Racial Preference In Dating & Sexual Partners

Hmmm.... Well I've been with white, black, Asian, Latino, Jewish, unsure and a few mixes. Many of em had their charms. I think for me it's more about culture than race.

Having preference is absolutely not racist unless it is. Like if the person with the he preference has some real problems.
 
My friend and I were having a little debate on this earlier.. and I wanted to bring the topic to TAG.

Do you have a racial preference when it comes to dating people and/or seeing sexual partners? And do you think having racial preference is racist?
my preference would be to vary ethnicity (and not race, we're all humans). even when I'm watching porn I often change the kind of girl and I appreciate all of them. my least favorite is the less exotic for me : my own :D

as far as it concerns being racist I don't think it is. if you said you can't even become friend with a particular ethnicity I'd see it as being racist but as long as it's only about dating preference I don't think it is.
 
i think the bigger issue with having a strong preference is that it gets somehow creepy and strange very fast... i know enough people who are so eager to date only people of one specifc nation (often its japan, or korea and i bet they cant tell the difference between most asians anyway) and in the end all they do is glorifying that nation, based on whatever image they have, without spending some longer time there... ironically those are the ones that rather sooner than later change their minds, after they made a few experiences...
it is not even a compliment for the person in question, i would not like it when people like me because of my nationality...
having preferences is no big deal, everybody has them and i also dont think that there is a racist background in most cases... the fixation that often occurs is somehow a bigger deal...


as for me, i think its a difficult question... if its just about looks, sure i have one type i go for, but that doesnt mean that i exclude other types... the only ones i can think of that i dont find attractive (and i wont say that there are exceptions more than once now) are people from india and most arabs... i mean physically attractive...
but otherwise i think i go more for my type of women (and that doesnt have any nationality), if its about the looks... other i still find pretty, but i dont think i would do anything, unless we somehow get into a conversation and i happen to like her...

for dating it is even more difficult, i never thought it was possible, but being in japan showed me more or less which nations i dont get along with ( i am very happy with the cold tokyo people)... but for me the reasons are mainly in religion, behaviour and importance of family... so sure, i talk to anybody, but with most i think i couldnt have a long term relationship and that is what i am looking for...
 
I'm of Asian descent myself, and I've never found other races attractive except certain white girls. But I think for Western girls, cultural differences are just too large. Would I befriend other races? Do one night stands? Sure... but dating is another thing altogether. I'd have to stick with my own race.
 
I've gotta say that my preference currently runs very strongly towards Japanese girls. Its a combination of factors...

* Preferred body type - I'm generally most attracted to petite, slim girls and I really love straight black hair (bonus points if its a hime-cut or twintails)
* Ease of communication and shared interests - I've only got English and Japanese so its a lot easier to communicate if the girl can speak one or the other. Also the vast majority of the music/culture I'm into are Japanese so its a lot easier to find something in common.
* Style/Fashion - Again this is probably more personal preference than anything else and certainly isn't across the board but I think a lot of girls in Japan have a pretty solid fashion sense and dress well. (although some Taiwanese girls really give them a run for their money...) There are super fashionable people in any country but I'm always kind of shocked at how poorly people dress even in big cities in the US
*Cultural Mores and Attitudes - I've been in Japan for my entire adult life so I generally have more culture shock from other Americans than from Japanese. Again it doesn't always work that way - everyone is different - but on the balance I don't have many problems with Japanese girls in this area.

Its got nothing to do with one race being better than any other its just personal preference - I regularly see girls of other races who are also super attractive and have dated non-Japanese girls in the past.

Its also got a hell of a lot to do with numbers - even in an international city like Tokyo the number of Japanese girls still greatly outweighs the number of girls from other races.
My perspective might be completely different if I was living in another country - I really didn't care that much about Japanese girls one way or the other before I moved here.
 
The only "race" I've never been with is Australian Aborigine/New Guinean, more due to lack of access than anythign else. I honestly believe there are incredibly attractive people of all races, and consider myself an equal opportunity Lothario.

My own preferences tend towards body types than racial attributes - I prefer fit women with curves, but not overly "curvy". Classically feminine shapes.

As to having a racial preference in your lovers making you racist? I don't believe it does - though it's somewhat sad to see someone limit their opportunities like that.
 
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I'd say the answer depends on the reason behind the preference. If you dislike/despise certain races in general and thus want to have nothing to do with them...including sex, that is racism pretty much by definition. But if you find some races more attractive than others but hold no animosity towards the races that don't appeal to you, it is simply personal taste, not racism. Imo.

-Ww
 
I'd say there's certain facial features and body types that I prefer, but I'm wide open about racial preference.

