Threesome with Virgin? Need Advice

[OneWingedAngel]

Hi all,

My partner and I have been talking about the idea of trying a MMF threesome. It has always been a fantasy I've wanted to try, and the bf wants to see me be dominated (I keep thinking - "is this tmi?" we are on a sex forum for Christ's sake).
Reading advice articles on the net, it's pretty half and half between whether the 3rd person should be someone you know or not. It comes down to what you're more comfortable with, and in my case I'd want it to be a friend.

The friend I have in mind is someone who's in our discord server and we talk with regularly over video chat, but have not met in person. I think this is a perfect fit because he doesn't live nearby, making the occasional randevu work because its not like he'll be popping in whenever. He has a thing for me, in a "maybe if I talk to this girl about sex enough she'll have sex with me" kind of way. Also, always nonchalantly asking me when I'm going to make a nsfw Patreon.

Only thing is, he's a virgin. Never even kissed a girl.
Now, I have come to have a thing for taking a man's virginity. Especially...otaku. We get each other, I know what they want and I gladly help them.
But, is a threesome gonna be ok with a virgin? I would be concerned for what it could do to his confidence.

Which leads me into another question, those of you who have had threesomes, have you ever "trained" the 3rd person before? As in, one on one sex for the new member to get accustomed to what its like in the bedroom with you. Another idea being the 3rd person watches the couple have sex. That in of itself is a sexual adventure.

Of course, I know communication is key. I will take all the time in the world to plan this and make sure we are all comfortable. That's why I'm doing my research. Thanks!

 

[TAG Manager]

Honestly, no. (IMHO)

Virgins and having this sort of event will leave them more confused and possibly will take a confidence hit.

The virgin dude needs some sort of idea of how things work before throwing a 3rd person into the mix.

I speak with confidence as I’ve had experiences with new and seasoned partners at a couple kissa as well as happening bars. Now, I know that’s not such a private experience but it’s certainly valid when it comes to 3p or 4p events.

The training idea isn’t bad but it will take awhile to get accustomed to the rhythms of the main coupe and the +1.

I’d urge you to give it some more thought but I really urge a meet and greet in person, in the flesh before anything else happens.

 

[TAG Manager]

And this is TAG, it’s hard to reach the TMI level. The whole goal of this site is to normalize adult discussions and remove the stigma that people grow up with in regard to sex and alternative lifestyles.

 

[Simonka]

The young and inexperienced men are by far some of the most memorable clients for me because I’ll be carved in their memory forever, however it requires a good comprehension of human psychology, especially anxiety besides having interpersonal and sexual skills to offer them a pleasant experience. Whenever I have time I do a lot literature research for human psychology to become fully eligible to lead these sessions. They have no muscle memory of any kind of sexual act except masturbation, and they never had a through sensual exploration. You have to be in full control of the entire session, and guiding them without being patronizing or hurting their feelings, and if that’s not art I don’t know what constitutes erotic arts

I’m not sure if 3p or PSE is a good idea for a first time..

 

[OneWingedAngel]

And this is TAG, it’s hard to reach the TMI level. The whole goal of this site is to normalize adult discussions and remove the stigma that people grow up with in regard to sex and alternative lifestyles.

I'm glad to hear it. I've been looking for an outlet like this for a long time.

You have to be in full control of the entire session, and guiding them without being patronizing or hurting their feelings, and if that’s not art I don’t know what constitutes erotic arts

I’m not sure if 3p or PSE is a good idea for a first time..

Thanks so much for your input on this. I value your opinion a lot. The last thing I want to do is hurt anyone. I don't want the 3rd person to have a bad experience that imprints on them.
Do you have recommendations for psychology literature to read? Whether online or physical books.
Its frustrating when you want to fufill a sexual desire but don't have the means to do it. Don't worry, I will think hard on this and have my mmf when the right person comes along.

The training idea isn’t bad but it will take awhile to get accustomed to the rhythms of the main coupe and the +1.

I’d urge you to give it some more thought but I really urge a meet and greet in person, in the flesh before anything else happens.

Thanks for giving your thoughts. I understand just how delicate this is. I need to continue to have discussions with my partner on what he is ok with, and also reflect on what I want when I'm not horny LOL. Let's see if I'm still hooked on this idea in a few months.

 

[Frenchy]

I suppose it would be way more fun with someone PRETENDING to be a virgin.
I can volunteer if you want
Absolutely certain I could be a highly credible and submissive virgin .

 

[MikeH]

I suppose it would be way more fun with someone PRETENDING to be a virgin.

There are many shades of virginity. One soapland girl in Fukuoka told me I took her "white virginity".

Pretty sure there are some forms of virginity who don't have to pretend thus making you a real one for their 3P.

 

[Frenchy]

There are many shades of virginity. One soapland girl in Fukuoka told me I took her "white virginity".

