Would You Date A Stripper, Escort, Or Hostess?

TAG Manager said:
I guess this is a good point for me to interject my comments.

I'm in constant contact with a number of working girls but only a couple that I really sit down and talk to. It really feels to me that they need an outlet to talk about their work and have some sort of emotional support or release since they may not have many friends in the business or simply can't talk about her work with her normal friends or family.

Some ladies have really a really good support system through friends or their significant other. Others, just simply don't have anything except maybe LINE. ;)

From a personal standpoint, since I've already dated someone in the business, I suppose that I could date or be involved with a working girl. However, I imagine that in the back of my mind, I'd have to reassure myself that she was doing her job in a safe manner. (i.e. testing for STDs and using protection and not doing risky things...) Some may argue that my point about the 'safe manner' can be debated, but if I'm intimate with her, then it's two lives at stake should either one of us become infected with something bad or something that doesn't go away with meds.

Lastly, I've been told by a number of girls that what they do for their job in bed is completely different from what they do with a regular partner. I don't have enough experience to judge on this point, lol... but those comments seem genuine. :)

I was recently rejected from going out with someone because I don't really drink alcohol. Not because of any other reason, just simply because they couldn't go out with someone that didn't drink. wtf? :rolleyes:
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts :)
Yes I understand there is huge difference for sex between partner and clients. Maybe I am too boring but I need to take time to become an completely "Independent" in many ways :shy:
 
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Yuma said:
Maybe I am too boring but I need to take time to become an completely "Independent" in many ways :shy:
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Nah, I don't think you're boring. :cool: You're just fine the way you are, just don't let this line of work change who you are.
 
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what they do for their job in bed is completely different from what they do with a regular partner
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Yeah, that's what I got. Immediately knew I liked this escort. Told her at the end of the session I wanted to meet her. Went out. Dinner only. Politely raised further contact and in a very Japanese way she signalled that any payment is the antithesis of the point of going out together, but that we can meet as client/escort. Did a week later and it was really odd for both. Coy, shy-like. Jokingly referred to her in 'trade' name in some contexts... Sweet. Kind of like her more for her stance.
 
Sudsy said:
I have dated strippers and escorts in the past, and would again.

I draw the line at hostesses.

Strippers and escorts are generally involved in a fair exchange of payment for services, while hostesses tend to learn to be deceitful and manipulative because of the environment they work in.
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mmmmmm deceitful. and manipulative.. i think i married her
 
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I would probably date her without being serious about the relationship.
 
I'm happily married now... then the question would seem a bit weird as I am not exactly available for strong romantic attachment.
Before that... It was another story.

Short answer is : I would have definitely fell easily for some exceptional escorts and actually I did...

I guess I am very sensitive to the mix of extreme sensuality and insecurity... Like crazy. I am attracted (emotionally and physically) only by women with a lot of sexual experience and strong sex drive.

Now, if it becomes serious, I doubt I would accept her to continue her activity (i had to think seriously about this when I was in the situation).
In other words, I was open to get engaged with an ex escort... But not with an active escort.
 
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Sudsy said:
I have dated strippers and escorts in the past, and would again.

I draw the line at hostesses.

Strippers and escorts are generally involved in a fair exchange of payment for services, while hostesses tend to learn to be deceitful and manipulative because of the environment they work in.
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Totally agree. I dated escorts and strippers in the past and would do it in a heart beat. I would never date a hostess for the above-stated reason.
 
Yeah, as much as I'd like to think I could do the open relationship thing, I don't think I could do it. I've dated a woman or two that formerly worked in the adult world or at least they hinted as such, and that's not a problem for me.
 
isnt the main problem with most open relationships that the dude hopes to have sex with whatever many partners, only to realise that his partner can have 5 partners a week, while he gets 5 every few month? not to mention that maybe the female part spnds more time outside than he wants to?
 
vondoom said:
isnt the main problem with most open relationships that the dude hopes to have sex with whatever many partners, only to realise that his partner can have 5 partners a week, while he gets 5 every few month? not to mention that maybe the female part spnds more time outside than he wants to?
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Not if both parties think it through.
Also some partners quite like their girlfriend to earn the income of an escort (of course this could easily be taken advantage of, but it can also be in more innocent ways, like he wants to start his own business and doesn't earn well at first so she covers most living expenses, then he returns the favor when his business takes off, or he has a good job and they have a fancy double income!)
 
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Not if both parties think it through.
Also some partners quite like their girlfriend to earn the income of an escort (of course this could easily be taken advantage of, but it can also be in more innocent ways, like he wants to start his own business and doesn't earn well at first so she covers most living expenses, then he returns the favor when his business takes off, or he has a good job and they have a fancy double income!)
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sure... that sounds like a business model to me...
i was just talking about "open relationships", as meiji mentioned...

for the initial question, i think its difficult for me to answer, since ive never been in such a situation... but as i stated in some other thread, i do meet those women quite regularly (by accident) and they are always very nice... so technically that could lead to dating... but i also dont know if i could do that... stripper, no problem at all... but beyound that, really difficult to say... and im not remotely thinking about claiming someone for myself...
 
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isnt the main problem with most open relationships that the dude hopes to have sex with whatever many partners, only to realise that his partner can have 5 partners a week, while he gets 5 every few month? not to mention that maybe the female part spnds more time outside than he wants to?
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No, not in my experience at least.

-Ww
 
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Dating is okay, but I would not consider a partnership. People bring their work problems home with them and the partner ends up cleaning the mess from work. Second, I would have to consider the children's education/upbringing. Her work will affect the children. Third, I'm not sure I want the industry to be a part of my life. To visit is one thing. To marry it is not.
 
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I'm fine with hostesses and strippers and have dated both. Escorts I usually don't seek out/pursue very much and I would probably prefer to just be friends.. But I'm always surprising myself and if the chemistry was there who knows what would happen!

My good friend loves picking up escorts on the street and dating them though
 
I did write a couple of blog entries on this topic. However, after I posted them, I received messages from well-intentioned people asking if I was depressed. I had seen my musings as pragmatic rather than sad. I also received two marriage proposals, so that was sweet.

http://www.mischamaxwell.com/new-blog/

If the roles were reversed, I would date an ex-male stripper or escort. The reason I say "ex" is that I'm attracted to older men. I'm not sure how many men are working as strippers or escorts into their 40s...
 
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Wwanderer said:
You have an odd idea of what the word "older" means! :eek: :D

-Ww
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Whoops, sorry. I didn't mean to offend anyone.

I see "old" as 80 years plus.
I see "older" as anyone older than me.

Again, my apologies.
 
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