Whether or not one likes what
@DanniCake had to say about her views of sugaring and whatever one might have inferred about her attitude or personality (projection of oneself is an always present danger when reading what others post!), I think we should all be happy that she shared her thoughts with us and welcome any SB who does so (aside from trolling or direct/intentional drama generation...neither the case here I think). Both on TAG and in general, we hear far too little from the ladies in the sugar bowl, and you don't have to agree with something to make it worth knowing or hearing of course.
That said and fwiiw, I also think Danni's rather transactional/negotiation (balancing what I get with what I give) approach to sugaring is not a particularly good one, although it is very common and can work.
Imo and experience, far more wonderful and satisfying relationships, in or out of the sugar bowl, are likely to develop if you simply try to be as generous and giving (in all senses/resources/aspects) as you practically can be without thinking too much about what you receive in return. Some people, maybe even most, will try to take advantage of you when you treat them in such a way, but the substantial number who respond in kind more than make up for the selfish ones in the long run. And, as the old saying about marriages goes, "If it feels like you are giving 90% and getting 10%, the truth *might* be close to 50-50!"
-Ww