I find it so odd.
Especially on JapanCupid, where you can select that option on your profile.
Every single profile has "attractive" instead of just "average".
What the hell is going on in their mind?
There is no way, someone who is try to promote or sell something will say: "average woman looking for romance, some mental issues included!", "overweight drama queen", "old lady with 4 kids looking for a sugar daddy"
That’s right. There’s no way I’m going to tell people I’m a butterface with decent makeup skills and a weird sense of humor coupled with some cat fur on my coat.
I find it so odd.
Especially on JapanCupid, where you can select that option on your profile.
Every single profile has "attractive" instead of just "average".
What the hell is going on in their mind?
For all you know, you could be falling in love with a guy pretending to be a girl.
give them a break, I imagine signing up to Japan Cupid is depressing enough as it is, without then having to self-appraise as 'average'.I find it so odd.
Especially on JapanCupid, where you can select that option on your profile.
Every single profile has "attractive" instead of just "average".
What the hell is going on in their mind?
I always check "Average" on my profiles.
Maybe I'm not human.
Every single profile has "attractive" instead of just "average".
People have various opinions on what constitutes ‘attractive’. If the woman turns out to be a hound, pay for her coffee and move on.
It is a better scenario than escort agencies who photoshop pics and knock 20 years off the age of their ‘girls’.
Only westernized girls and gaijin hunters describe themselves as attractive or very attractive. Traditional jwomen are modest and most wouldn't do that (definetely not very attractive)
There are a few exceptions and it's not a dealbreaker at all, but for me its a red flag when I see 'very attractive'.
There's nothing more sexy than an attractive woman who's modest
I've read a lot of profiles of jguys to get inspiration for my own profile and I noticed they too are humble and describe themselves as average. So when in Rome do as the Romans do.
..but how can we make sure it’s genuine modesty and not just part of the “tatemae”?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I find nothing wrong with someone waking up, thinking they are attractive in their mind. Positive attitude = positive mind. Just my 2 cents.
Here is a theory....
Many times guys will tell a woman that she is pretty or even beautiful... If a woman hears this several times a day, then it's very likely she will begin to believe it... because the guys can not come up with anything original to say to the woman... that's my theory... but no scientific evidence to back it up
I've always thought and practiced, if a woman is attractive, then the last thing I would tell her how pretty she is... cuz she hears it all the time... listen to what she says and then compliment her intelligence, or maybe inner beauty if she has that... or her earrings, shoes, etc... it shows you are not just objectifying her for her appearance and requires you to listen and notice things that maybe more important to her and you separate yourself from all the other dudes that say the same boring things to this woman...
If the woman is overly confident in her looks/appearance, then... for me that's a bit of a turn-off honestly... How many women you know that do not have a mirror ? They see themselves everyday, now, many will focus only on their flaws/imperfections, which is where insecurities come into play......so they put on this facade of overly confident.... some call it "Bitch Attitude" but I'm not really found of that term, but it explains what I mean rather quickly and straight forward....
The funny thing is the more beautiful they are the more insecure they are. As soon as they stop receiving attention and validation no amount of logic or reason can stop the hamster from spinning.