What I’ve learned in 2018

Ah Simona. Such lovely and heartfelt thoughts. Thank you for sharing. When I started P4P let’s say 10 years ago, I didn’t think too much about the Escort’s Point of view.

In recent years I have met so many amazing women and they’ve come to earn mad respect from me. I am absolutely in awe of the girls that do this and do this well. And with very few exceptions, the girls I’ve been with have been solid human beings as well. Just unique in so many ways and a true gift to the world.
 
Akemashite Omedetou Gozaimasu! :)

Wishing a Happy and Prosperous New Year to all the TAG Community:

To our independents - may you have multiple bookings with very generous clients.:greedy:

To our punters - may you have multiple orgasms with amazing providers.:love:

To TAG Manager - may you have multiple new advertisers and deal with less stupidity (trolls:troll:/wanna—be pornstars:bucktooth:/amir:asshat:/etc) ;):LOL:
 
You’d think I should have figured this out by now. — but I learned that apparent chemistry (whether real or well acted) and passionate DFK and connection are more important than the sex itself.

Came home to me in several ways:

1. Expensive escort in London with light DFK and no real connection. Ended up in bottom 5 for the year despite near perfect BBBJ and FS.

2. Two of my top five were CBJ. Did not think this was possible! But the kissing and the passion. Wow. Total GFE. Would not trade for anything.

3. My “sort of sugar baby” experience. Just being together, dining, dancing, kissing and generally acting “in love” for several days and nights was tops for the year. (Sex was great too but just a part of it).

So yes, all these 50 something years later I am still learning. My sincere thanks to all the ladies in this line of work who make us old dudes still feel the thrill of a younger life. You are the best!
Yes, exactly this. I've only done P4P twice in my life. Once was in Nevada - full service, zero kissing. So cold and unfulfilling that I nearly didn't ever do P4P again. Two years after that, I took my trip to Tokyo. Exactly like your #2 - wouldn't trade that memory for anything in the world. I'd love an experience with both FS and connection, but faced with the choice, I'll take connection every time and it's not even close.

So I guess I learned the same thing in 2018, and that I love Japan and have to make it back soon. Oh, and if your job has you ready to pull your hair out, take a break and walk away for a little bit. An employer would rather lose you for a month or two or three than have to start from scratch with someone else.
 
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So it’s another New Year’s Eve.

Woke up this morning in a contemplative mood. I hope this thread will allow my fellow TAG members to share some of the good, bad and bittersweet lessons we’ve learned this year.

I’m getting old, but the first thing that came to mind is that I will never again celebrate a lady’s birthday in Tokyo. I swear, every single one of the ladies who I’ve treated with dinner on their birthday this year later dumped me faster than you can say “Sweet Child ‘O Mine”.

Lesson learned. Moving on. Cheers!
So it’s another New Year’s Eve.

Woke up this morning in a contemplative mood. I hope this thread will allow my fellow TAG members to share some of the good, bad and bittersweet lessons we’ve learned this year.

I’m getting old, but the first thing that came to mind is that I will never again celebrate a lady’s birthday in Tokyo. I swear, every single one of the ladies who I’ve treated with dinner on their birthday this year later dumped me faster than you can say “Sweet Child ‘O Mine”.

Lesson learned. Moving on. Cheers!


So I celebrated my bday in Tokyo with my wife in November. We had fun with two p2p ladies that went flawless. However, we do have a learn two poon lesson from earlier in the year. We had a regular in some Canadian major city. Well we popped in last minute to our regular. She suggested her “friend” in between the times she wasn’t available. Don’t judge we poon hard out of town. Anyways we find out her “friend” is her lover. Needless to say conversations get into when are you going to be in town next etc etc .

Lesson learned don’t poon in the middle of two lover providers.
 
2018 is the year I’ve started escorting.

Young Simona would have never guessed she would become an escort someday, because where I come from, an escort is the bottom of the barrel. Women are expected to get married, have children and live monogamous lives. Exploring our sexuality is limited to the marital bed. Women are conditioned to think that their body is a temple, little do they know that it’s actually an amusement park and they should enjoy the ride.

I’ve met many kind souls as an escort. (Lord knows I also had a handful of.. interesting experiences) Working in this industry made me realize women’s beauty comes in different forms as I’ve met and had duos with amazing business minded women who are strong and beautiful.

Like beauty, kindness is often a hidden gem and not as apparent as it seems to be. A lot of ‘nice’ people in public can be the exact opposite behind closed doors — especially when they are not under the surveillance of society anymore. As an escort, I’ve met many gentleman who respected my boundaries and enjoyed their sexuality within the limits of our mutual consent. This is a pure form of kindness to me.

I’ve touched different bodies and met a spectrum of personalities. The more people I’ve met the more I realized pleasure can come in many forms and it’s pointless to be fixated on a single body part or certain looks. Many times I was pleasantly surprised.

