This is a first run draft of something we've been putting together. Please leave your comments in the replies below. (PS: Formatting got screwed when I pasted this in, will fix it later!) ------- Tokyo Adult Guide Standard Practices for Meeting Ladies 2011 Guide This is a short guide compiled among some of our more experienced members and staff. This is no way meant to replace common sense and common courtesy when participating in services described here. The intention of this practice guide is to give newer folks a general view of how this industry works from the inside out. We are not giving away trade secrets or any super-secret-handshake, just simply some general things that you should consider and be aware of. One of the most commonly forgotten rules of this industry is common courtesy. When you are meeting a lady, there are several basic principles to keep in mind. 1) If you are inviting a lady to your home, it would be a good idea that that your place is clean and well lit to give the lady a feeling of comfort and safety. A dimly lit, dirty place does not give off a good impression and could impair the rest of your evening. a. Don’t offer any alcoholic beverage unless it’s something you have pre-arranged. b. Don’t be drunk or under the influence of any illegal substances. c. Don’t have anyone else staying in your room during her visit; this is usually against the rules in most cases unless it’s a pre-arranged scenario. d. If offering water, giving the lady a sealed bottle of water may be much appreciated. e. Provide her a clean towel and maybe have a fresh box of tissues available. f. Usually a shower is required before any other events occur; please do not try and negotiate this part of the date. This is a hygiene and safety point for both persons. g. If there are any gifts involved, it’s appropriate to handle that upon her arrival. (unless other arrangements have been made) 2) If meeting at hotel, either a love hotel or a regular hotel, make sure that there is a extra towel and the room is fairly neat. Some of the business hotels in Japan are good enough for one person, but two people can be a crowd in some of the cheaper ones. a. Refer to the subset above, apply those same principles here. 3) When arranging to meet a lady at a specific location, please be prompt or be prepared to let her know you are running late or you need to cancel. One of the largest complaints from ladies we have talked to is that clients will rush one of them to show up a spot at a certain time and the client is late by 10 minutes or more and does not apologize for being late. If you cannot notify her that you will be late, then apologize for keep her waiting. We have told the ladies we have talked with to also make sure to apologize if they are late as well. 4) For safety and security purposes, do not leave valuable items lying about that may be easily accessible when you are not with visible range. The lady will likely be thinking the same thing, keeping her personal items close to her or safely tucked away in her bag. There have been some incidents in the past of ladies stealing from their customers and vice versa. There have been several reports from ladies where a customer secretly took back their gift while showering or doing other things. In some cases, the same is reversed where some ladies took advantage of a customer. So, please exercise caution on both sides to prevent any problems. 5) Respect the ladies rules and time limits. Please do not expect a free extension or ‘chat’ time. Her time is valuable as is yours, so it would be highly considerate of you to respect her boundaries and rules. 6) When it comes to her personal information please do not attempt to gain her personal email address or phone number. Additionally, do not offer your personal details or business card. If she is interested in something more, she will initiate it and proceed from there. The ladies in most cases want to protect their personal identity and related information. In the case of the client, you do not want to have your personal information fall into the wrong hands. Certain people working in sensitive jobs probably cannot afford a less than favorable public exposure. 7) In most cases, the type of date is usually pre-set and you should be aware of what you can or cannot do. If the lady refuses to do something that she’s not comfortable with, please do not try and force her to do it. If she is doing something you do not like, please be sure to let her know immediately. Everyone has seen porn movies and it is all acting, therefore the following acts are usually not appreciated by most ladies even though you have seen it in a porn movie: a. Biting, hard sucking, twisting, and pinching of sensitive body areas. Think about how this would feel to you and be considerate of how she feels. Some ladies don’t feel comfortable to say ‘no,’ but they’ll be less likely wanting to see you again if injure them. b. Hard finger play: No matter what part of the body this done on, it’s not pleasant and can cause serious damage if done for too long of a time period. c. Anal: In the case of Japan, a rather large majority of ladies do not offer it. Please do not force the issue if she says ‘no’. d. Larger: Simply put, a larger size is not always better. Pain is not pleasure. e. Body odor: Consider how you actually smell to someone else. This goes both ways for people that wear too much cologne and other people that either do not bathe enough or use deodorant. Please stop and smell the roses on this point. 8) Applies to independent ladies: When using email or a telephone to contact them, please do not initiate inappropriate questions or expect a chat service. This is a business for them and time spent on someone who wastes time with long telephone calls or repeated emails, without making an appointment is lost time for them. From a few independent ladies both in Japan and abroad, this is a very common occurrence. ---- To be updated.