Never climaxed from BJ

Kris Black

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Not once in my life. Is it just me, or have I just not met the right woman yet?

I've tried explaining what I think might work to past gfs, and skme have tried until they were blue in the face, but it just doesn't seem to do it for me. I've even tried with a few professionals, but to no avail.

Anyone else have this experience?
 
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There are a few possibilities. It might be a mental thing, or it could be if you've masturbated a lot you could be a bit numb there. But I don't think it's that uncommon.
 
Not once in my life. Is it just me, or have I just not met the right woman yet?

I've tried explaining what I think might work to past gfs, and skme have tried until they were blue in the face, but it just doesn't seem to do it for me. I've even tried with a few professionals, but to no avail.

Anyone else have this experience?
I've only been able to cum a few times from BJ. The same used to hold true for HJ but thanks to some lovely PFP ladies I've found what works for me — a combination of physical and mental. What I've found is that if the girl takes things real slow and gently teases for a long time (physical) and either is (or at least acts like she is) really into it and really wants to make me cum (mental) — that I can cum almost every time.
 
Its rare for me too. But loves it when it happens. Dont fret too much about it, there are worse problems in life! :)
 
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I have been told by a couple of different guys that they don’t cum by bj, it has to be full service or hj.
You are not the only one and I don’t think it is a problem, either. Everyone has a different way to make them cum easiest. Knowing the way is more important.
For me, SOFT oral is often more effective than actual intercourse. Well, sorry if it is TMI.
 
Not once in my life. Is it just me, or have I just not met the right woman yet?

I've tried explaining what I think might work to past gfs, and skme have tried until they were blue in the face, but it just doesn't seem to do it for me. I've even tried with a few professionals, but to no avail.

Anyone else have this experience?
I don't think it's about the right woman and the right technique, I used to have a mental break preventing me from climaxing on BJ too. It's all in the head.
 
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Never been a problem with me but I've definitely heard of guys with the same issue, so don't feel like this is uncommon. Why this is a thing for you might be harder to pinpoint, but being a mental thing or jacking off to porn too often seem to be the most common reason behind it.
 
I have been told by a couple of different guys that they don’t cum by bj, it has to be full service or hj.
You are not the only one and I don’t think it is a problem, either. Everyone has a different way to make them cum easiest. Knowing the way is more important.
For me, SOFT oral is often more effective than actual intercourse. Well, sorry if it is TMI.

That's definitely not TMI on this website!
 
"it's all the head" indeed, haha!

I do tend to have at lest one or two self-sessions a day, so maybe that is affecting the sensitivity. I'd thought that before and tried laying off to see if anything changed, but no such luck. Also, for the record, a whole month of no fapping makes for a messy next month when it's back on.

I've had long-term gfs that were more than willing to put in the effort and tried their damnedest, but it just never seemed to pop off, so to speak. It's not a huge concern of mine, but I guess I was low-key envious of guys who could climax from a solid bj. It certainly makes any bj salons here of little appeal to me, though.
 
"it's all the head" indeed, haha!

I do tend to have at lest one or two self-sessions a day, so maybe that is affecting the sensitivity. I'd thought that before and tried laying off to see if anything changed, but no such luck. Also, for the record, a whole month of no fapping makes for a messy next month when it's back on.

I've had long-term gfs that were more than willing to put in the effort and tried their damnedest, but it just never seemed to pop off, so to speak. It's not a huge concern of mine, but I guess I was low-key envious of guys who could climax from a solid bj. It certainly makes any bj salons here of little appeal to me, though.
Jerking off all the time probably doesnt actually change sensitivity but it does get you in a habit about how to cum.

Also do you enjoy the blowjobs from girlfriends? If so just go with that, Orgasm isnt always the reason for sex play between adults anyway.
 
Jerking off all the time probably doesnt actually change sensitivity but it does get you in a habit about how to cum.

Also do you enjoy the blowjobs from girlfriends? If so just go with that, Orgasm isnt always the reason for sex play between adults anyway.

I do indeed enjoy it. I mean, I've gotten close on occasion and finished with an HJ or by helping things along myself. Was just curious if it was me or if BJs not doing it for other people is a thing, too.
 
Jerking off all the time probably doesnt actually change sensitivity but it does get you in a habit about how to cum.
Unless you jerk off so much that you develop a callus over your penis, I also doubt sensitivity would be the issue. Using the "too much porn" reason as an example, it isn't just constantly jerking off to it that makes it a problem, but that you involuntarily train your body that it needs the visual stimulation of porn or porn like action to climax. But again, this is a mental thing so it doesn't affect everyone the same way or at all.
 
I’m not a guy but I also think it’s more mental than physical. When I give my husband a bj in a traditional sense (regular up and down motion and/or suctions) it will take him longer to cum or I would end up finishing him with a hj. But when I throw in a curve ball and change it up with a little dirty talk, make it super sloppy while deep throating with lots of noises or tell him how I want or is so excited for him to cum in my mouth) he consistently finishes with the bj every single time ;)

But I could see how most men especially the shy or nice guys could have difficulties asking the provider to talk dirty to them due to fear of offending or making her feel uncomfortable.
 
Totally normal. I had never cum from a BJ either until I encountered a current sugar baby. Something about her combination of technique, looks, and how she looks at me during the BJ just finally clicks for me where no one else ever has.

For that matter very few women get me off with a HJ either. I pretty much require FS to get off. That's one of the reasons I prefer independents when visiting Japan rather than the agencies that cater to foreigners since FS is hit or miss there. I'm determined to learn enough Japanese before my next trip to feel comfortable venturing into some of the soaplands and services that aren't targeted specifically at Foreigners.
 
I have, but I realised I can remember each and every time, and wouldn't need all my fingers to count them. I think it needs the right kind of really dirty girl.

As far as HJs go, slower is quicker.
 
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I have never came from a blow job nor even came close. There was one time though where it felt like if I put my mind to it I could have came after a few minutes. I do think it is a mind thing and for me personally I think the reason cumming from a blow job won't happen is because if I am having sex I want to cum from intercourse, or sumata if no FS, because that is the point of sex. I see a blow job as something you get before sex to feel good and get you as hard as can be. One time at [Redacted] it just ended up that our last round was going to finish with a hand job and I had to actively think about having sex with her to make myself cum because once I had sex for the first time a hand job just felt incredibly pointless since I can jack my own dick off. So if you can't cum from a blow job don't sweat it and if you really want to my advice would be keeping thinking about sex and cumming.
 
Everyone has a different way to make them cum easiest. Knowing the way is more important.
For me, SOFT oral is often more effective than actual intercourse. Well, sorry if it is TMI.

Not TMI at all. :) If I ever do get the chance to book a session with you, I hope you'll allow me to do just that.
(and I need lots of practice) ;):D
 
You’re not alone. I can never cum from a bj .... except two occasions , to my surprise. It took a really skillful providers and even then it took loooong time. But their preserverance paid off!
 
This is so interesting. I know all guys are a little different, but it never even occurred to me that a BBBJ wouldn’t do it for a guy and yet so many here.

For me a top quality BBBJ and I will cum in literally less than 5 mins! I usually have to stop her and move to FS with condom to slow it all down. And there was a period there where FS would not do it. But I am past that now and either can work.