Most importantly now I know escorts are not only amazing in bed, but great conversation starters, listeners, and strong businesswomen as well.

Today I had my last amazing client of 2018. Thanks for accepting me into this wonderful community and putting up with my goofy personality :) Hope you have a happy new year everyone !
Wow ❤️
 
What I learned this past year, 2018 was the year I first delved into P4P.

It started with just looking for an HE MP in Japan but it opened my eyes to a whole new side of Japan that most tourists will never know. Started with a Thai MP, then went for and ended up preferring Korean MPs. Found a nice shop, became a regular at it, then the sadness from seeing that shop close down.

I learned about the soapland scene and started getting some FS action after a long dry spell. Having only seen soapland scenes in videos on various tube sites, I never thought it was an experience I could actually have.

I still have yet to try an escort, maybe this year is the year for that.

I also learned that IRL I have no one to talk to about my p4p activities and as such I am grateful for this site and all of you wonderful semi-anonymous strangers of various personalities on here with which to share the hobby with.

Here’s to the New Year! Happy mongering everyone! ;)
 
I also learned that IRL I have no one to talk to about my p4p activities and as such I am grateful for this site and all of you wonderful semi-anonymous strangers of various personalities on here with which to share the hobby with.

Here’s to the New Year! Happy mongering everyone! ;)

This is so true. Can't talk to anyone about it except on here. It's liberating.
 
What I’ve learned in 2018?
Anger , Jealousy and Resentment are useless
But I thought I had learnt it in 2017 and the years before too... :(

That happens, @Frenchy.
Year after year, I must remind myself of this: YMMV.
Your mileage may vary whether in a romantic affair, marriage or P4P. This is the plain truth.
I strive for a more even-keeled experience. Still, that takes time and effort.
 
That happens, @Frenchy.
Year after year, I must remind myself of this: YMMV.
Your mileage may vary whether in a romantic affair, marriage or P4P. This is the plain truth.
I strive for a more even-keeled experience. Still, that takes time and effort.

True, and even worse the way you measure that « mileage » may vary as well... over time your desires , hang-ups, etc change. For example I am less tight about money now. Less interested in sex per se. But still can get berzerk if I feel taken advantaged of or manipulated.
 
True, and even worse the way you measure that « mileage » may vary as well... over time your desires , hang-ups, etc change. For example I am less tight about money now. Less interested in sex per se. But still can get berzerk if I feel taken advantaged of or manipulated.

I understand. I’ve learned to be less tight about money with the ladies, too.
It hurts when you get taken advantage of or dismissed outright.
You would have been right to think that priority status was earned with all the time and investment you put in. Sadly, we’ve all learned the hard way that it doesn’t work that way.
So I’ve adjusted my approach — something I got used to at work, dealing with a lot of know-it-all bosses and young, social-climbing executives.
I learned to count a lot — up to 100, if needed — so I don’t blow my top and say or do something that I’ll regret later.
I also walk a lot to clear my head of bad thoughts. I try to smile, stay patient and keep the faith.
 
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I understand. I’ve learned to be less tight about money with the ladies, too.
It hurts when you get taken advantaged of or dismissed outright.
You would have been right to think that priority status was earned with all the time and investment you put in. Sadly, we’ve all learned the hard way that it doesn’t work that way.
So I’ve adjusted my approach — something I got used to at work, dealing with a lot of know-it-all bosses and young, social-climbing executives.
I learned to count a lot — up to 100, if needed — so I don’t blow my top and say or do something that I’ll regret later.
I also walk a lot to clear my head of bad thoughts. I try to smile, stay patient and keep the faith.

Very good tips, thanks. Walking helps me too. Also this little app called Calm , short guided meditations in the morning. And then constantly trying to remind myself that thoughts are just that, thoughts. They’re not real. It’s not always easy though.
 
Happy New Year!!

There were many lessons in life that 2018 had blessed me with. I will share with you a few that stood out and surprised me the most.

First, I’ve learned that I am totally in love with Japan. The culture, the people, their impeccable standards are like a lost art, and of course, the connections I’ve made in Japan have been so special. In all the places around the world that we have partaking in p4p, I wouldn’t have guessed that Japan is where all the gems are. This is now our new favorite place for adult play. I love how all the ladies that we have connected with in Japan fully chose their profession and truly love what they do (at least the ladies here on TAG).

Second, I’ve learned that even after 18 years of marriage, I have fallen into deeper love with my husband. He is truly one special human being. As we continue to create and explore new boundaries (not just in p4p but also in life) individually and as a couple, this test has invited me to practice different layers of unconditional love (to love without expectations while allowing the other person the freedom to explore what they are being called to without judgment); not always an easy task. I’m not sure how much longer we will partake in p4p but we are making the most out of each moment.

Third, throughout the last five years of p4p, I’ve come to have a much better understanding of my own sexuality in 2018. I’ve come to accept that my desire to be with women goes beyond curiosity, fun and simply to spice up my marriage. It goes beyond the physical pleasure and desires. No, I am not leaving my husband for another woman but I have a better clarity as to what direction we might want to explore together in the future beyond p4p.

