wanna them to fell on me. But i need a lead, a chance as every one deserve. Lets see.Hope for the best
 
Its almost 3 years I have been to Tokyo, Away from from loved ones its very difficult. Initial days it was fun as i used to call escorts for paid sex . But now I dont enjoy paid sex at all , I feel the need of girlfriend who sleeps with me not only for money.
Please suggest how to find girlfriend in Tokyo, I have tried tinder and other social app but its all waste. Japanese girls are too shy and suspicious to differentiate between genuine guy and con man.

yes, I am an engineer working in Tokyo. I went to international meetup party but its very difficult as male/female ratio is too high. Though I got couple of offers , one I met on metro train, we got down in same station, she gave me her number and I asked her to come my place but she denied as she told that her bf is waiting for her and its too late and then while saying goodbye we hugged n kissed for minutes but I dont know why she never replied to my call.

There are some problems I see with this story... This girl you met on a train kissed/hugged you and gave you her number despite having a boyfriend already. Then she refused to come over to your place and has been ignoring your calls. Hmm, I wonder why? This story is very contradicting assuming it's even true.

Secondly, there's a difference between looking for a "lover" and someone that "sleeps with [you] not only for money." The fact that you were inviting a girl you just met to come over to your place, knowing she has a boyfriend, shows that you were looking for sex without having to spend money from your pocket rather than a "lover."

Also, I have one suggestion. If you're looking for a girlfriend, maybe you should try to meet someone who doesn't already have a boyfriend.
 
I went from 3 long term sexfriends to one lover just by going to a friend's barbecue party.

That sounds like a downgrade to me :p. I must make a note to myself to never go to barbecue parties if they are that dangerous! :D
 
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That sounds like a downgrade to me :p. I must make a note to myself to never go to barbecue parties if they are that dangerous! :D

Believe me, sexfriends ar far more dangerous :)
I got tired of getting tested for STDs so often, and sexfriends tend to fall in love with you anyway.

I agree that diversity was fun though.
 
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I do understand patience is the key to success but it like suffering seeing guys less deserving than you is having angel.

This is why you can't find a girlfriend.
a) You put girls on a pedestal, angel my ass, they are human beings the same as everyone else.
b) "Guys less deserving than you" like wtf, who are you to decide who is more deserving of a girlfriend (like it's a prize that you win if you pass some test)

Look at the "less deserving" guys, try and work out what they have that you don't, why women are attracted to them, but not to you.

Sure, international parties have a high male:female ratio, but most of the males are kinda sad, so it actually makes decent guys look even better in comparison.
 
I got tired of getting tested for STDs so often, and sexfriends tend to fall in love with you anyway.

In Durex We Trust is my motto ;). In the past I got familiar with the second problem but with my current line-up that hasn't materialised. One even casually asked if I'm sleeping with others and when I confessed her only comment was "just always remember to use condoms". :)