What about La bise (greeting kisses on cheeks) in Japanese office scenes?

[Yuriko]

In Japan, Kissing is for couples and we don't have greeting culture, that we don't get it from Euro managers, staffs on a daily basis.

But, I saw a Hong Kong lady when in Tokyo, received from Euro managers. So, I guess in Hong Kong it's acceptable in the office.

If you do that in Japan, other employees might think, "are they that close?" kind of thought. We are more globalized sophisticated, that people who work for foreign companies, they wouldn't take a second thought, but maybe for Japanese companies, they may do.

I received la bis from my ex colleague in Paris earlier this year, and thought it's nice making such kissing noise to each cheeks, but I wasn't satisfied, as much as giving hugs. I find hugs give more touching feelings.

I wish I receive la bis in the office...
or accidental third with a real kiss on my lips! lol.
I love kissing on cheecks, with such noise! I make quite a bit, when on lips, as well as on cheeks! Yummy!

For Western guys, esp. French guys, do you do that,
when you have Western managers in town? Were you sad, when noticed we don't have this culture in Japan?
I'm curious. (^^)

 

[Simonka]

I only do this with South European people Not all Europeans prefer to receive a kiss on their cheek. It’s very risky with Western or Northern people as they may push you away, which is embarrassing. I would definitely not kiss a Japanese colleague on the cheeks, but I might kiss a Japanese friend who’s familiar with & enthusiastic about SE social practices. I don’t want to be rapey.

Attending a reunion in SE is like testing your immune systems limits. Thinking about it.. it’s crazy to kiss all those people on the cheeks when you first see them, and then once before they leave. A few times I had social anxiety thinking about how many people I had to kiss in total. South European people are very warm, and very vocal, and keeping your personal space will easily get you labeled as cold mannered, unenthusiastic or antisocial.

Nowadays I’m happy if I can give a kiss to someone on the cheeks because it feels natsukashii (nostalgic) however back home I get tired of kissing people every day.

 

[Frenchy]

In Japan, Kissing is for couples and we don't have greeting culture, that we don't get it from Euro managers, staffs on a daily basis.

But, I saw a Hong Kong lady when in Tokyo, received from Euro managers. So, I guess in Hong Kong it's acceptable in the office.

If you do that in Japan, other employees might think, "are they that close?" kind of thought. We are more globalized sophisticated, that people who work for foreign companies, they wouldn't take a second thought, but maybe for Japanese companies, they may do.

I received la bis from my ex colleague in Paris earlier this year, and thought it's nice making such kissing noise to each cheeks, but I wasn't satisfied, as much as giving hugs. I find hugs give more touching feelings.

I wish I receive la bis in the office...
or accidental third with a real kiss on my lips! lol.
I love kissing on cheecks, with such noise! I make quite a bit, when on lips, as well as on cheeks! Yummy!

For Western guys, esp. French guys, do you do that,
when you have Western managers in town? Were you sad, when noticed we don't have this culture in Japan?
I'm curious. (^^)

It’s la bise, Yuriko (with a e)
Usually if a lady is visiting from head-office and if I know her already and feel close to her, I would do « la bise » and I don’t care what my Japanese colleagues would think.
But I don’t do it with the french ladies who work here. I was actually happy you don’t have this culture in Japan because at work I find this awkward, even in France.
But between friends and family members, I wish the Japanese would be « warmer » , yes (hugs, la bise etc). I kiss my very close french male friends on the cheek too, by the way, even in Japan... so everybody around in the bar or restaurant may assume we’re gays and it’s fun to watch people’s reactions.

 

[Anna Summer]

When I was in school my friends and me did that every morning before classes started. I personally never really liked doing it but since every girl did it, I kinda went along with it.
Now I really enjoy that japan doesn’t have this kind of culture. Same with hugging. I’m personally not a huge fan of it and only do that to people I’m really close to. The kissing on the cheeks I don’t even do for people who are close haha. I don’t know why but I feel like kissing on any body part should remain like a more intimate thing and not nothing you do to everyone in the room.

