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Partylyk1999

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Last year, I exchanged my LINE with a young lady. We hit it off and did a lot of chatting and hooked up 4 times in 2016. We never got into any negative chats and everything was wonderful, but she would only meet me at Love Hotels. Anyways, we had arranged to go to a museum in October. She didn't show up. It was her idea and she even told me about it. So I felt like she flaked on me. Then after a month of just chatting, she said she would like to go hiking with me. I prepared stuff and up until the day she said she was going. Again she didn't show. She even left a message saying she was looking forward to going hiking with me. After that I didn't talk to her for a while and I am guessing she graduated to ghosting. Because she stopped talking to me all together and now her LINE is deleted.
Is this a typical Japanese trait?
 
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That's pretty rough but chances are they were cheating on their SO like jbagz mentioned, or they were a catfish/fake.

I suggest moving on, not much you can do at this point.
 
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To be honest, I am not bothered by any of it. It's not like we were having a serious relationship. And I never really believed her when she would say she wanted to be my gf. I figured if we couldn't be seen in public together then we were never going to work.

But I was wondering if this was a common way to end relationships whether they are serious or not in Japan. Just disappear.
 
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Certainly I know she was pretending to be something she wasn't and that is because I read the same literature and I asked her if she was copying from a book about a geisha. That's when she got fidgety. And then I changed the subject to something else. After that our relationship changed a lot. But still continued.

I moved on and started seeing a new chic. I guess you could say is all I miss is the sex!!
 
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I heard that from another one of my female friends. I thought I was blocked maybe, but her number is disconnected too.

What a crappy way to end a relationship! I would have rather her say goodbye than just go silent. She left me some picures. Lol I think I will delete them.
 
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User#8628 said:
Yes, this is the common way in Japan. When guys wanna end something with me they always block me on line without an explaination.
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Both sides do the same buy mainly from girls in japan. They think ignoring - completely, blocking or read and not reply - is the best way to deal with a 'mendokusai' issue.
 
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Both sides do the same buy mainly from girls in japan. They think ignoring - completely, blocking or read and not reply - is the best way to deal with a 'mendokusai' issue.
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How do you know its "mainly girls"? Do you date Japanese men?
Japanese men are very shy and often cut it off this way.

Also i don't care about it, its just a bit sad you don't hear a reason if you got along well. But it does avoid conflict.
 
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User#8628 said:
How do you know its "mainly girls"? Do you date Japanese men?
Japanese men are very shy and often cut it off this way.

Also i don't care about it, its just a bit sad you don't hear a reason if you got along well. But it does avoid conflict.
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Because my Japanese guy friends usually don't cut things so quickly like what I see girls do to us guys. Both sides do it but girls have a tendency to do it a lot faster.
 
thats common, but only when there is no serious arrangement (or they dont take you seriously)...

never happened to me, but i dont really see any problems with that... if someone is not serious about me, then its better to end it... that way i also dont have to deal with any trash... and of course you can be certain that it was fling, or just some way to kill time...
but in your case, you knew that anyway...
 
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It's called relational aggression or a form of passive regressive behavior. Something like that. In the end this destroys the relationship.
 
vondoom said:
thats common, but only when there is no serious arrangement (or they dont take you seriously)...

never happened to me, but i dont really see any problems with that... if someone is not serious about me, then its better to end it... that way i also dont have to deal with any trash... and of course you can be certain that it was fling, or just some way to kill time...
but in your case, you knew that anyway...
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In my mind, I knew she and I were not going anywhere, yes! But we never had any bad moments so why couldn't she have just said goodbye? It's not like I would have made a big deal about it. And I'd have wished her well. I never burn bridges.
 
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does she know that?

and even if, she probably just didnt care... i also think she had someone else... so its likely that she had enough distraction not to think about it^^
 
vondoom said:
does she know that?

