Excuse the long post…as some of you know, when I go to Tokyo, I tend to go a bit extreme.. and for my next trip, I wanted to try sugar dating.. Mainly because I wanted to extend my trip planning beyond P4P, sight seeing and eating.
Planning within the 30 day window before I go to Tokyo in late Jan, I paid for the 1 month sub to SA.
My approach in my Profile: I decided to be honest with myself and to the girl via my profile. I expressed who I believe I am as a person, what I am looking for, and expressed how I didn’t want a long term commitment, but someone I can share time with when I am there 3 to 4 times a year. I clearly said that I was married, and that wasn’t going to change.
My Approach with the girl: Other than the girls who reached out to me first, if I am interested in a girl, I write a message, proactively share my personal pictures and asked if she is interested, we continue on with the conversation, if not, C’est la vie..
I read most of the recent posts regarding Sugaring. Real good stuff, and as always, I appreciate it.
In my ideal scenario for the next trip, I would have 4-5 short meetings to ‘gauge chemistry’ and agree on arrangements, which would lead to 2-3 long dates that would include play time. I want to date a 19-22 year kawaii type girl, late twenties to mid 30’s professional, and 40+ divorcee who is hot to trot…
Progress so far: I moved on from SA messages to Line with a couple of girls and we text somewhat often and things are OK. The 20 something year old said that play was off the table because her dad cheated on her mom and she resents him for that. While I should move on from her, as she doesn’t seem be the type of girl I am looking for, she is pretty cool and kind of like the attention she is giving me. She is also attractive.
Other notes and Questions
Thanks for those who read this long post. More direct questions to come..
Planning within the 30 day window before I go to Tokyo in late Jan, I paid for the 1 month sub to SA.
My approach in my Profile: I decided to be honest with myself and to the girl via my profile. I expressed who I believe I am as a person, what I am looking for, and expressed how I didn’t want a long term commitment, but someone I can share time with when I am there 3 to 4 times a year. I clearly said that I was married, and that wasn’t going to change.
My Approach with the girl: Other than the girls who reached out to me first, if I am interested in a girl, I write a message, proactively share my personal pictures and asked if she is interested, we continue on with the conversation, if not, C’est la vie..
I read most of the recent posts regarding Sugaring. Real good stuff, and as always, I appreciate it.
In my ideal scenario for the next trip, I would have 4-5 short meetings to ‘gauge chemistry’ and agree on arrangements, which would lead to 2-3 long dates that would include play time. I want to date a 19-22 year kawaii type girl, late twenties to mid 30’s professional, and 40+ divorcee who is hot to trot…
Progress so far: I moved on from SA messages to Line with a couple of girls and we text somewhat often and things are OK. The 20 something year old said that play was off the table because her dad cheated on her mom and she resents him for that. While I should move on from her, as she doesn’t seem be the type of girl I am looking for, she is pretty cool and kind of like the attention she is giving me. She is also attractive.
Other notes and Questions
- I can totally understand about the ‘work’ required as described by many on the board. I can’t count how many girls and how many times I wished someone Happy New years. I found myself copying and pasting creative and well thought out Line messages and SA messages.. While I admit it is exciting to get messages from cute girls who may be interested, it does require time and effort. Especially for the goal I am trying to achieve.
- On a related note, I don’t know how I am going to keep up a Line conversation for 3 weeks, with small random chit chats… we’ll see.
- On a related note part 2, based on experiences from other members of girls flaking out, I am trying to build a contingency of potential dates, which may lead me to have more potential meetups than I actually have time for.
- Q: If the girl is not a premium member, how does a girl become a ‘featured member’? Is it a random algorithm? Is it based on activity?
- Q: Why do random girls from all over the world favorite me? What do they have to gain, other than attention?
- I have not had any direct propositions, especially sexual ones where they message me stating that they want X dollars to provide y services. I thought I would at least get a few.
- I thought that these girls understand that sex is ‘an assumed’ part of the agreement that most guys will want to have with them, but it doesn’t seem to be case with the message exchanges I am having. Maybe I am not expressing myself correctly, but it seems like these girls expect to be taken out and have arrangements made, that doesn’t include play time? I assume that the % of SD/SB relationships that include sex is pretty high. I think there is a consensus on this board that sugaring is a soft form of p4p, so I also assume that girls who sign up for SA, also understand this. Maybe it’s my naivety or inexperience that is leading me to this conclusion. I am not sure how I am going to handle the negations part of the meeting… but I have three more weeks to figure it out.
- I am a bit anxious of having some of the girls ask for money before we actually meet, maybe as compensation for the time we are chatting via Line? At the same time, I am starting to understand how some members talk about the ‘desire’ to provide to the SB. For some of the girls I am chatting with, I do find that I want to buy them things…and make them happy.
Thanks for those who read this long post. More direct questions to come..
