I'm certainly one of those women who are not greatly taken with vibrators. For me, the steady continuous vibration is distractingly artificial and I can't relax into it easily.
The reactions of women to vibrators surprised me over the years and partners with its huge variations:
- I have met women who adored them from their first encounter with one. I have a vivid (decades old) memory of a beautiful young woman gasping for breath on my bed after her first vibrator experience and orgasm and exclaiming, "Fucking amazing! I'll never need to keep a man happy again, can't imagine one this good!" She was joking...maybe?
- I have met women who enjoy vibrators but who can happily take them or leave them...just one more way of being stimulated.
- I have met women who disliked them on a first or first few tries but who learned to enjoy or even love them after a bit of experimentation with how to use them and with different types of vibrators. This does not seem at all surprising when one considers that many (maybe most?) women don't find ordinary vaginal intercourse enjoyable (and may find it actively painful) until they get some experience with it and have done some experimentation with what works for them.
- I have met women who have tried them only once or a few times and then given up on them and never given good vibrations another chance.
- And I have met women who never come to enjoy vibrators at all even after a lot of attempts/experiments.
Anecdotally, my impression is that the third group is the largest and most common. Very often I suspect a woman's first attempt to use a vibrator (or have one used on her) is the obvious and straightforward one of simply turning it on and pressing it against her clit or inserting it, and indeed this works *great* for some of them. But for most women, I think a lighter touch and a slowly escalating use during love making works better...or use only at the end of a session to go "over the top".
Porn perhaps causes a lot of women to try first one of the massive and high-powered Hitachi Magic Wand type vibrators and simply jam it into their crotch. I have encountered very very few, like 2 or 3, women who find that comfortable, and most find it very uncomfortable and perhaps painful. This is sort of the polar-opposite type of vibrator from the one I mention in posts above.
Anyway, my advice is to be very flexible, experimental, open-minded and creative with vibrators (and other toys for that matter). For example, re
@User#16452's quote above, there is no reason that one need use a vibrator to produce a "steady continuous vibration". Many vibrators have settings in which they pulse the vibrations in bursts or change speeds regularly or continuously, and more importantly, you or your lover need not apply the vibrator continuously/steadily or in one spot. Switching back and forth between oral and vibrator stimulation often works very well, for example.
Of course, no toy or technique suits all...which is part of the fun of sex in a way.
-Ww