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So I recently got fired from my last job and somehow stumbled on a 50% increase. Story of my life - opportunity lost is opportunity gained. With the sudden windfall I've been feeling a little more relaxed to maybe enjoy some single life. Been to couple oppai pubs, okay maybe more than couple. But I've never been to clubs maybe just once or twice when I HAD to, out of peer pressure and to not look like I don't go to clubs. It always seemed a little too much for someone like me with heavy social anxiety. But now that I'm looking down a single 30 soon, maybe this is where I should start going to, to maybe ummm... dare I say... talk to people and maybe meet a girl or something. Bottom line some exposure couldn't hurt.
First of all, how do you deal with the constant worry of being judged by others? Do you just accept that you will be constantly judged or do you act like it doesn't exist and pretend that nobody's wondering about why you're moving awkwardly all alone on a dance floor? The guy behind me's judging me for trying to approach a girl way out of my league and getting rejected. Getting a flat out non-response or "ew" when approaching a girl. Or just girls looking at you like you're where you shouldn't be. Bouncer looking at you like you're not dressed well enough. All seem like very likely to happen. Specially being a single guy with no wingman, I'll probably get more side eyes than the usual folk. This all seems a little degrading. With that said, I don't like half-measures so if I just approach women with "may I approach" is that allowed or what?
I probably could have posted this on r/socialanxiety but I'd like to listen to people who know what a club is.
First of all, how do you deal with the constant worry of being judged by others? Do you just accept that you will be constantly judged or do you act like it doesn't exist and pretend that nobody's wondering about why you're moving awkwardly all alone on a dance floor? The guy behind me's judging me for trying to approach a girl way out of my league and getting rejected. Getting a flat out non-response or "ew" when approaching a girl. Or just girls looking at you like you're where you shouldn't be. Bouncer looking at you like you're not dressed well enough. All seem like very likely to happen. Specially being a single guy with no wingman, I'll probably get more side eyes than the usual folk. This all seems a little degrading. With that said, I don't like half-measures so if I just approach women with "may I approach" is that allowed or what?
I probably could have posted this on r/socialanxiety but I'd like to listen to people who know what a club is.