Sexually Transmitted Disease (std) Talk

[newbie]

Thank you. That's so nice of you. But really I'm %100 straight


I knew my post would sound confusing as I'm not getting proper responses from some of you here. So, I'm going to be more open and clear about it.

First, I'm foreigner not Japanese.
I came from a religious family. I am not allowed to engage in any sexual intercourse before marriage. That is why I asked my question about the possibility of catching STD. This could exposure me. Destroy both my reputation and my life.
I know I sound depressing, but when you are in my same situation, you would understand what I mean.

I won't be staying in Japan for long. I'm not a resident here. I just thought about getting things out of my chest which includes erotic services.
I really admire the Japanese law when it comes to sex and it seems to be going in my favor. They seem to be more careful than I am about their erotic services.

Rimming and threesome is something cannot be asked from my "future" wife. It is like a taboo in our culture.
I'm still in my 20s, so I have a lot of fantasies and desires I would like to do.

I just want to know what are the chances of me catching something really bad when doing this act?
I go to professional shops not independent escorts. They say they are %200 STD-free and are professional. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to mention their names or not. But anyways,...

Can I trust their word for it?
I REALLY want to try it SO badly!

I've heard that getting rimmed is not as risky as blowjob. Either way, as long as there's mouth contact, I should be careful. Especially that two girls will work at the same time, so two different mouths.

But like I said about my background, I'm not looking forward to see unusual symptoms after the action, or doing medical checks. I just want to do it in a single night for one life time and that's it. Just to get it out of me!

He's messing with you, lol. You'll likely be fine. However, you seem like you will freak out and think you have AIDS if you cough after the act, be prepared for the mental aspect as well.

 

[Simonka]

Thank you. That's so nice of you. But really I'm %100 straight


I knew my post would sound confusing as I'm not getting proper responses from some of you here. So, I'm going to be more open and clear about it.

First, I'm foreigner not Japanese.
I came from a religious family. I am not allowed to engage in any sexual intercourse before marriage. That is why I asked my question about the possibility of catching STD. This could exposure me. Destroy both my reputation and my life.
I know I sound depressing, but when you are in my same situation, you would understand what I mean.

I won't be staying in Japan for long. I'm not a resident here. I just thought about getting things out of my chest which includes erotic services.
I really admire the Japanese law when it comes to sex and it seems to be going in my favor. They seem to be more careful than I am about their erotic services.

Rimming and threesome is something cannot be asked from my "future" wife. It is like a taboo in our culture.
I'm still in my 20s, so I have a lot of fantasies and desires I would like to do.

I just want to know what are the chances of me catching something really bad when doing this act?
I go to professional shops not independent escorts. They say they are %200 STD-free and are professional. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to mention their names or not. But anyways,...

Can I trust their word for it?
I REALLY want to try it SO badly!

I've heard that getting rimmed is not as risky as blowjob. Either way, as long as there's mouth contact, I should be careful. Especially that two girls will work at the same time, so two different mouths.

But like I said about my background, I'm not looking forward to see unusual symptoms after the action, or doing medical checks. I just want to do it in a single night for one life time and that's it. Just to get it out of me!

- Independent escorts go get their monthly health checkups too. Because I don’t do slave work for a shop doesn’t mean that I don’t care about my sexual health.
- Rimming has a Hepatitis B risk. Sounds like you didn’t know..
- I don’t understand your excuse of coming from a conservative family. So do I? I just don’t tell them about my sexual adventures in Japan, problem solved? And if you're thinking P4P is something that will get out of your system after a single encounter, it won’t. Having sexual desire and fantasies is perfectly normal and I don’t see any reason to trap yourself into a life of little or poor sex. Also maybe your future wife has fantasies and things she would like to try out too?

 

[Nixon2]

I go to professional shops not independent escorts. They say they are %200 STD-free and are professional.
...
Can I trust their word for it?

I really don't know what you're looking for other than a listening ear for your problems.

You don't believe the shops or girls who would know better than any of us whether they take precautions, get tested, etc.
Instead you're waiting for one of us to give a blanket statement, some assurance of safety covering all shops because you don't mention what shop you've been looking at. In any case even if you did tell us the shop, I don't know what basis we'd have to be able to tell you that future encounters will definitely be safe - that's just impossible.