I've said that of my preferences- cute faces, slender, younger-looking, women with accents, there's a large number of East Asian women that meet in the middle of that Venn diagram. I never really considered myself to have 'yellow fever' or whatever. The first time I spent time in Asia was maybe 10 years ago in Japan, and I was like 'hey, there's a LOT of hot women here!'. But I've seen 5-foot nothing black women that have had me drooling, too. At this point I'd probably prefer Japanese women over others because I know more about the culture and the language, but that's about it.
 
I'd say there's certain facial features and body types that I prefer, but I'm wide open about racial preference.

I've said that of my preferences- cute faces, slender, younger-looking

Well said! My preferences are similar, though I also strongly prefer lighter skin. Blondes are my favorite of course, but one thing I leaned in Japan is that hair texture is more important than color. That thick rough black hair isn't very nice haha, but some jp girls have really nice soft thin hair.

Slender body and face and good proportions are more important than anything else to me, within that the preference list looks something like:

1. Blonde caucasian of European descent
2. Caucasian of European descent
3. Japanese, Chinese, Korean
4. Persian
5. Indian (but like 0.001%)
 
I've dated different shades and sizes of ladies of which I noticed a pattern. Confidence and good hygiene.

As for attraction, I'm attracted to someone who dresses well and know how to compliment her features in a non-provocative way.

I'm fond of Asian-Descent Ladies but I already curb that taste in my palate. I've had my share of Americans and Hispanic Descent as well. Now, I'm into trying to try exploring my Euro and Eurasian side to which I find "intriguing" at the moment.

Our tastes constantly changes but in the end, I notice that most people go back to whatever makes them feel comfortable and connect with. We definitely have evolved from our prehistoric amcestors and I'm glad that I dont have to hit her in the head with a club or be limited based on how much livestock I own lol
 
As long as their youngish/slim/skinny I don't give a rats ass about their skin color. There's only a few left I haven't been with and that just because it's just never gotten to that point. I have been turned down though because of "my" infidel religious attributes.
 
I have to say that i've usually, even back in my homecountry, have dated mostly Asian men. As for type, i'm an "opposites attract" person, i really like dark hair and dark eyes. There are some guys who'd fit this describtion who are not Asian, for example actor Ezra Miller. And i can also see how every race has attractive and less attractive people, but still, i tend to prefer Asian looks.
I like living in Japan because there is a good amound of men who look attractive to me here, but that doesn't mean i find all Asians attractive or something.

Also in work i don't really mind if the guy who shows up is handsome or my type or not, other things like being a gentleman and having enough money to spend are more important and i don't really have a problem to play with people who are not that attractive to me. Actually for loose sex i prefer variation, but for dating you have to look at that person all the time, so i like to be with someone who is my type.

As for racism, i think it's not racist to have a type.
The creepy thing is when people fetizise a race and connect personality traits to the race like "black people are wild" or "Asians are submissive". Of course there are things like culture differences which might shape someone's views about women or men of a certain race, but it's still wrong to group people like that.
 
I tend to lean towards Asian women and white women. I can't say much for other groups because I have zero experience with them.
 
It is has a Vagina and looks good it doesn't matter to me. Race doesn't matter. However if you line up women you were attractive to me from all backgrounds I would have to say something Asian, and it would matter from where.
 
I no longer date, unless you count the rare times when my wife and I can get out without the kids.
By the way, I really enjoy family outings. We do so often, but I do not know if you folks consider that a date.

My wife is my only sexual partner, except in Fantasy-land. Hey, I'm human!

I do not consider it a fetish, but I really find Japanese women attractive, not all, but many. I guess I'm lucky to live in Japan.

I still find women of all races, depending on the individual, attractive. I have my preferences on what I consider attractive, however, no need to go there in this thread. Just wanted to make the point that it really depends more on the individual than the race.
 
There's a style i go for (long hair, tattoos, etc) and as long as a guy fits this, i've never cared about his ethnicity or where he's from. Before, i used to travel a lot around the world to see bands i love, and like some people stated, tasting local food is nice.
I've never been with a black guy but it's not racism, think. I have this fixation on long hair (i can count on one hand my short-haired partners) and black guys tend to shave their heads.
 
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I am like @User#8628. I easily get attracted to someone rare in where I live.
When I travelled to northen Europe, it gave me exciting time just to look at the people. Well, I was not quite attracted by over 175cm tall grandmas pushing amazingly heavy glass door with one hand but most of young men I saw in Sweden and Finland were really good looking. Felt someone was looking at me at a department store, I was tensed a bit, looked back slowly, found a good looking dummy was standing there... I mean lots of real people there are really tall, fit, blonde, basically model material dummy look alike.
But my taste keeps changing time by time. I once got crushed by Asian guy in Sydney. Maybe he got my attention quickly as he was the only Asian at the place. he was rare:)