Share *Creative* Ideas for Tokyo Dates

[Wwanderer]

This terrific thread (Thanks again, @MissInsomnia !):

https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/dating-then-vs-dating-now.20572/

inspired me to make this one, in hopes of alleviating the problem to some extent.

On TAG we often share ideas and info of many sorts - best place to find X, best price on Y, where to meet Z etc. So, why don't we share *creative* date ideas, fun and interesting things to do for an evening or a day as a couple. I emphasize "creative" because I am not imagining the thread as a place to mention the obvious (go to a movie, go to a bar, go out to eat etc) or to be (yet another) list of people's favorite restaurants, bars, nightclubs etc. Of course, it is fine to post whatever you want, but I think more unusual/novel suggestions will be more valuable.

Btw, reading the aforesaid thread also made me realize that I have been getting lazy about planning dates in recent years and have very often fallen into routine patters, such as dinner-conversation-drinks-sex (not always in that order), with my SBs. Those dates are usually incredible fun (for me at least), to be sure, but my sincere apologies to any of you whom I've been boring a bit. I'm gonna try to do better, or at least mix things up more as I once did frequently, hopefully in part with the help of posts to this thread.

Tokyo has an amazing variety of things to do, some of them rather "unusual"; let's share what we know.

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

So, I'll go first and list a few things I've done or nearly done or considered doing on dates in Tokyo. The ones I haven't actually done myself, I'll list with an asterisk*.

- High tea at the Ritz Carlton in Midtown (maybe available in other places too, but I don't know them)

- Mix alcohol (or not) with nicotine at a shisha/hookah bar

- Mix alcohol (or not) with ropes and torments aided by a pro hostess at a BDSM club/bar

- Speedboat races...with a betting system that was tough for me to understand (due to language barrier)

- Horse races*

- Dinner on a boat touring around Tokyo Harbor and taking in the sights

- Sightseeing boat cruise from Asakusa to Odaiba (probably other itineraries too)

- Ueno zoo

- Kabuki performances

- Belly dancing shows

- Cirque du Soleil

- Plan and throw a themed party together, at your or herf place or in a rented private "event room" or reserved bar

- Visit Tokyo locations that appeared in some favorite movie (a bunch of good ones from LOST IN TRANSLATION)

- Go bowling

- Go fishing* (I’ve been fishing many times, but not in Tokyo)

- Go to a sporting event (baseball, sumo...)

- Go to one of those weird little faux casinos

- Explore an unfamiliar (to you both) park in some out-of-the-way part of the city


More to follow when I get a chance.

-Ww

 

[Coda87]

Thats a nice list. I almost did the Boat cruise last time I was there.

And I might do high tea/afternoon tea with someone on my next trip.

I also always wanted to go to a bdsm/bondage club but could never find the right partner to go with me.

Just to add a couple nerdy things,

- VR Zone in Shinjuku was more fun than I thought and I saw many couples there.

- Ghibli Museum looks like fun if you are into anime or that studio. I keep forgetting to get tickets in advance as it seems there is a limit how many they sell each month.

Anyway thanks for the list of ideas.

 

[Simonka]

Going to an amusement arcade or an Akihabara Tour, or both

 

[Wwanderer]

Continuing:

- Go to a neighborhood matsuri (street festival)

- See a hanabi (fireworks) show, tons of them in August around Obon

- Sin big time at the 100% Chocolate Cafe

- Go shopping for sex toys

- Attend a wine tasting event*

- Participate in a tea ceremony ceremony*

- Go somewhere scenic and both take (serious/good) cameras, compare photos

- Take a helicopter tour* (not sure if any are available in Tokyo)

- Go to a strip club and perhaps share lap/private dances

- Take a day trip well out of Tokyo to some famous or, often better, not famous place

- Go to the gift food shops in the basement of some major depato and splurge on a 5000 yen apple or whatever to see how good they are

- Visit the grounds of a temple or shrine or graveyard very late at night when no one is around, be very quiet while there...perhaps including quiet sex

Still more later...

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

Going to an amusement arcade

At-home video games have become so advanced and fancy, that most of the public ones have been driven out of business I think, but Tokyo used to have tons of huge/elaborate video arcades (I guess that is what you are calling an amusement arcade?), probably the best in the world, and they were indeed great fun for dates, Among other advantages, they are totally flexible in terms of schedule and time...arrive whenever convenient and leave whenever you are ready. I haven't been to one in many years but am glad to hear that there are still some around. In Akiba you say?

