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I just broke up with my girlfriend (or rather she broke up with me) because basically she wanted me to give her half of my salary each month and I said no way.
It was very quiet, very matter-of-fact and as you can imagine it left a very unpleasant aftertaste due to the reason of the breakup.
Now I can't really tell over these past few months I have spent with her which part was faked and which part was sincere and that bugs me a bit. Maybe everything was faked as she had planned her move right from the start. But then maybe not. I knew she was in a difficult financial situation so I knew I was gonna have to help her at some point but I didn't expect the kind of abrupt, out of the blue emotional blackmail she eventually resorted to, with the "half of your salary or we no longer see each other" part.
Then I realized that ever since I got to Japan (she was not Japanese but nevermind) all my breakups (about 10 of them) have been on the quiet side with no real discussion, argument or anything. Is that your experience?
For some reason I prefer when all the ugliness, resentment, anger comes to the surface, makes it easier to move on.
How about you? Do you prefer to part very quietly or do you like things to get a little bit heated?
It was very quiet, very matter-of-fact and as you can imagine it left a very unpleasant aftertaste due to the reason of the breakup.
Now I can't really tell over these past few months I have spent with her which part was faked and which part was sincere and that bugs me a bit. Maybe everything was faked as she had planned her move right from the start. But then maybe not. I knew she was in a difficult financial situation so I knew I was gonna have to help her at some point but I didn't expect the kind of abrupt, out of the blue emotional blackmail she eventually resorted to, with the "half of your salary or we no longer see each other" part.
Then I realized that ever since I got to Japan (she was not Japanese but nevermind) all my breakups (about 10 of them) have been on the quiet side with no real discussion, argument or anything. Is that your experience?
For some reason I prefer when all the ugliness, resentment, anger comes to the surface, makes it easier to move on.
How about you? Do you prefer to part very quietly or do you like things to get a little bit heated?