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Namely, many people go to the sugar bowl specifically seeking NSA ("no strings attached") relationships.
There is a problem, that is not being factored, where the sugar-baby may jump to another relationship more easily. More so than the man, because she isn't investing financial resources and is less vulnerable in terms of not being married and worried about being exposed.
"The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence."
Exclusive is a relative term, when in fact it's seen as or will become just a temporary arrangement.
I answered "Sugar Daddy - Open" in the poll.
For me personally, it is the only option that works or makes sense. First of all, I have never in my life managed to be faithful to any one woman for long...like not even a year, despite making a sincere effort on more than one occasion. It simply isn't in me it seems. Moreover, I have hurt women I care about , badly in some cases, by failing to be faithful/exclusive; my plan is to never again promise it. In addition, I travel so much that separations of weeks and months are ordinary; I don't think it would be reasonable to ask a sugar partner to tolerate such long absences in an exclusive situation. And finally...basically echoing one of @Goiter 's points, it is absurd to imagine that a guy my age can satisfy all of the sexual, emotional and romantic needs of a beautiful woman young enough to be my daughter or granddaghter. I want my sugar partners to have more, not less , of what they need from life due to our arrangement; I want to add, not add and subtract.
Aside from the above considerations that apply to me personally but not everyone, I think there are many general advantages to non-exclusive sugar (and other, for that matter) relationships that people ought to consider. One is the reverse of a point that @Goiter mentioned. Namely, many people go to the sugar bowl specifically seeking NSA ("no strings attached") relationships. In other words, they want all the fun and pleasure of dating without tying themselves down in any sense; basically they wish to avoid commitments. Exclusivity encourages/breeds commitment, as @Goiter notes, and is thus counter to having an NSA situation. Exclusivity is also counter to NSA in another sense; it makes the sugar partners dependent on each other. For example, a woman who has an exclusive SD generously supporting all of her financial needs or most of them cannot leave the relationship because it is making her unhappy in some way without putting herself in a difficult, maybe very difficult, financial situation. (For example, I know an SB who had to choose between enduring damaging psychological abuse from an SD or giving up an income of about US$150,000/year plus lots of other perks such as expensive gifts and first class international travel.)
-Ww
Depends on the situation. Like ww said before, a SB might not easily be able to leave a daddy who supports her a lot financially. Also some guys more on fairly easy after they get bored with a beautiful girl.There is a problem, that is not being factored, where the sugar-baby may jump to another relationship more easily. More so than the man, because she isn't investing financial resources and is less vulnerable in terms of not being married and worried about being exposed.
"The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence."
Exclusive is a relative term, when in fact it's seen as or will become just a temporary arrangement.
Depends on the situation. Like ww said before, a SB might not easily be able to leave a daddy who supports her a lot financially. Also some guys more on fairly easy after they get bored with a beautiful girl.
Depends on the situation. Like ww said before, a SB might not easily be able to leave a daddy who supports her a lot financially. Also some guys more on fairly easy after they get bored with a beautiful girl.
There is a problem, that is not being factored, where the sugar-baby may jump to another relationship more easily. More so than the man, because she isn't investing financial resources and is less vulnerable in terms of not being married and worried about being exposed.
I don't really see how it's "more so than the man" - a woman is essentially sacrificing her youth in these circumstances and if it doesn't work out for her long term, she doesn't get that back. Money, you can always make more of. There's so many stories of men trading in their wives and GFs for a "newer model" that its a cliche. Both have something to lose here.
I don't really see how it's "more so than the man" - a woman is essentially sacrificing her youth in these circumstances and if it doesn't work out for her long term, she doesn't get that back. Money, you can always make more of. There's so many stories of men trading in their wives and GFs for a "newer model" that its a cliche. Both have something to lose here.
Men are aging at the same rate as women.
Men are aging at the same rate as women. The future is not guaranteed, and in fact men die younger than women on average.
And many guys have lost their fortunes or jobs. When the money went, in numerous cases, the women left too.
There are an equal amount or arguably even more stories of women dumping men and switching to a new one. The majority of divorces, for example, are initiated by women. The term for women jumping from man to man, in the most beneficial way for herself and selfishly, is called "monkey branching".
Sugar dating is not a matter of who gave more, who is more at risk, who lost more, who gained more, it maybe an arrangement, but this is not a business.
When you spend time with your SD and he has nothing but been good to you, sometimes, the girl falls in love. That is very hard to admit, but we SB, are human beings too. And that makes everything sooo natural. However, SB should know how to keep her feelings at bay. She must never be demanding for time and attention. She should understand that SD are usually married and they compensate to their "lack of committment" to their SB through their allowance. Some SB even think about their SD when they touch themselves, seriously!
The point being is that, if you only think about who lost more, who benefited less, who put more on the table, then sugar dating is definitely not for you.