Upcoming date...with a Soap Girl

[jin17]

All of these Pretty Woman scenarios are lovely but …I really REALLY like the clarity of paying for her companionship. Yes she is an actual, imperfect human being and I'm paying for her to be that, underneath a believable patina of sexual desire for me.
And yes as two humans being intimate, she maybe indeed catch feelings for me, and I for her.
But come on, I'm paying her to pretend to REALLY like me but if wasn't paying her we wouldn't treat each other like we do, would we?
And that's OK. I'm cool with it. I love the time we spend together and when it ends I want to be with her again.
But really we are not friends nor lovers…anyway I do sincerely hope it's whatever it is you want it to be.

Yeah definitely not looking for a pretty woman scenario lol! But I get what you mean. She's been sexting me in the lead up to meeting her at her store, which I have never had a provider do (I'm sure it happens), so there is definitely some middle ground somewhere I just don't know what it is yet. 🤷‍♂️

 

[static]

All of these Pretty Woman scenarios are lovely but …I really REALLY like the clarity of paying for her companionship. Yes she is an actual, imperfect human being and I'm paying for her to be that, underneath a believable patina of sexual desire for me.
And yes as two humans being intimate, she maybe indeed catch feelings for me, and I for her.
But come on, I'm paying her to pretend to REALLY like me but if wasn't paying her we wouldn't treat each other like we do, would we?
And that's OK. I'm cool with it. I love the time we spend together and when it ends I want to be with her again.
But really we are not friends nor lovers…anyway I do sincerely hope it's whatever it is you want it to be.

Totally respect that.

The biggest thing about pretty woman is the guy was trying to get her out of that life. There's plenty of space in between there, and being a customer, a sugar daddy, a FWB, etc. As long as both of you are on the same page, to each his own IMO. In my case, we both knew were just enjoyed hanging out intimately together, but we both knew we were never going to be in a serious relationship with each other. I didn't want her to stop being a sex worker, she never wanted a real relationship, etc. It doesn't sound like jin17 is looking for any kinda Pretty Woman scenario either. We also don't really know the background of the girl in question either. Did she move here from the big city with big dreams, and has an employment gap where she's being a SW to pay rent while she wants for her IT career to take off, or something like that? That's different from someone like my ex that is a career SW, does professional AV, and is still in Yoshiwara at almost 40 years old. Again, a lot of space there that I don't even really want to group SW into a broad category by saying they're some of the most sexually confident people out there.

As far as the whole paying thing. I think about it like this, if I meet a girl at a club where I bought a table for the night, and she bounces when she finds out I'm not gonna buy her a Birkin, that's one thing (and probably more common). On the other hand, I'm paying for access to women I wouldn't normally meet and can still form a real relationship, like I met a celebrity that way and we ended up dating for a few months. In that frame, I'm not paying for her to fake like me, or that she's attracted to me for money. Both can happen and I wouldn't assume it's either one, assuming you're open and available to what the other wants. Like if you're married, and your favorite soapland girl caught real feelings for you, and you want to maintain that customer/provider dynamic to make sure intentions are clear, I think that's perfectly fine (in fact I think that's how most couple's here view cheating. It's not cheating if you paid =P). 🤷‍♂️

 

[jin17]

Totally respect that.

The biggest thing about pretty woman is the guy was trying to get her out of that life. There's plenty of space in between there, and being a customer, a sugar daddy, a FWB, etc. As long as both of you are on the same page, to each his own IMO. In my case, we both knew were just enjoyed hanging out intimately together, but we both knew we were never going to be in a serious relationship with each other. I didn't want her to stop being a sex worker, she never wanted a real relationship, etc. It doesn't sound like jin17 is looking for any kinda Pretty Woman scenario either. We also don't really know the background of the girl in question either. Did she move here from the big city with big dreams, and has an employment gap where she's being a SW to pay rent while she wants for her IT career to take off, or something like that? That's different from someone like my ex that is a career SW, does professional AV, and is still in Yoshiwara at almost 40 years old. Again, a lot of space there that I don't even really want to group SW into a broad category by saying they're some of the most sexually confident people out there.

As far as the whole paying thing. I think about it like this, if I meet a girl at a club where I bought a table for the night, and she bounces when she finds out I'm not gonna buy her a Birkin, that's one thing (and probably more common). On the other hand, I'm paying for access to women I wouldn't normally meet and can still form a real relationship, like I met a celebrity that way and we ended up dating for a few months. In that frame, I'm not paying for her to fake like me, or that she's attracted to me for money. Both can happen and I wouldn't assume it's either one, assuming you're open and available to what the other wants. Like if you're married, and your favorite soapland girl caught real feelings for you, and you want to maintain that customer/provider dynamic to make sure intentions are clear, I think that's perfectly fine (in fact I think that's how most couple's here view cheating. It's not cheating if you paid =P). 🤷‍♂️

Well said Static. And yeah, the other thing I can't share details about her, is I know why she's doing SW. So I do have a little bit of inside info I can't share with the class, but I know that this isn't going to go anywhere long term, accept maybe as friends long term. But in the meantime, we will see what happens!

 

[jin17]

Update 2

Showed up the store a bit early so I could relax a bit and check in with the staff. They were not too crowded today and when my number was called I came up to the counter with a case of black coffee for all the men working there. (Trying to make us foreigners look good 👍) Changed my original 90 min course to 120 min, thanked them for their hard work and paid, then went to wait and have my number called.

Koko and I meet in the hall, and it was a lot of excitement. We obviously had to pretend we weren't hanging out off the clock, or that we knew each other's real names. So that was a fun little secret. She led me to the room and when we got there I barely got my shoes and jacket off before she grabbed me and gave me a big long kiss. I was so surprised to say the least, so I kinda fumbled the kiss. I think I recovered quickly and asked what I did to deserve that, and she said she was excited to see me.

Things moved pretty quickly from there, she undressed me and we kissed again, moved to the washing bench and she hosed me down and soaped me up, all the while she was sliding herself up and down my leg, pleasuring herself... now I'm not going to go into much more graphic detail than that, but I just wanted to paint a picture of the type of start it was.

In 2 hours we had sex 3 times, some chatting and laughing in between (and sometimes during 😆) We spent the last 10 min planning our next hangout outside of the shop. Her next day off were going to meet and spend the day together. It's by far the best P4P experience I've ever had, I'm not a pro by any means but I've probably met with 2 dozen different SW, and this girl is in a different class. Either she actually likes me a little or she is an amazing actor and honestly I'm ok with either.

The next date we go on I'm going to ask her to a love motel, and see how she feels about it. I think that will lead to a conversation (before or after) about what our relationship will be going forward. Then I can put any speculation in my mind to rest, and enjoy hanging with her and/or being her client/friend/lover who knows! I'll continue to update as it goes.

 

[qcryp]

Stuff like that is always exciting, have fun

 

[Maxblack]

The next date we go on I'm going to ask her to a love motel, and see how she feels about it. I think that will lead to a conversation (before or after) about what our relationship will be going forward. Then I can put any speculation in my mind to rest, and enjoy hanging with her and/or being her client/friend/lover who knows! I'll continue to update as it goes.

This is the way. Either way sounds like it will work out for both of you and be fun. Enjoy!