Paters experience so far

[Kevt]

Final follow up to the experience.

In total saw 7 women over the month. Slept with 6. The last one was up for a hotel date but I changed my mind after I started getting too many matches to keep up with. I hope to keep seeing three of them. One is a pro and one has the qualities I was looking for.

That one travelling student was was I had anticipated... she wanted a hook up while on break and was a lot of fun. She started squirting right from the kissing.

Back to the app.. There is a function called "hang out request" where people post proposed dates. You can only post within 4 days. So say on a Sunday, there are posting for Sun, Mon, Tues, Wed.
I tried it while I was on a weekend travel. I had one woman accept it, but then back out later. Then had a second one texting but that didn't work out either.
I tried the flip side of that "hang out request" to meet a woman posting. It ended up as a request to meet a certain station and time without flexibility and was too much of a hassle. I didn't think there was enough women available to be reliable, so maybe just an impromptu hook up ok. But then its probably just easier to use an established shop by that point.
Overall, that "hang out function" doesn't seem that great.

Overall the website is great. their App is glitchy and slow.
I think the women with the high "like" counts tend to be the more frequent users. They tended to be easier to set up with. Some of the lower "like" counts are either new or dont follow up much. They might be less seriois or might be looking for more exclusive partners. the site allows Gold membership and up to see their activity so its easier to find the more casual users.

I'll be letting my subscription end and then maybe rejoin next time I want to look again.

 

[dark2424]

how did you download the app ? it looks like i need a japanese sim too x.x
is there away around it ?

 

[SoFreshSoClean]

This thread has been super enlightening, thank you very much for sharing!!

If I may ask for some of you users' opinion: I'm considering joining the site, but my objective is to set up dates only for when I'm on business trips (fairly regularly to Osaka). Do you reckon that would be a fertile ground for using it still?

 

[Kevt]

how did you download the app ? it looks like i need a japanese sim too x.x
is there away around it ?

I used a Japanese phone and I have no idea of any ways around it. Not sure if joining by website would work.

If I may ask for some of you users' opinion: I'm considering joining the site, but my objective is to set up dates only for when I'm on business trips (fairly regularly to Osaka)

It could work but might have problems with coordinating dates since you'd be looking for specific dates of availabilities.
I used it when I went on a weekend trip and managed to get a date but had limited time to overcome a late cancellation. It did work out, but was almost a bust.
I also mentioned that I was the casual date of a woman who used the app while she was vacationing near me. This started with her saying she wanted me to meet on a certain weekend (happened to be same weekend I was gone). I apologized and said I was out of town. But then she wrote back a week later saying she changed her plans and we scheduled. I think this was a result of being polite and not just ignoring her first request.

Regarding Osaka.... looks like a high number of users in that area. I searched along the route of my weekend trip and many smaller locations would have less users and slimmer pickings. Rough count of the "meet me now" as an example shows 29 requests in Osaka vs 98 in Tokyo. I'd suspect that this would work fairly well in Osaka.

 

[SoFreshSoClean]

I used a Japanese phone and I have no idea of any ways around it. Not sure if joining by website would work.




It could work but might have problems with coordinating dates since you'd be looking for specific dates of availabilities.
I used it when I went on a weekend trip and managed to get a date but had limited time to overcome a late cancellation. It did work out, but was almost a bust.
I also mentioned that I was the casual date of a woman who used the app while she was vacationing near me. This started with her saying she wanted me to meet on a certain weekend (happened to be same weekend I was gone). I apologized and said I was out of town. But then she wrote back a week later saying she changed her plans and we scheduled. I think this was a result of being polite and not just ignoring her first request.

Regarding Osaka.... looks like a high number of users in that area. I searched along the route of my weekend trip and many smaller locations would have less users and slimmer pickings. Rough count of the "meet me now" as an example shows 29 requests in Osaka vs 98 in Tokyo. I'd suspect that this would work fairly well in Osaka.

Thank you so much for your reply, complete with even some data! 🙏🏼 I appreciate it.

I never considered sugaring before, but in the end it seems this kind of app allows for a "low" degree of it that aligns with my sparse level of commitment I can pour in it. I'll probably try and experiment with an account a bit ahead of my next business trip. I'll happily report back if there's anything worth sharing 🙌🏼

 

[ChumChumJim]

I never considered sugaring before, but in the end it seems this kind of app allows for a "low" degree of it that aligns with my sparse level of commitment I can pour in it. I'll probably try and experiment with an account a bit ahead of my next business trip. I'll happily report back if there's anything worth sharing 🙌🏼

"Short term" is Totally doable. with good Japanese ability you can work out all kinds of relationships. lots of cuties in osaka. Alot of work, but When you find the right girl(s) it makes it all worth it; when you miss? well- have some fuzoku places saved as back up Good luck!

 

[Kevt]

I never considered sugaring before, but in the end it seems this kind of app allows for a "low" degree of it that aligns with my sparse level of commitment I can pour in it.

Good luck. Some girls seem ok with the one time hookups. Some want longer terms before engaging. So yeah, if you want a short term thing then avoid the profiles that say they want a partner or a long term relationship.... but even those might be open to a one time encounter.