Pretty sure there are some forms of virginity who don't have to pretend thus making you a real one for their 3P.

Well I have yet to try anal on the active side, so here you go...

 

[MikeH]

Well I have yet to try anal on the active side, so here you go...

If both sides are not active you are doing it wrong.

 

[TAG Manager]

Please refer to the original topic, thanks.

 

[IchigoDave]

Well I have yet to try anal on the active side, so here you go...

Don't knock it until you try it.

 

[Jon1973]

Hi all,

My partner and I have been talking about the idea of trying a MMF threesome. It has always been a fantasy I've wanted to try, and the bf wants to see me be dominated (I keep thinking - "is this tmi?" we are on a sex forum for Christ's sake).
Reading advice articles on the net, it's pretty half and half between whether the 3rd person should be someone you know or not. It comes down to what you're more comfortable with, and in my case I'd want it to be a friend.

The friend I have in mind is someone who's in our discord server and we talk with regularly over video chat, but have not met in person. I think this is a perfect fit because he doesn't live nearby, making the occasional randevu work because its not like he'll be popping in whenever. He has a thing for me, in a "maybe if I talk to this girl about sex enough she'll have sex with me" kind of way. Also, always nonchalantly asking me when I'm going to make a nsfw Patreon.

Only thing is, he's a virgin. Never even kissed a girl.
Now, I have come to have a thing for taking a man's virginity. Especially...otaku. We get each other, I know what they want and I gladly help them.
But, is a threesome gonna be ok with a virgin? I would be concerned for what it could do to his confidence.

Which leads me into another question, those of you who have had threesomes, have you ever "trained" the 3rd person before? As in, one on one sex for the new member to get accustomed to what its like in the bedroom with you. Another idea being the 3rd person watches the couple have sex. That in of itself is a sexual adventure.

Of course, I know communication is key. I will take all the time in the world to plan this and make sure we are all comfortable. That's why I'm doing my research. Thanks!

I can if u wnt

 

[MelissaAnne]

My first time was with Simona and Manami, and I don't regret it. I didn't even tell them I was a virgin until well into the session. An MFF's probably a little different from an MMF, though.

I was supposed to meet another provider one-on-one elsewhere, earlier in my visit, but that fell through at the last minute. (My fault, not hers.)

 

[TAG Manager]

I can if u wnt

She's not asking for volunteers, she's asking for input, please read and understand before replying.

 

[MikeH]

Well, everyone seems to think it's a bad idea to take a virgin guy to a MFM threesome.

Happily there is an easy solution. Just have sex with the guy alone first. Better yet, plenty of times so he finds his groove. Then you can have the 3P with no problems.

 

[AnotherTag]

They might be virgins phyiscally, but they can't really be virgins in their minds right so unless they are really shy in person / real life and not online / virtual world, they will probably be okay? Unless they have never watch porn or Playboy magazines?! Then maybe not too good of an idea LOL.

 

[OneWingedAngel]

My first time was with Simona and Manami, and I don't regret it. I didn't even tell them I was a virgin until well into the session. An MFF's probably a little different from an MMF, though.

The tone of the threesome is most likely different, though I couldn't tell ya! I'm glad you had a good time regardless.

Just have sex with the guy alone first. Better yet, plenty of times so he finds his groove. Then you can have the 3P with no problems.

Ah, well that's where an open relationship would be necessary. Which is what I would like, as when I move to Japan in a few months I'm gonna need to have an outlet. I'll let you know what happens there.

They might be virgins phyiscally, but they can't really be virgins in their minds right so unless they are really shy in person / real life and not online / virtual world, they will probably be okay?

If you look at what Simonka said, you'll understand this isn't the case, unfortunately. The human mind is a delicate thing. Don't want to take the risk and hurt anyone.

 

[BB0523]

OP.... don't let your desire cloud your judgement... being able to know what you want is one thing, who you want is another, when you combine the 2 and the result is a virgin male... 3P could go so many ways (right and/or wrong) I would put a high % on wrong... soooo why risk it. You want MMF 3P with an acquaintance, not someone you know... unless you imagine it being a regular thing, but you are moving to Japan soon, so that won't be the case (I assume)... Regardless, you should meet the "candidate" first for a coffee/drink to see how you are face to face (Video Chat does not count). Assuming you can interpret body language is very important as you probably already know.
Your biggest concern should be taking the virginity of the male and what if he "Falls" for you and wants to start a relationship ? Stalk you ? Marry You ?...... to many chances to go sideways.
If I recall, you are still in your "teens".... live a little, get some more experience, you don't have to check the bucket list all at once These comments are just my 2 Yen's worth, so do with it as you like...

@Simonka points are quite valid and lucid... which we would not expect anything less from her ...