Paters and my experience in 2019...

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  1. shammykun

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    Hi All,
    I have used Paters over several months during 2019 and had mixed results, but figured I would share here so others can benefit from my trials and tribulations.

    Sorry if this is not the correct format or if I am missing info. Send a note here and I will try to answer all inquiries. Have fun out there!

    Some background:
    a) I use a few dating apps, including Seeking.com and decided to join Paters from a recommendation from a previous SB.
    b) I read/write/speak/listen Japanese at a fluent level
    c) I have been here for over 20 years and have a very nice life + car (for extra fun mind you!)
    d) I am married and have money to burn, well kind of.

    With that out of the way, here you go, the good, bad and ugly (sometimes the girls or is that me?) Haha.

    Pros:
    1) Better class of girls than the other dating apps, especially SA and almost all Japanese. For better or worse...
    2) Can meet models, gravure, actresses with ease, but may cost you a small bundle.
    3) Site is very easy to use and search and find what you want, both on PC and iPhone (sorry, not an android guy but figure it is the same)
    4) If you use the (meet me now at this location, sorry can't remember the function name), I could meet multiple girls on the fly while I stayed at the same coffee shop. Though most turned into a money negotiation...damn パパ活
    5) Yes, you will find those girls who want to meet for sex on the first date, but for 30K-60K+ on the first meeting. I passed on these girls as that was the strike price for a pro girl, even though they might be/not be more clean??
    5) For disputes, I was able to confirm by email and even got a refund at the end through Apple store when I was done with this site. Maybe because I spoke decent Japanese?

    Cons:
    1) 24,800 yen for 3 months. The monthly thing goes by quickly and you won't get a huge amount of traction to pull from the various age ranges
    2) Most girls are on there for MONEY. Make no mistake, the initial meeting will run 10K-20K with a hard slog to get into the sack. (I didn't push for the bed lay on the first meeting as I would schedule the meetings between biz meetings.)
    - This was with Japanese and a few gaijin, like Taiwanese girl raised here in Japan.
    3) Better to have a good grasp of Japanese than only English

    I know there are more Pros than Cons, but overall I gave up on using Paters. Maybe because I would not put in the time like 3-?? dates to get to not only the bed, but meeting someone of actual interest even though their profiles said they wanted to meet someone 長期的 (long term). Most discussions were of low quality. As in most cases, at least on this site, the more pretty the girl, the more mundane the conversation. Maybe that is the norm??

    As another site note, for someone spending more than 50K, or even 100K on a girl to get them in the sack, then that is no bueno. That makes it harder for us to maneuver on the ground, thus my notes above. My experience, and probably others, is if you get the girl liquored up and in the taxi then it is free game. Don't offer more than what you can get a pro to do. That is just bad business and not common sense. (I know you are in the heat of the moment, but think a little.)
    ** Note: On another site I can get a girl or wife to do the deed in my SUV between 10K-15K on a weekday.

    Have fun out there and hit me up if you have questions on this site.

    Tokyo Dweller.
     
  2. shammykun

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    Pic or wasn't there, got it. This is an example of a girl I met, well a cabaret or snakc girl, whetever they call them these days. Very cute but the higher the attractiveness the more messed up in the head goes the saying, and then reality.

    Enjoy.

    Point is this is the type of girl you can pull on Paters.
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    ** Note: On another site I can get a girl or wife to do the deed in my SUV between 10K-15K on a weekday.

    That site is?
     
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    Thank you this. This lines up significantly with my experience using Paters (in early 2019). Neither is perfect, but I still prefer sugardaddy over Paters. (Just wish it had a better search option!)

    Did you use a photo of yourself for your profile? Still not really comfortable with that... but I felt that particularly on Paters that hurt my matching rate.
     
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    Great write up.

    Bit hard to get agreement on this one. Everyone has their own price point. I offer a set amount and don't negotiate (negotiation for me is a massive turn off).
    I learnt a great move from the great WW that I now use pretty much al the time. Offer them the fee at the beginning of the first date, and tell them they have no obligation to do anything, and they can leave at anytime. This has never failed, and always wind up in bed. Thanks @Wwanderer (wherever you are)
     
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    Are we talking about "don't stick your dick in crazy" kind of territory here, or more like she legitimately seems to be unstable mentally? Because if it's the former, I may consider risking it...
     

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