There are risks. Accept them and work to minimize them, or don't! Simple as

 

[newbie]

There are risks. Accept them and work to minimize them, or don't! Simple as

This is the best way to say it. We should have this quoted and ready for all future questions like this, haha.

 

[MikeH]

Thank you. That's so nice of you. But really I'm %100 straight

There is no such thing as 100% straight as there is also no 200% safe sex partner.

It doesn't matter how many times someone gets tested negative, they can always catch something that doesn't show up yet at the testing time.

So I would like to repeat my previous recommendation: don't do it. Or at least don't come back after the event asking if you have an STD like the other similar guys who did it anyway.

 

[Cat Valentine]

However, you seem like you will freak out and think you have AIDS if you cough after the act, be prepared for the mental aspect as well.

That's exactly what will happen to me!
I will not be able to sleep. I will not be able to stop thinking. I may eventually faint because of a panic attack.

That's the problem with sexual desires. First, its like a flame burning inside of you. Once you eject and let it out, you are left with nothing but regrets and sorrow

 

[Cat Valentine]

Also maybe your future wife has fantasies and things she would like to try out too?

Well, I guess I'll just have to wait then

 

[Cat Valentine]

There are risks. Accept them and work to minimize them, or don't!

Have any of you got infected before?

 

[Sudsy]

That's exactly what will happen to me!
I will not be able to sleep. I will not be able to stop thinking. I may eventually faint because of a panic attack.

That's the problem with sexual desires. First, its like a flame burning inside of you. Once you eject and let it out, you are left with nothing but regrets and sorrow

I said it before, psychotherapy. You need a qualified therapist, not us.

 

[Cat Valentine]

I said it before, psychotherapy. You need a qualified therapist, not us.

Dude you made your point!
Why on earth would I go! I didn't do anything yet.
Besides, it seems to me like you don't care about your health. Catching STD is not something funny. I think twice before I do anything because I value my life.

 

[DocMcStuffins]

Go get a hand job, or better yet, some prostate action. Std risk is non-existent.

 

[MikeH]

Go get a hand job, or better yet, some prostate action. Std risk is non-existent.

But not zero so still a lot of ways to get freaked out and have a panic attack. Right now you can get covid19 if nothing else.

And the only time I have ever gotten anything nasty from a sexual act was from a massage with happy ending.

That's exactly what will happen to me!

Yes, we know by now. I gave you already two great recommendations, please follow them.

That's the problem with sexual desires.

No, sexual desires are good and normal in general and even better when being fulfilled with an understanding partner. Your problem is your attitude towards sex and sexual desires.

 

[Cat Valentine]

Yes, we know by now. I gave you already two great recommendations, please follow them.

Yes, I appreciate your honesty. I would rather throw my desires away and get my mind at ease.

No, sexual desires are good and normal in general and even better when being fulfilled with an understanding partner.

As long as this partner is someone I could trust, then I see no reason to be afraid. In fact, I would feel more than happy and never think about these things.

Your problem is your attitude towards sex and sexual desires.

That is because I'm doing it with a complete stranger who I know nothing about nor do I know how many times she had sex or what she's done in the past. You just pay her for one night and that's it.

I envy the level of confidence you guys have. It seems to me everyone is enjoying themselves and do what ever they desire :/

The funny thing is that I tried teasing my anus area and felt nothing. Literally, nothing!
It turns out that not every male enjoys this part of his body and the porn industry faked it to me. Imagine paying money and finally doing it just to realize in the end that I feel nothing down there lol.

 

[Acid Burn]

Catching STD is not something funny. I think twice before I do anything because I value my life.

You may want to just stick with a happy ending massage then. There’s risk in everything. Even with non-p4p encounters.

The funny thing is that I tried teasing my anus area and felt nothing. Literally, nothing!
It turns out that not every male enjoys this part of his body and the porn industry faked it to me. Imagine paying money and finally doing it just to realize in the end that I feel nothing down there lol.

Touching my own arsehole vs getting my salad tossed by an experienced provider are two very very different experiences and sensations.

