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No sex toy anyone (including me) has ever used on me does anything much for me, but I do LOVE to use toys to give women over-the-top pleasure. In that sense, whatever toy works best for my partner-of-the-moment is my favorite.

There is one particular brand of mini-vibrator I have discovered that is wildly effective and popular with a large majority (but not all) women who enjoy vibrators. I frequently give it as a gift, and it becomes the all-time favorite of many who receive it, including toy-loving @Kitty Carr (who seems to have abandoned TAG btw...no posts or logons in months...hope she is OK); see http://www.tokyoadultguide.com/threads/what-are-the-latest-sex-toys.8177/#post-28034 for her testimony. The last young lady to whom I gave one of these little gems recently told me that she now uses it on herself pretty much every night before sleep if she hasn't had satisfying sex earlier in the day. Etc. Anyway, the secret of this rather simple and fairly inexpensive little toy seems to be that it operates at higher speeds/frequencies (2-speeds) but in a more gentle/smoother and less rough way than most other vibrators. So, if I had to pick a single fave toy, it would be that vibrator.

-Ww
 
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Speaking of scratching, I guess a diamond-in-the-rough dildo would be a very bad idea! ;)

-Ww
 
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Wwanderer said:
No sex toy anyone (including me) has ever used on me does anything much for me, but I do LOVE to use toys to give women over-the-top pleasure. In that sense, whatever toy works best for my partner-of-the-moment is my favorite.

There is one particular brand of mini-vibrator I have discovered that is wildly effective and popular with a large majority (but not all) women who enjoy vibrators. I frequently give it as a gift, and it becomes the all-time favorite of many who receive it, including toy-loving @Kitty Carr (who seems to have abandoned TAG btw...no posts or logons in months...hope she is OK); see http://www.tokyoadultguide.com/threads/what-are-the-latest-sex-toys.8177/#post-28034 for her testimony. The last young lady to whom I gave one of these little gems recently told me that she now uses it on herself pretty much every night before sleep if she hasn't had satisfying sex earlier in the day. Etc. Anyway, the secret of this rather simple and fairly inexpensive little toy seems to be that it operates at higher speeds/frequencies (2-speeds) but in a more gentle/smoother and less rough way than most other vibrators. So, if I had to pick a single fave toy, it would be that vibrator.

-Ww
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Ww, where did you get it I remember reading that from kitty and wanted to ask.
 
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@Wwanderer I'm definitely still alive; focusing more on Twitter and touring in the US and Asia than Japan in the last few months. Yes, I'm still using that white vibrator and absolutely love it. Two died but the third lives on!
 
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Kitty Carr said:
@Wwanderer I'm definitely still alive
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GOOD! :)

Yes, I'm still using that white vibrator and absolutely love it. Two died but the third lives on!
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I will supply replacements when/if needed, of course. (They do appear to have a high failure rate, including once at the WORST POSSIBLE moment in my experience.)

-Ww
 
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Ww, where did you get it I remember reading that from kitty and wanted to ask.
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Amazon...are there other places to buy anything?

I'll post the brand and name when I get a chance...posting on the fly at the moment.

-Ww
 
User#16452 said:
I'm certainly one of those women who are not greatly taken with vibrators. For me, the steady continuous vibration is distractingly artificial and I can't relax into it easily.
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The reactions of women to vibrators surprised me over the years and partners with its huge variations:

- I have met women who adored them from their first encounter with one. I have a vivid (decades old) memory of a beautiful young woman gasping for breath on my bed after her first vibrator experience and orgasm and exclaiming, "Fucking amazing! I'll never need to keep a man happy again, can't imagine one this good!" She was joking...maybe?

- I have met women who enjoy vibrators but who can happily take them or leave them...just one more way of being stimulated.

- I have met women who disliked them on a first or first few tries but who learned to enjoy or even love them after a bit of experimentation with how to use them and with different types of vibrators. This does not seem at all surprising when one considers that many (maybe most?) women don't find ordinary vaginal intercourse enjoyable (and may find it actively painful) until they get some experience with it and have done some experimentation with what works for them.

- I have met women who have tried them only once or a few times and then given up on them and never given good vibrations another chance.

- And I have met women who never come to enjoy vibrators at all even after a lot of attempts/experiments.

Anecdotally, my impression is that the third group is the largest and most common. Very often I suspect a woman's first attempt to use a vibrator (or have one used on her) is the obvious and straightforward one of simply turning it on and pressing it against her clit or inserting it, and indeed this works *great* for some of them. But for most women, I think a lighter touch and a slowly escalating use during love making works better...or use only at the end of a session to go "over the top".

Porn perhaps causes a lot of women to try first one of the massive and high-powered Hitachi Magic Wand type vibrators and simply jam it into their crotch. I have encountered very very few, like 2 or 3, women who find that comfortable, and most find it very uncomfortable and perhaps painful. This is sort of the polar-opposite type of vibrator from the one I mention in posts above.