 

[dark2424]

I used a Japanese phone and I have no idea of any ways around it. Not sure if joining by website would work.




It could work but might have problems with coordinating dates since you'd be looking for specific dates of availabilities.
I used it when I went on a weekend trip and managed to get a date but had limited time to overcome a late cancellation. It did work out, but was almost a bust.
I also mentioned that I was the casual date of a woman who used the app while she was vacationing near me. This started with her saying she wanted me to meet on a certain weekend (happened to be same weekend I was gone). I apologized and said I was out of town. But then she wrote back a week later saying she changed her plans and we scheduled. I think this was a result of being polite and not just ignoring her first request.

Regarding Osaka.... looks like a high number of users in that area. I searched along the route of my weekend trip and many smaller locations would have less users and slimmer pickings. Rough count of the "meet me now" as an example shows 29 requests in Osaka vs 98 in Tokyo. I'd suspect that this would work fairly well in Osaka.

thanks for the info mate, i might try using a japanese sim while i am out there

 

[Sunthean]

Posts like this re-ignite my desire to learn Kanji.

 

[watchinforfun]

One night I was bored and read this post so i decided to try it out. by the next day i filled up the rest of the week with "dates". Thanks to OP and those who posted before this. I followed the prices in the forum.

If you're thinking of starting this, you HAVE TO HAVE GOOD JAPANESE in speech, writing and reading. Dont let me hear you MFers ruining it for the rest of us. Out of the 7 Women i went out with so far NONE of them had ANY English ability and the "English speakers" on the site did not even "like" me back Lol.

One advice is to be selective with dates. I posted a masked pic and I set my profile as" fat" and my height is lower than it actually is lol. I wasn't expecting too many matches but as time went on, I realized I shouldn't have made dates with the first people who asked. (my fault of course) I like meeting them for tea date before "adults" cus i dont want to commit to anything more in case i'm not attracted to them. This was a good move since out of the first 4 dates, i disliked 3. The Next 3 dates were super winners and now I'm juggling way too damn much.

I had a shit ton of matches and messages left but I've decided to stop for now and private my account. There was SO much potential left, but It's so much work messaging and dating everyone. Not sure if it's been a blessing or a curse.

BEWARE: of the emotional labor and manipulation. Some of these girls are host addicts and will guilt trip you and demand exclusivity even tho i start my messages and my dates saying i just want casual. After one bad experience, I asked the rest of my dates about it and they also think host addiction is a problem. Even after only 1 date a few were getting "clingy" but Pretty sure they're just "clingy" of my money 😏

So I have almost zero Japanese speaking, sure I know some words and phrases and I can ask basic questions but no where conversational level. I have been using the site successfuy for over a year and half. It's also why I stopped using soaplands and other escort shops was just no need for it. I have at least three girls from paters who all used to be soap girls/estue girls(or still are) who I can call almost any time to meet up if I need the soap/estue experience.

 

[Alice]

I have at least three girls from paters who all used to be soap girls/estue girls(or still are) who I can call almost any time to meet up if I need the soap/estue experience.

Independent is the way to go.

 

[ChumChumJim]

Here's where I admit I exaggerate the need for Japanese ability in hopes of discouraging the 'wrong people'. The (google) translators are not great and alot is lost in translation and even outright mistranslated. Ultimately tho there are plenty of girls who are willing to deal with foreigners for the money. As many have said before: you're fine As long as you're not creepy, gross or dirty. They don't care about not having to talk to you; they "make more money" when doing adults. I've had multiple instances where i offer to take girls out to nice expensive restaurants but they'd rather "do adults" cus they "make more".

Also having Japanese ability will help you avoid the scammers and deal with the other pitfalls. I've been through a few situations where i'm not sure how someone with low Japanese ability can resolve. There relatively few, but there be sharks in these waters.

I recently started matching with girls who have the "english" tag on the site and the "english speakers" don't meet with me much. I finally met an english speaking SB recently and she told me the male users who introduce themselves using just English are infamous for being annoying and are often ignored, so maybe the annoying "American gaijin" are already terrorizing the site. lol hopefully they're not from here, ahem.

 

[Cashew]

Thank you so much for your reply, complete with even some data! 🙏🏼 I appreciate it.

I never considered sugaring before, but in the end it seems this kind of app allows for a "low" degree of it that aligns with my sparse level of commitment I can pour in it. I'll probably try and experiment with an account a bit ahead of my next business trip. I'll happily report back if there's anything worth sharing 🙌🏼

I don't use paters but use sugardaddy for short term meet ups. I only use it whenever I go on vacation to japan for about a week and a half most times. I let the girls know I'm a foreigner on vacation beforehand so they are aware. I've had much success meeting up with girls and having a lot of fun with them. I'll mostly see them just once if not twice at most during my vacation. Don't expect them to stick around though, they will always go cold turkey on you after leaving japan and out of around the 8 girls I met, only 1 of them was interested enough to meet up again sometime in the future after I left.