Fourth, I’ve learned that at the end of the day, regardless of what circumstances each one of us are dealt with, LOVE, ACCEPTANCE and a sense of genuine human connection is at the core of all human desires.

I am very grateful to have this community. It has been very insightful and I love reading about the different perspectives from both the escorts and mongers about the p4p world. I am especially grateful for the ladies that we’ve had the privilege of connecting with in Japan. What they can provide for each person even if it’s momentary is unique and special and imo it’s like medicine for the soul. Thank you for your contributions ladies.

May your 2019 be blissful, fun and adventurous!:)
 
“I’ve learned that at the end of the day, regardless of what circumstances each one of us are dealt with, LOVE, ACCEPTANCE and a sense of genuine human connection is at the core of all human desires.”

Thank you for sharing, @Troilist, especially this gem quoted above.
I wish you and your loving spouse an absolutely amazing 2019!
 
Happy New Year!!

There were many lessons in life that 2018 had blessed me with. I will share with you a few that stood out and surprised me the most.

First, I’ve learned that I am totally in love with Japan. The culture, the people, their impeccable standards are like a lost art, and of course, the connections I’ve made in Japan have been so special. In all the places around the world that we have partaking in p4p, I wouldn’t have guessed that Japan is where all the gems are. This is now our new favorite place for adult play. I love how all the ladies that we have connected with in Japan fully chose their profession and truly love what they do (at least the ladies here on TAG).

Second, I’ve learned that even after 18 years of marriage, I have fallen into deeper love with my husband. He is truly one special human being. As we continue to create and explore new boundaries (not just in p4p but also in life) individually and as a couple, this test has invited me to practice different layers of unconditional love (to love without expectations while allowing the other person the freedom to explore what they are being called to without judgment); not always an easy task. I’m not sure how much longer we will partake in p4p but we are making the most out of each moment.

Third, throughout the last five years of p4p, I’ve come to have a much better understanding of my own sexuality in 2018. I’ve come to accept that my desire to be with women goes beyond curiosity, fun and simply to spice up my marriage. It goes beyond the physical pleasure and desires. No, I am not leaving my husband for another woman but I have a better clarity as to what direction we might want to explore together in the future beyond p4p.

Fourth, I’ve learned that at the end of the day, regardless of what circumstances each one of us are dealt with, LOVE, ACCEPTANCE and a sense of genuine human connection is at the core of all human desires.

I am very grateful to have this community. It has been very insightful and I love reading about the different perspectives from both the escorts and mongers about the p4p world. I am especially grateful for the ladies that we’ve had the privilege of connecting with in Japan. What they can provide for each person even if it’s momentary is unique and special and imo it’s like medicine for the soul. Thank you for your contributions ladies.

May your 2019 be blissful, fun and adventurous!:)

Beautiful text Troilist ! Thanks!
 
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Happy New Year!!

There were many lessons in life that 2018 had blessed me with. I will share with you a few that stood out and surprised me the most.

First, I’ve learned that I am totally in love with Japan. The culture, the people, their impeccable standards are like a lost art, and of course, the connections I’ve made in Japan have been so special. In all the places around the world that we have partaking in p4p, I wouldn’t have guessed that Japan is where all the gems are. This is now our new favorite place for adult play. I love how all the ladies that we have connected with in Japan fully chose their profession and truly love what they do (at least the ladies here on TAG).

Second, I’ve learned that even after 18 years of marriage, I have fallen into deeper love with my husband. He is truly one special human being. As we continue to create and explore new boundaries (not just in p4p but also in life) individually and as a couple, this test has invited me to practice different layers of unconditional love (to love without expectations while allowing the other person the freedom to explore what they are being called to without judgment); not always an easy task. I’m not sure how much longer we will partake in p4p but we are making the most out of each moment.

Third, throughout the last five years of p4p, I’ve come to have a much better understanding of my own sexuality in 2018. I’ve come to accept that my desire to be with women goes beyond curiosity, fun and simply to spice up my marriage. It goes beyond the physical pleasure and desires. No, I am not leaving my husband for another woman but I have a better clarity as to what direction we might want to explore together in the future beyond p4p.

Fourth, I’ve learned that at the end of the day, regardless of what circumstances each one of us are dealt with, LOVE, ACCEPTANCE and a sense of genuine human connection is at the core of all human desires.

I am very grateful to have this community. It has been very insightful and I love reading about the different perspectives from both the escorts and mongers about the p4p world. I am especially grateful for the ladies that we’ve had the privilege of connecting with in Japan. What they can provide for each person even if it’s momentary is unique and special and imo it’s like medicine for the soul. Thank you for your contributions ladies.

May your 2019 be blissful, fun and adventurous!:)

Hi Troilist,

Like this post...very very insightful and interesting.

Thanks

K and P
 
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