 

[Keihan]

Rimming and threesome is something cannot be asked from my "future" wife. It is like a taboo in our culture.
I'm still in my 20s, so I have a lot of fantasies and desires I would like to do.

I was going to add some insulting comments here but as our backgrounds share some very vague cultural similarities I thought I'd show some empathy and add my honest advice here.

This shit ain't going away. All those kinks and fetishes you have, that you think a quick bender in Japan will get out of your system...all that's going to do is make those urges stronger. And I'll go one further and promise you that it's only going to get worse once you're married.

So you've got some long-harbored fantasies and obsess about some young thing biting your nuts, licking your asshole, pissing on your toes, etc. You think you can pay some young spinner to make your dreams come true, then go off and get married to some boring hag who does none of the above and then live happily ever after? That shit is not going to happen. You think you can take a kid who's genetically-predisposed to being an alcoholic, give him a little taste of liquor and then he'll go off and never touch the sauce again and live happily ever after?

You need to come to terms with a few things.

1) Your religious/cultural restrictions are fucking stupid and you're fundamentally incapable of adhering to them.

2) But, you're culturally obligated to at least APPEAR to adhere to those restrictions (and I can relate to this).

3) So, you're going to do the "right thing" and get married to whatever woman your culture dictates you must.

4) Then, and you should get used to this idea now, you're going to spend many years and much money on P4P, going behind her back and indulging in those fantasies, and probably on a very regular basis if you can afford it.

5) Or, you're going to be fucking miserable and jerking off in silence with tears running down your face while hiding in the basement restroom for the rest of your married life.

You are what you are. Get used to it. And no, this isn't whatever God or Satan you believe in "testing" you. Because if whatever God you subscribe to didn't want you to thoroughly enjoy a woman tonguing your stinkhole and urinating on your socks, he/she wouldn't have made those your prime lifetime fantasies. Because that would mean he/she is a very, very cruel omnipotent being, and certainly not one I'd be on my knees thanking every night.

 

[Cat Valentine]

Touching my own arsehole vs getting my salad tossed by an experienced provider are two very very different experiences and sensations.

LOOOL!

 

[Cat Valentine]

I was going to add some insulting comments here but as our backgrounds share some very vague cultural similarities I thought I'd show some empathy and add my honest advice here.

This shit ain't going away. All those kinks and fetishes you have, that you think a quick bender in Japan will get out of your system...all that's going to do is make those urges stronger. And I'll go one further and promise you that it's only going to get worse once you're married.

So you've got some long-harbored fantasies and obsess about some young thing biting your nuts, licking your asshole, pissing on your toes, etc. You think you can pay some young spinner to make your dreams come true, then go off and get married to some boring hag who does none of the above and then live happily ever after? That shit is not going to happen. You think you can take a kid who's genetically-predisposed to being an alcoholic, give him a little taste of liquor and then he'll go off and never touch the sauce again and live happily ever after?

You need to come to terms with a few things.

1) Your religious/cultural restrictions are fucking stupid and you're fundamentally incapable of adhering to them.

2) But, you're culturally obligated to at least APPEAR to adhere to those restrictions (and I can relate to this).

3) So, you're going to do the "right thing" and get married to whatever woman your culture dictates you must.

4) Then, and you should get used to this idea now, you're going to spend many years and much money on P4P, going behind her back and indulging in those fantasies, and probably on a very regular basis if you can afford it.

5) Or, you're going to be fucking miserable and jerking off in silence with tears running down your face while hiding in the basement restroom for the rest of your married life.

You are what you are. Get used to it. And no, this isn't whatever God or Satan you believe in "testing" you. Because if whatever God you subscribe to didn't want you to thoroughly enjoy a woman tonguing your stinkhole and urinating on your socks, he/she wouldn't have made those your prime lifetime fantasies. Because that would mean he/she is a very, very cruel omnipotent being, and certainly not one I'd be on my knees thanking every night.

6) Or, I could just forget all that and live a normal happy life?

Honestly, why all my options have to be miserable ending?
We agree on one thing that doing it might result in me getting addicted to it therefore continue doing it behind my wife's back. So its best I take @MikH advice about it and just let it go. It's not that I either get my anus licked or die miserably.
And no, I won't go that far with peeing and all that shit.

