Some time ago (seems long ago now), I started a thread about connectedness, and about how much better the escort interaction is if there is a real connection. There was some debate about how real it actually is, but if I’m the one whose experience is better for the feeling, then I guess it only matters if it’s real to me (from my perspective). But, getting to the point, there was at least one suggestion (from Ww, if I recall), that the sugar bowl might be a better place for such experiences. And that got me to thinking.
For some time after that, I felt less and less satisfied with meeting random escorts in whatever city I happened to be in, and I started thinking seriously about trying to find a SB. I’m married, not looking for a girlfriend, just looking for good connected sex without complications. So, I was thinking about checking out SA (again, based on Ww’s advice here) when I met someone who was kind of freelancing, and who seemed like she might be a good SB fit.
(edited initial post, as I think I way over-shared)
Long story short, I had a not so good SB-like arrangement that, after several multi-day liaisons together, led to significant feelings of attachment on my part. I won't see her again.
So, I’m back to seeing escorts, and really, it’s fine. I still think connectedness really helps, and I definitely have a few favorites that I see whenever I can, but without any emotional attachment. So, this is a really long-winded intro to what I really want to ask, which is, how do those of you who sugar date deal with attachment? The lines seem really blurry to me. I don’t think I’m immature, or emotionally needy, but I have to ask - are you all able to stay detached and unemotional? Or is there some managed emotional exchange between SB and SD? Or am I the odd man out?
For some time after that, I felt less and less satisfied with meeting random escorts in whatever city I happened to be in, and I started thinking seriously about trying to find a SB. I’m married, not looking for a girlfriend, just looking for good connected sex without complications. So, I was thinking about checking out SA (again, based on Ww’s advice here) when I met someone who was kind of freelancing, and who seemed like she might be a good SB fit.
(edited initial post, as I think I way over-shared)
Long story short, I had a not so good SB-like arrangement that, after several multi-day liaisons together, led to significant feelings of attachment on my part. I won't see her again.
So, I’m back to seeing escorts, and really, it’s fine. I still think connectedness really helps, and I definitely have a few favorites that I see whenever I can, but without any emotional attachment. So, this is a really long-winded intro to what I really want to ask, which is, how do those of you who sugar date deal with attachment? The lines seem really blurry to me. I don’t think I’m immature, or emotionally needy, but I have to ask - are you all able to stay detached and unemotional? Or is there some managed emotional exchange between SB and SD? Or am I the odd man out?
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