Pachinko could probably be fun too if you've been lobotomized recently and are deaf.

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

VR Zone in Shinjuku was more fun than I thought and I saw many couples there.

What is it?

-Ww

 

[Ken1988]

These are what I did with my date this summer:

- Kissaten-hopping in Nishiogikubo.

There are about 6 Showa-style family-run kissatens (Japanese-style cafe) around Nishiogikubo station. Some of the interior decors were impressing even though their coffee was not so. This neighborhood has several art/fashion boutiques worth dropping by and two LHs right next to the station.

- Craftshop-hopping in Asakusabashi

It turned out her hobby was crafting, mainly leather, but she'd never been to Asakusabashi. So we walked up and down in the area, visiting some shops here and there. Even if you are not interested in crafting, it's a fun neighborhood to walk about.

 

[Acid Burn]

What is it?

-Ww

VR Zone is a brand of what you call a video arcade/amusement arcade, but the games are all in virtual reality. This is a pretty fun date idea. I’ve done this with a date before.

 

[Majestyk]

These are what I did with my date this summer:

- Kissaten-hopping in Nishiogikubo.

There are about 6 Showa-style family-run kissatens (Japanese-style cafe) around Nishiogikubo station. Some of the interior decors were impressing even though their coffee was not so. This neighborhood has several art/fashion boutiques worth dropping by and two LHs right next to the station.

- Craftshop-hopping in Asakusabashi

It turned out her hobby was crafting, mainly leather, but she'd never been to Asakusabashi. So we walked up and down in the area, visiting some shops here and there. Even if you are not interested in crafting, it's a fun neighborhood to walk about.

Thank you, @Ken1988.
The lady who saved my weekend in Tokyo last month has just moved to a new flat, so these places would be perfect to go visit next time with her.
Cheers!

 

[Frenchy]

This terrific thread (Thanks again, @MissInsomnia !):

https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/dating-then-vs-dating-now.20572/

inspired me to make this one, in hopes of alleviating the problem to some extent.

On TAG we often share ideas and info of many sorts - best place to find X, best price on Y, where to meet Z etc. So, why don't we share *creative* date ideas, fun and interesting things to do for an evening or a day as a couple. I emphasize "creative" because I am not imagining the thread as a place to mention the obvious (go to a movie, go to a bar, go out to eat etc) or to be (yet another) list of people's favorite restaurants, bars, nightclubs etc. Of course, it is fine to post whatever you want, but I think more unusual/novel suggestions will be more valuable.

Btw, reading the aforesaid thread also made me realize that I have been getting lazy about planning dates in recent years and have very often fallen into routine patters, such as dinner-conversation-drinks-sex (not always in that order), with my SBs. Those dates are usually incredible fun (for me at least), to be sure, but my sincere apologies to any of you whom I've been boring a bit. I'm gonna try to do better, or at least mix things up more as I once did frequently, hopefully in part with the help of posts to this thread.

Tokyo has an amazing variety of things to do, some of them rather "unusual"; let's share what we know.

-Ww

Good idea but you beat yourself too much: why should it be always the SD who does all the planning and organizing? (In addition to paying?). I expect my SBs to come up with their own ideas too and help implementing them!

 

[Frenchy]

VR Zone is a brand of what you call a video arcade/amusement arcade, but the games are all in virtual reality. This is a pretty fun date idea. I’ve done this with a date before.

I wanna try this !

 

[Wwanderer]

I know most people scoff at the JAPAN TIMES, but they have a long running column (monthly, I think?) called BACKSTREET STORIES, which are like little tour book guides to walking around particularly interesting Tokyo neighborhoods with lots of local (*very* non-touristy) color and detail. You can find them by searching "Backstreet Stories" on the JT webpage. There are a lot of them, and they are very engagingly written.

@Ken1988's post reminded me of them.

-Ww

 

[Frenchy]

The TeamLab digital exhibitions in Daiba and Toyosu are great places to visit right now, its like getting into a different world.

Hayama in summer (especially Isshiki beach, for its nicer “umi no ie” ) is nice for dates too.

