What should my next moves be?

First and foremost id like to add before i begin, im not a horrible looking guy yet not a stunner, Id say im 7 out of 10, great shape. And i could handle myself well whenever i speak to a random girl. I honestly dont feel any discomfort when speaking to a new girl.

So there is a place next to my apartment that serves the community and there is this cute Okinawan working there. I went in there to speak with her about 4 days ago and it went really well. We talked about quiet a few things and i got her to laugh most of the time we were talking. I would say she enjoyed my company. I also told her that she is very pretty, i only complomented her about 3 times and when ever i did she laughed but never said thank you haha. She just talked her self out of it. And she is also interested in Spanish, which i can speak.

We spoke for about 20 minutes. We shared interests and id say we connected. I then asked for her line and she gave me it. She needed to leave becuase the place was closing and i helped out. As she was about to leave I told her that i would come by to help out again the next day. I texted her the same day about 3 hours after we spoke and she hasn't replied since, and i know i screwed up there becuase it was a lengthy text, i said i hoped she had a safe ride home and i then told her if she ate yet. I recently looked up the proper ways to text and this was def the opposite of what i should be doing. She also looked at the message as it indicated "read".

I told her i would help out again as she entered her car she said "ok, see you tomorrow, good night"

So she didn't text back but i still went to help out. I went to the place and the supervisor was there. She was busy cleaning. I decided to speak to him, and to save another story, we connected pretty well and he then went off for a small break. Within that break i tried to speak to her, but she was a little busy, i wasn't able to help. I told her if she needed help in Spanish, she said she couldn't understand and also said that she is cleaning right now, she did not want to be bothered.

So we did not end up speaking after. So i directed my attention to the supervisor and showed him a talent of mine. Im able to beatbox really well and he also is a DJ so i decided to show him a bit while she was nearby to try to get her atenttion. After i was done, i glanced at her and she was smiling a bit. Id say she was probably impressed and didn't expect that from me as no one would. So, me and the manager spoke the whole time and then she left saying her good byes. Id like to say she directed them more towards her supervisor than me.

So, she hasn't texted back and i dont want it to look like im desperate . I will not text her again until she texts back. So im thinking about going to the place and just meet other people that work there to try to make it look like im ignoring her to try to get her more interested. And also, im really good at meeting new people, once i get the ball rolling im usually the guy of the room.

What should i do next gents? Please criticize as much as possible, do not hold back

Desktop said:

Do you both work there?
Is this a volunteer job or is it her real job?
Point is are you chatting her up for 20 minutes at the end of her work day & then telling her you are going to do the same thing tomorrow?
Most people get in trouble for this or possibly scolded by their supervisor don't they.
If you want to date her, ask her out for a date. Do an activity together, eat ice cream etc.
I'm going to wait until you get off & follow you or ask you out might be creepy to ladies.

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Thank you very much for the reply!

Its her work, I am just volunteering there. I don't think she will be scolded becuase of me, I have a good relationship so far with the supervisor.

And when i first met her when we were chatting it was just me and her in the building, no one else.

Yes, i would like to ask her out for a date. But is this a good time to do that? I think i need to create a little distance between her and me so I dont seem desperate. I think that might lower my chances.

And thats where im a little stumped. I haven't ran into a girl like this. I guess i have been lucky so far.

TAG_Member said:

I'd say she isn't interested. Based on what you wrote, I'd say you came across too strong with the compliments and caring messages in person. The long text, especially asking if she has eaten, most likely killed it and put you in the 'despetrate' category. Going back again the next day made things worse.

Don't know how king you've been in japan but don't mixup girls here being polite and friendly as them liking you. Unlike back home, they are almost always this way.

I could be wrong but if someone doesn't reply a line message, especially if read, it's a sure sign they are not interested. She may reply after a few days to be polite but she is still not interested.

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TAG_Member said:

I'd say she isn't interested. Based on what you wrote, I'd say you came across too strong with the compliments and caring messages in person. The long text, especially asking if she has eaten, most likely killed it and put you in the 'despetrate' category. Going back again the next day made things worse.

Don't know how king you've been in japan but don't mixup girls here being polite and friendly as them liking you. Unlike back home, they are almost always this way.

I could be wrong but if someone doesn't reply a line message, especially if read, it's a sure sign they are not interested. She may reply after a few days to be polite but she is still not interested.

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I think what really got me was the text. And i dont know about the compliments, I dont really think they were too soon. I just added a few compliments. I should have waited a day or two to text her.

Ive been here for 3 years. I understand that.

Hm, I also do agree with the last comment. Maybe she just isnt interested. I will see what I can do.

What do you think I could have done instead? Im sure it could have been better.

krdxgm69 said:

To me, nothing. And you could have make things worse insisting.

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Im going to take this

Gunmachan said:

I think you were too intrusive, I wouldn't even have asked her Line on the first day.
By what you wrote, you seem really hungry, that might have scared her.

Also, having someone "wrapped around your legs" (don't know how to translate that one) when you're trying to pack up and go home can be quite upsetting, however fun you might be. Wrong time, wrong place.

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Oh, actually, she mentioned she was really hungry before she left. That would have been extremely weird if I just told her that lol.

The thing is, she enjoyed my company, she even mentioned how no one really talks to her and she said she had some friends that worked there but they left to a different city. But yes, I understand what your saying and I will keep that in mind.

I usually ask for Line accounts first and everything goes well, this one is a little different though haha. Its cool though, its not like im stuck up on her. I just wanted to get some feed back.

Sinapse said:

Best way to fix over thinking about one girl?

Talk to 5 more

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I just wanted some feed back on this one man, im not stuck over one girl haha.