 

[Simonka]

It’s la bise, Yuriko (with a e)
Usually if a lady is visiting from head-office and if I know her already and feel close to her, I would do « la bise » and I don’t care what my Japanese colleagues would think.
But I don’t do it with the french ladies who work here. I was actually happy you don’t have this culture in Japan because at work I find this awkward, even in France.
But between friends and family members, I wish the Japanese would be « warmer » , yes (hugs, la bise etc). I kiss my very close french male friends on the cheek too, by the way, even in Japan... so everybody around in the bar or restaurant may assume we’re gays and it’s fun to watch people’s reactions.

Lol, when I see two otherwise masculine looking men casually kissing each other on the cheeks I don’t think they are gay, I think they are just South European.
I agree kissing on the cheeks is too awkward for professional settings.

 

[Simonka]

When I was in school my friends and me did that every morning before classes started. I personally never really liked doing it but since every girl did it, I kinda went along with it.
Now I really enjoy that japan doesn’t have this kind of culture. Same with hugging. I’m personally not a huge fan of it and only do that to people I’m really close to. The kissing on the cheeks I don’t even do for people who are close haha. I don’t know why but I feel like kissing on any body part should remain like a more intimate thing and not nothing you do to everyone in the room.

And we have a Western European person who’s not a fan. I was physically pushed away by a person so I’ve definitely learned my lesson. Gosh it was so embarrassing.

I think people stop questioning kissing on the cheeks if it’s a huge part of their culture and social practices, and they just go along with it.

 

[Ken1988]

It took some years for me to get used to do this with some friends and business partners from the Med countries.....some of them are bearded male and we do three times, muah, muah, muah!

 

[Simonka]

..Med countries.....some of them are bearded male and we do three times, muah, muah, muah!

The “muah” sound is our pride and joy.

Our men have nice beards, eyebrows and eyelashes

 

[majimekun]

In France we also have "La sodomie" and it's perfectly fine in a work environment.
Bonus tip: it's considered rude to do it with lube. Dry is much more polite.

 

[User#8628]

I only do this with South European people Not all Europeans prefer to receive a kiss on their cheek. It’s very risky with Western or Northern people as they may push you away, which is embarrassing. I would definitely not kiss a Japanese colleague on the cheeks, but I might kiss a Japanese friend who’s familiar with & enthusiastic about SE social practices. I don’t want to be rapey.

Attending a reunion in SE is like testing your immune systems limits. Thinking about it.. it’s crazy to kiss all those people on the cheeks when you first see them, and then once before they leave. A few times I had social anxiety thinking about how many people I had to kiss in total. South European people are very warm, and very vocal, and keeping your personal space will easily get you labeled as cold mannered, unenthusiastic or antisocial.

Nowadays I’m happy if I can give a kiss to someone on the cheeks because it feels natsukashii (nostalgic) however back home I get tired of kissing people every day.

Growing up in North Europe i’d say its definitely a thing there but not everyone likes it indeed.

I do like hugging but cheek kisses as a greeting feel super fake to me especially when people kiss the air next to your cheek. So insincere.

 

[Simonka]

Growing up in North Europe i’d say its definitely a thing there but not everyone likes it indeed.

I do like hugging but cheek kisses as a greeting feel super fake to me especially when people kiss the air next to your cheek. So insincere.

I would never kiss the air when I could be kissing a Northman.

 

[Yuriko]

I only do this with South European people Not all Europeans prefer to receive a kiss on their cheek. It’s very risky with Western or Northern people as they may push you away, which is embarrassing. I would definitely not kiss a Japanese colleague on the cheeks, but I might kiss a Japanese friend who’s familiar with & enthusiastic about SE social practices. I don’t want to be rapey.

Attending a reunion in SE is like testing your immune systems limits. Thinking about it.. it’s crazy to kiss all those people on the cheeks when you first see them, and then once before they leave. A few times I had social anxiety thinking about how many people I had to kiss in total. South European people are very warm, and very vocal, and keeping your personal space will easily get you labeled as cold mannered, unenthusiastic or antisocial.

Nowadays I’m happy if I can give a kiss to someone on the cheeks because it feels natsukashii (nostalgic) however back home I get tired of kissing people every day.

Thanks for educating me. (^^)So, some parts in SE countries, well noted. It must be sad, when someone does not accomodate this tradition and pushed you away...that reminded me, I pushed away a rich Greek lady with heavy lipsticks, who was my parents friend couples, she mistakenly came towards the centre, after her British husband gave me la bise. I thought she would kiss me, and god that was a nightmere as a humble kid, back then!! lol.