Anyway, my advice is to be very flexible, experimental, open-minded and creative with vibrators (and other toys for that matter). For example, re @User#16452's quote above, there is no reason that one need use a vibrator to produce a "steady continuous vibration". Many vibrators have settings in which they pulse the vibrations in bursts or change speeds regularly or continuously, and more importantly, you or your lover need not apply the vibrator continuously/steadily or in one spot. Switching back and forth between oral and vibrator stimulation often works very well, for example.

Of course, no toy or technique suits all...which is part of the fun of sex in a way.

-Ww
 
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Emma-Emerio said:
Personally, while I do enjoy sex toys and various forms of vibrators, it's never quite as good as the 'real deal'. it's much easier for me to get aroused when I'm not the only one playing :p
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Surely the underlined part is true of most people, but who says toys are only or mostly for when you are playing alone?? Playmates make many types of toys, sexual and otherwise, more fun!

-Ww
 
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I will supply replacements when/if needed, of course. (They do appear to have a high failure rate, including once at the WORST POSSIBLE moment in my experience.
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Well, that made me laugh out loud in a coffee shop in London just now! That has definitely happened to me and I can't describe the frustration. I think we both screamed 'NOOO!' I managed to finish manually that time, but the change in sensation can really throw me off.

Thank you for the kind offer to supply more! Just send me a box of them for my next birthday. :D

Reading @Emma-Emerio and @jblair's comments about vibrators makes me a little bit self-conscious, actually. I take a while to come, and though I can get there manually or with oral sex (if the man or woman is gifted), by far the easiest way is during sex with a vibrator. I've always been envious of women who can come just from penetration, because I definitely can't. I think there's actually a huge stigma for women who bring a vibrator into the mix, and I always appreciate it when a man is actively enthusiastic about it rather than threatened.

Regarding dildoes: I've learned a lot about my own sexuality since beginning escorting, and I've realised that as something of a masochist I actually like the sensation of something almost too big and hard and having to adjust to that gradually (oh dear, I'm getting all worked up at said coffee shop now). There's nothing like 'the real thing', as @Emma-Emerio correctly said, but as @Wwanderer also correctly said, toys are not just for solo play, and I wish more couples would realise that. I feel like a toy wielded by the right man (or woman - am I right, Emma? ;)) can provide an equally intense experience.
 
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Kitty Carr said:
Thank you for the kind offer to supply more! Just send me a box of them for my next birthday. :D
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I usually keep two or three cases of them on-hand in my apartment, so just drop by and pick one or two up whenever it's convenient. ;)

Reading @Emma-Emerio and @User#16452's comments about vibrators makes me a little bit self-conscious, actually. I take a while to come, and though I can get there manually or with oral sex (if the man or woman is gifted), by far the easiest way is during sex with a vibrator. I've always been envious of women who can come just from penetration, because I definitely can't. I think there's actually a huge stigma for women who bring a vibrator into the mix, and I always appreciate it when a man is actively enthusiastic about it rather than threatened.
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Yep, it's definitely true that a lot of guys dislike vibrators, and it's my impression that dildos are even less welcome additions to a sexual encounter for many men. I have a few times seen threads about toys on men-only monger boards, and quite a few guys really rant-on at great length about how much they despise them and feel insulted when a woman wants to involve toys in their play, whether p4p or np4p. However, there is also a sizable group who, like me, are very enthusiastic about toys. I suppose that they would not show up so frequently in porn (which is made mostly for male audiences of course) were it not so; there are even who genres of somewhat kinky porn devoted to women being stimulated by toys.

The psychology behind both liking and disliking toys seems interesting to me, but perhaps a topic better discussed over a glass of wine than online.

In any case, I can see that it could be a delicate issue for escorts to navigate...having to somehow guess in advance whether a customer would be delighted or insulted if she pulls one out of her bag of tricks (word play intended).

-Ww
 
Emma-Emerio said:
I believe you misunderstood my post; while I do enjoy toys, I prefer using them with a partner(s).
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Indeed, I misunderstood. Thanks for the clarification.

I actually had the pleasure of experiencing that white vibrator you gave to Kitty, and it was nothing less than magical!

Needless to say, I am expecting a delivery from Amazon very soon ;)
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I am delighted to have brought you some pleasure, E-E, even if only at second hand. Were you surprised when you tried it? Those vibes look very ordinary and unimpressive imo, even a bit pedestrian and cheap, but for a large fraction of women they do seem to work incredibly well. I have wondered if they were designed by a woman or, probably less likely, a man who listened to what a woman told him she liked. :rolleyes:

Anyway, you too are welcome to drop by my apt in Tokyo and pick one up when the need strikes! ;)

-Ww
 
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