Don't forget I'm still virgin. I haven't had the pleasure of sex yet. Once I do it, believe me getting my anus licked would be the last thing I could think of.

My lips haven't even touched a woman's lips yet. I never kissed before. That is why I'm telling you once I have my first sex with my partner, I will not seek another pleasure after it. Because I don't know what sex feels like until that moment.

 

[Nixon2]

I haven't had the pleasure of sex yet. Once I do it, believe me getting my anus licked would be the last thing I could think of.

My lips haven't even touched a woman's lips yet. I never kissed before. That is why I'm telling you once I have my first sex with my partner, I will not seek another pleasure after it. Because I don't know what sex feels like until that moment.

...Time to get off the Internet, fellow human.

 

[Sudsy]

Dude you made your point!
Why on earth would I go! I didn't do anything yet.

Believe it or not, I'm giving you good advice, mate.

You've clearly got some fairly deep issues regarding your thoughts towards women, your own sexuality, and some unreasonable fears.

That's not to say that you have problems with mental illness, but you do have some issues with self awareness and understanding, that are much easier worked through with good guidance.

A therapist will do a much better job helping you unravel those issues than a bunch of self admitted perverts on the Internet.

Besides, it seems to me like you don't care about your health. Catching STD is not something funny. I think twice before I do anything because I value my life.

I do actually take all reasonable precautions, and have been sexually active longer than you have been alive, with no serious issues.

My own history has nothing to do with you, though.

You're in here asking for advice from people you shouldn't really be asking for advice from, because you're asking the wrong questions, like a kleptomaniac asking for advice from a bunch of experience thieves.

A good therapist will help you find the right questions.

 

[TAG Manager]

6) Or, I could just forget all that and live a normal happy life?

Honestly, why all my options have to be miserable ending?
We agree on one thing that doing it might result in me getting addicted to it therefore continue doing it behind my wife's back. So its best I take @MikH advice about it and just let it go. It's not that I either get my anus licked or die miserably.
And no, I won't go that far with peeing and all that shit.

Don't forget I'm still virgin. I haven't had the pleasure of sex yet. Once I do it, believe me getting my anus licked would be the last thing I could think of.

Where are you from that has such a messed up impression of the world?

That is why I'm telling you once I have my first sex with my partner, I will not seek another pleasure after it. Because I don't know what sex feels like until that moment.

You're not qualified to make this statement by your own admission. Sex by nature is addictive for a majority of the population, so I call bullshit on your statement.

Nothing wrong with rimming or anal play, but that's not exactly at the top of the list unless it's your personal obsession.

(or you could just be a troll, wasting your own time... )

 

[Simonka]

Since we are on topic I had actually passed out once during STD testing. I’m always kind of anxious, couple that with blood withdrawal and high humidity, I found myself laying six foot tall on the waiting room floor.. I remember walking to the bathroom to take a vaginal swab after giving my blood test, but I have no recollection of what happened next. The staff were very kind and understanding, and now they ask me to lay down five minutes after bloodwork My butt and leg hurt a lot for the next week tho

 

[Cat Valentine]

You've clearly got some fairly deep issues regarding your thoughts towards women, your own sexuality, and some unreasonable fears.

I have gynophobia.

 

[Jenkins55]

Took my amazon STD test. Hoping for the best. No p2p whatsoever almost 4 weeks. Think I'm quitting.

 

[Cat Valentine]

Think I'm quitting.

A wise decision. Its not worth it.

 

[FanSecretto]

By shortly skimming down few comments before I say something different, I think you could take and relax your direction or pace down of physically relating to women or anyone, and it's up to you that decides on the life free of sex dangers or triggers. It can be scary; just saying take your long time to relax, and permanently value and reflect what's the next direction.
Not sure what to react more in this short time of reading.


Anyway, about planning for std testing (can be anywhere in the world especially in Tokyo), is it a good or worth time to go to clinic for the testing? I'm probably planning to go there next month at the time of distributing Russian vaccines for Covid virus. My previous impression is that going to any health center such as dental, general checkup, and hospital facilities is dangerous to interact anyone and anything. But what about this time onwards?