It’s la bise, Yuriko (with a e)
Usually if a lady is visiting from head-office and if I know her already and feel close to her, I would do « la bise » and I don’t care what my Japanese colleagues would think.
But I don’t do it with the french ladies who work here. I was actually happy you don’t have this culture in Japan because at work I find this awkward, even in France.
But between friends and family members, I wish the Japanese would be « warmer » , yes (hugs, la bise etc). I kiss my very close french male friends on the cheek too, by the way, even in Japan... so everybody around in the bar or restaurant may assume we’re gays and it’s fun to watch people’s reactions.

I always tend to drom "e" at the end. Thank you for correcting. I revised the title!
So, you do it, if you find close. Not to only sometimes you met. Interesting, even for French people find awkward, if you do that in the office!!!
Hot guys kissing on their cheeks is indeed,.would make Japanese guyz around quite astonished, for very domestic guys. But,.don't worry, if you didn't touch his tent on his pants, or put your hand on his sexy butt, ended up DFK, we wouldn't think you guys are guy!!! lol.

>Simonka,
It must be hard to la bise lots of people you don't know and you have to do, must be so uncomfortable...

 

[Yuriko]

When I was in school my friends and me did that every morning before classes started. I personally never really liked doing it but since every girl did it, I kinda went along with it.
Now I really enjoy that japan doesn’t have this kind of culture. Same with hugging. I’m personally not a huge fan of it and only do that to people I’m really close to. The kissing on the cheeks I don’t even do for people who are close haha. I don’t know why but I feel like kissing on any body part should remain like a more intimate thing and not nothing you do to everyone in the room.

Thanks Anna for sharing your lovely story of your school days. That's nice, girls will get used to kissing on their cheeks from school days. But Japanese don't have so, it's a huge bridge, to be ready for kissing, such a big event for low teens Japanese! I think in Japan, we grow as kissing any part of body can be intimate thing mentality, as well. So, it took me awhile to enjoy kissing when at my service. I even do DFK, if it was acaeptable oral condition these days. (^^)

 

[Yuriko]

Sorry, by my iOS, I can't see fully that I know there are some typo, but I can't correct.

 

[Yuriko]

It took some years for me to get used to do this with some friends and business partners from the Med countries.....some of them are bearded male and we do three times, muah, muah, muah!

It's interesting to see people need time to get used to this culture. 3 times like Swiss or Italians?

Kissing beard guys's cheeks,OMG hope you learned that girls have to get pain for sometimes, with beard guys. I like cleancut, with nice skin, makes we want to kiss more!!!

 

[Yuriko]

In France we also have "La sodomie" and it's perfectly fine in a work environment.
Bonus tip: it's considered rude to do it with lube. Dry is much more polite.

I'm puzzled... I find French are so passionate people. I thought of lips downstairs, but that won't fit in work environment...

Growing up in North Europe i’d say its definitely a thing there but not everyone likes it indeed I do like hugging but cheek kisses as a greeting feel super fake to me especially
when people kiss the air next to your cheek. So
insincere.

Wow, air kiss... maybe they don't want to kiss directly makes them uncomfortable. It's sad but that's showing "distance", I guess. I used to do kind of air kiss, coz was so shy. (・ω・｀)

 

[Simonka]

If you’d like to have a true bise experience, or what I’d call a bise bukkake, you might try to attend a South European wedding. A huge crowd of people will slowly collapse into each other as bise’s are exchanged. Some will hug you like they simply want to suffocate you. It’s totally mind blowing. If I try to escape, my mother, aunt or one of my many cousins will find me and pull me back into the cloud.

 

[Yuriko]

If you’d like to have a true bise experience, or what I’d call a bise bukkake, you might try to attend a South European wedding. A huge crowd of people will slowly collapse into each other as bise’s are exchanged. Some will hug you like they simply want to suffocate you. It’s totally mind blowing. If I try to escape, my mother, aunt or one of my many cousins will find me and pull me back into the cloud.