I am lucky to know about / be invited at some embassies events and the ladies love that (its like an aphrodisiac for them... even if more often than not I find them tedious)

The parasites museum in Meguro if you’re into weird stuff (have sex and meals BEFOREHAND though)

 

[Frenchy]

Thats a nice list. I almost did the Boat cruise last time I was there.

And I might do high tea/afternoon tea with someone on my next trip.

I also always wanted to go to a bdsm/bondage club but could never find the right partner to go with me.

Just to add a couple nerdy things,

- VR Zone in Shinjuku was more fun than I thought and I saw many couples there.

- Ghibli Museum looks like fun if you are into anime or that studio. I keep forgetting to get tickets in advance as it seems there is a limit how many they sell each month.

Anyway thanks for the list of ideas.

Yes you need to book Ghibli way in advance and if you are in Japan it seems that Lawson has a monopoly on selling the tickets (through their Loppi machines) . Its nice but quickly visited.

 

[Wwanderer]

why should it be always the SD who does all the planning and organizing?

The ladies are free to use ideas listed here to suggest to or “implement” for guys too.

Personally I try to contribute as much as I can manage to my relationships, sugar or otherwise, and most of the time end up feeling that it is less than half. But I realize that many take a different approach.

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

The parasites museum in Meguro if you’re into weird stuff (have sex and meals BEFOREHAND though)

I went there with a date many years ago (her idea...one often gets things if one doesn’t push for them ime) and didn’t find it too bad, but yeah, not for the squeamish. I had forgotten it. Thanks for the reminder.

-Ww

 

[Frenchy]

The ladies are free to use ideas listed here to suggest to or “implement” for guys too.

Personally I try to contribute as much as I can manage to my relationships, sugar or otherwise, and most of the time end up feeling that it is less than half. But I realize that many take a different approach.

-Ww

I see... pussy worshipping!

 

[Wwanderer]

I see... pussy worshipping!

Whatever...but perhaps this thread will be most useful to its readers if we all stick to posting our dating activity ideas here and leave discussion of such “philosophical” topics for other threads.

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

Not all that creative in general, but the Tokyo museum scene is superb. There are big and well known ones of many sort (art of nearly all styles, history, science and technology etc) as well as many small and quirky/specialized ones (drums, swords, parasites, kimonos...).

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

A few more:

- Cat/dog/other petting cafes*

- Get legit/therapudic massages together...leaves you both feeling great afterwards ideally

- planetarium shows

- film festivals


-Ww

 

[Acid Burn]

Not sure how creative these are, probably rather banal, but I always wanted to take a date up on the daikanransha in Odaiba followed by test driving some of those fancy cool or older cars at Megaweb next door (can you even test drive with a date there?), assuming she likes cars/drives of course.
Also with winter coming up, I find various illuminations to be a nice outing option, maybe not a ‘creative’ date but some of those illumination spots are pretty creative in itself.

 

[Frenchy]

Whatever...but perhaps this thread will be most useful to its readers if we all stick to posting out dating activity ideas here and leave discussion of such “philosophical” topics for other threads.

-Ww

Agreed, and sorry. Another idea : cycling in parks. In big parks you can rent bikes for a few hundreds yens and on a sunny day its really pleasant. Will just do that today with a SB actually .

 

[Wwanderer]

Not sure how creative these are, probably rather banal, ...

Above the bar creative imo. Anything beyond such standard and routine things as restaurants, simple bars, karaoke, movies, love hotels (all of which can be GREAT) etc is helpful here I think.

-Ww

 

[Ken1988]

I know most people scoff at the JAPAN TIMES, but they have a long running column (monthly, I think?) called BACKSTREET STORIES, which are like little tour book guides to walking around particularly interesting Tokyo neighborhoods with lots of local (*very* non-touristy) color and detail. You can find them by searching "Backstreet Stories" on the JT webpage. There are a lot of them, and they are very engagingly written.

@Ken1988's post reminded me of them.

-Ww

When I seek a short-term SB in Tokyo, I usually ask if she is interested in visiting some parts of Tokyo not spoiled by tourists. So, yes, it tends to be a "backstreet" scene on which I do my planning. Before going on those dates, the SB turned down other ideas such as: strolling Yoshiwara/San'ya neighborhood; Jinbocho bookshop-hopping; visiting Jazz kissas (ref Tokyo Jazz Joints).