and even if, she probably just didnt care... i also think she had someone else... so its likely that she had enough distraction not to think about it^^
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I am sure she had a rich cat supporting her. We were never exclusive. The first time we hooked up it was awkward to have sex with her because she had little experience. That was not planned. We actually didn't meet there to have sex. It just kinda happened. Then she admitted to seeing someone. So you are right she does have someone. The last couple of times we had sex I blew her mind. Afterwards she started leaving me voice messages. I felt them to be strange and we had a chat. She said she wanted to talk about our future and she wanted to go with me on my annual hiking trip. Then basically she didn't show and was like gone. The point is that I found it strange that she disappeared like that. For all the time we chatted and while they were few, all that passionate time in the bed, I would have at least thought she would have said goodbye. A young lady like that definitely has a benefactor of some sort! She is the best dressed and most beautiful Japanese female I have ever seen. But I guess you could say that I flaked first actually. Commitment to a woman like that to me is like falling on a dagger. I'd have probably turned into Othello. But then again, I'd have rather her just tell me goodbye since she said she would never do me wrong since we were real friends. We even did the pinky thing! I guess it really meant nothing. Or it did and she couldn't leave her lifestyle. We have similar tastes! Maybe someday we will cross paths on a safari or something. You never know. I have no more to say. I am now focused on a new lady. Closer to my age. Maybe that will make a difference. Sorry for the rant! It's hard to say goodbye when you were just getting started!
 
that might make a difference... besides looks i never understood the appeal of japanese women under 25... i just cant talk to them usually...
 
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vondoom said:
that might make a difference... besides looks i never understood the appeal of japanese women under 25... i just cant talk to them usually...
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We started talking in a bookstore lol. I couldn't help but comment on her looks! And choice in books. Emily Bronte novel! She was 20 and now 21. She has a butt like Stoya the pornstar. Mercy!
 
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Partylyk1999 said:
I heard that from another one of my female friends. I thought I was blocked maybe, but her number is disconnected too.

What a crappy way to end a relationship! I would have rather her say goodbye than just go silent. She left me some picures. Lol I think I will delete them.
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Just on another note. LINE is among the most stupid shit ever developed by humankind.
While you have multiple ways to sign on and may never use the phone number from your profile, it beats any other means.
It's easy to forget to change the phone number in your line profile when you change your contract as line keeps working, but as soon as someone else registers with your former number LINE removes itself from your phone or rather removes all user data. This includes chat history as well as contacts etc.
Happened to me once and I was able to regain my account by login in through the pc client within 2minutes and change the associated number, but at least 90% of my contacts and 100% of my user data were wiped. I'm not sure, but only the contacts I added by phone number remained (how often do you do that?).
Of course there is zero help by their support if that happens.
I also had a few times people dissappear when they changed phone, not phone number.
It's very convenient as long as it works, but I made damn sure to not ever again use it as single source of contact for anyone important to me.
 
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Partylyk1999 said:
To be honest, I am not bothered by any of it. It's not like we were having a serious relationship. And I never really believed her when she would say she wanted to be my gf. I figured if we couldn't be seen in public together then we were never going to work.

But I was wondering if this was a common way to end relationships whether they are serious or not in Japan. Just disappear.
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It is common and called 自然消滅
 
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Vulkan said:
It is common and called 自然消滅
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I have to remember that! I don't really date J chics. I mainly dated an American lady but last year she returned home. And I didn't follow. So you could say I am a noob to dealing with Japanese chics, Asians in general. I wasn't sure if it was normal or she was giving me the silent treatment. I was trying to think about what I might have done to bring that about. But I really couldn't after thinking about it. I am still puzzled as to why you would buy me a present, take a photo, and then say you would bring it and give it to me on the hiking trip. It's a mystery but one that will stay that way.
 
RandomTokyoGuy said:
Just on another note. LINE is among the most stupid shit ever developed by humankind.
While you have multiple ways to sign on and may never use the phone number from your profile, it beats any other means.
It's easy to forget to change the phone number in your line profile when you change your contract as line keeps working, but as soon as someone else registers with your former number LINE removes itself from your phone or rather removes all user data. This includes chat history as well as contacts etc.
Happened to me once and I was able to regain my account by login in through the pc client within 2minutes and change the associated number, but at least 90% of my contacts and 100% of my user data were wiped. I'm not sure, but only the contacts I added by phone number remained (how often do you do that?).
Of course there is zero help by their support if that happens.
I also had a few times people dissappear when they changed phone, not phone number.
It's very convenient as long as it works, but I made damn sure to not ever again use it as single source of contact for anyone important to me.
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I thought about this too. I did get her number so after fixing my LINE (it had a glitch), I tried to use her number to add her back, but the number could not be found. So then I tried to call her and it was disconnected.
I never offered her my email as we were mostly chatting and occasionally hooking up (her idea).
You could be right or she just ghosted the relationship for whatever reason. I could be too old for her or her opening up to me about how I make/made her feel. I am not sure cause we never fought, or had any drama or anything ever go wrong. That's why I am puzzled. The last time I saw her she was so happy that we got together. Anyways, no worries or emotion in my end! I just wanted to know if it was cultural or not. I can't see the game element either. There was nothing to gain by it.
 
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