That must be such an impact!!!；ﾞﾟ'ωﾟ'):


I'm actually interested in my daily practice at my
work place, where who I know some people well. Even managers overseas. I'm open for la bise, guyz!! (o^^o)

I once had a manager I know who is quite fond of me, he politely thanked me for my assistance, I kept sitting at my desk, hence I was a bit lazy after came back from meeting the vendor outside the office, I kept sitting, but maybe I was rude...I should have stand up and at least I shuck hand, but I think back, la bise might have been a perfect situation! I don't see spark anymore, haven't seen him in town that I lost the chance, but... I think I could be more adjustable to Euro culture, as I grew up overseas. I'm too shy and majime, when in the office. Wish I was more playful charactor!!

 

[Ken1988]

It's interesting to see people need time to get used to this culture. 3 times like Swiss or Italians?

Kissing beard guys's cheeks,OMG hope you learned that girls have to get pain for sometimes, with beard guys. I like cleancut, with nice skin, makes we want to kiss more!!!

My first male-male cheek kisses were, honestly, traumatizing though they were in a way "fake" as Alice pointed out. I remember I went to the rest room after that and washed my cheeks. Now it's pretty much natural. I "kissed" a male friend of mine from a Med country on the street in Tokyo some years ago. It was a "long time no see!" moment and I couldn't just help...

 

[Frenchy]

My first male-male cheek kisses were, honestly, traumatizing though they were in a way "fake" as Alice pointed out. I remember I went to the rest room after that and washed my cheeks. Now it's pretty much natural. I "kissed" a male friend of mine from a Med country on the street in Tokyo some years ago. It was a "long time no see!" moment and I couldn't just help...

It feels good, even manly in fact, if you really know and like the guy

 

[Mariano30]

In Japan, Kissing is for couples and we don't have greeting culture, that we don't get it from Euro managers, staffs on a daily basis.

But, I saw a Hong Kong lady when in Tokyo, received from Euro managers. So, I guess in Hong Kong it's acceptable in the office.

If you do that in Japan, other employees might think, "are they that close?" kind of thought. We are more globalized sophisticated, that people who work for foreign companies, they wouldn't take a second thought, but maybe for Japanese companies, they may do.

I received la bis from my ex colleague in Paris earlier this year, and thought it's nice making such kissing noise to each cheeks, but I wasn't satisfied, as much as giving hugs. I find hugs give more touching feelings.

I wish I receive la bis in the office...
or accidental third with a real kiss on my lips! lol.
I love kissing on cheecks, with such noise! I make quite a bit, when on lips, as well as on cheeks! Yummy!

For Western guys, esp. French guys, do you do that,
when you have Western managers in town? Were you sad, when noticed we don't have this culture in Japan?
I'm curious. (^^)

We, the latins do it

 

[Yuriko]

My first male-male cheek kisses were, honestly, traumatizing though they were in a way "fake" as Alice pointed out. I remember I went to the rest room after that and washed my cheeks. Now it's pretty much natural. I "kissed" a male friend of mine from a Med country on the street in Tokyo some years ago. It was a "long time no see!" moment and I couldn't just help...

Wow, glad that you took the culture into your life! Maybe receiving la bis from female maybe acceptable, but if she's heavy lipsticked, I'm afraid of getting kiss mark on my cheeks is a nightmere..since I was a kid, remembering my old days in NYC.

 

[Yuriko]

We, the latins do it

I see! (o^^o)I used to have Latin colleagues at an American company I used to work. They must had
adopted Japanese culture so well. Don't you feel sad, in Japan we don't follow this culture???

 

[Simonka]

I see! (o^^o)I used to have Latin colleagues at an American company I used to work. They must had
adopted Japanese culture so well. Don't you feel sad, in Japan we don't follow this culture???

Latins shall not be mistaken with Latino. Latins are an Italian tribe whereas Latina & Latino are Central or South Americans The areas where the Roman Empire had reached are usually referred as “latin” as well.

Some former Latin countries colonized Central and South America, therefore those countries are addressed as “Latin America”

 

[Frenchy]

Latins shall not be mistaken with Latino. Latins are an Italian tribe whereas Latina & Latino are South Americans The areas where the Roman Empire had reached are usually referred as “latin” as well.

Some former Latin countries colonized South America, therefore those countries are addressed as “Latin America”

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True but Mexicans are latinos too yet they arent south-americans