For Escorts: What Has Suprised You The Most About Your Chosen Profession?
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How normal it feels.
Media make escort sound very sensational and either terrible or very exciting and thrilling. And they make it sound like the girls are not real people.
But it feels pretty normal doing it and a little boring. Sometimes there are glamorous situations when a guy is insanely rich or something but of course there are not many of those customers.
But in general it's still very fun and nice to meet new people.
I'm also surprised how many guys are attracted to me and how positive they are when they meet me.
They pay a lot so i expected some guys are very critical and point out little things they don't like about my looks, behavoir, technique...
But they are all very nice and try to enjoy a lot together. They try really hard to please me and make me enjoy as well.
At first i was scared some guys would hit me and/or try to take my money but they are all very gentle. The few cases that guys tried to not pay or to steal money were all done in a sneaky way, not aggressive fortunately.
I was also surprised by Japanese guys because manga makes it sound like the people here are very perverted but they are almost all into vanilla, at least the guys i met.
Media make escort sound very sensational and either terrible or very exciting and thrilling. And they make it sound like the girls are not real people.
But it feels pretty normal doing it and a little boring. Sometimes there are glamorous situations when a guy is insanely rich or something but of course there are not many of those customers.
But in general it's still very fun and nice to meet new people.
I'm also surprised how many guys are attracted to me and how positive they are when they meet me.
They pay a lot so i expected some guys are very critical and point out little things they don't like about my looks, behavoir, technique...
But they are all very nice and try to enjoy a lot together. They try really hard to please me and make me enjoy as well.
At first i was scared some guys would hit me and/or try to take my money but they are all very gentle. The few cases that guys tried to not pay or to steal money were all done in a sneaky way, not aggressive fortunately.
I was also surprised by Japanese guys because manga makes it sound like the people here are very perverted but they are almost all into vanilla, at least the guys i met.
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I think the most what surprised me were married men. The first time someone told me that he's married I felt a little bit guilty 
but during that time I was a total beginner and had no idea whatsoever. (And that was around 4 years ago...)
Another surprise is how well clients take care of my own pleasure. I rarely go out of a hotel room without an orgasm and that's simply great if a guy likes to go down on a woman. (That doesn't really happen in private or I simply chose the wrong guys haha )
but during that time I was a total beginner and had no idea whatsoever. (And that was around 4 years ago...) Another surprise is how well clients take care of my own pleasure. I rarely go out of a hotel room without an orgasm and that's simply great if a guy likes to go down on a woman. (That doesn't really happen in private or I simply chose the wrong guys haha
)The very low chance of being in a dangerous situation while escorting in Tokyo..
Before escorting, I used to watch all these documentaries on American sex workers.. just to give me an "idea" of what to expect. One escort who used to charge $1,000 per hour in Las Vegas said that she would occasionally get abused by clients in 5-star hotels. A streetwalker in LA said that she had a gun placed to her head once by a man who wanted free sex. Scary stuff like that..
I was very worried.. but I decided to just give it a try because I worked for an agency at that time and I was told that nothing bad will happen to me since they did background checks.. and they were right. Though I had a few creepy/weird clients while working for this agency, I've never been in a life-threatening situation.
But now I'm getting ready to go independent.. so I will have to do the screening process myself. Don't really know what to expect, but I'm confident that I'll manage well
Before escorting, I used to watch all these documentaries on American sex workers.. just to give me an "idea" of what to expect. One escort who used to charge $1,000 per hour in Las Vegas said that she would occasionally get abused by clients in 5-star hotels. A streetwalker in LA said that she had a gun placed to her head once by a man who wanted free sex. Scary stuff like that..
I was very worried.. but I decided to just give it a try because I worked for an agency at that time and I was told that nothing bad will happen to me since they did background checks.. and they were right. Though I had a few creepy/weird clients while working for this agency, I've never been in a life-threatening situation.
But now I'm getting ready to go independent.. so I will have to do the screening process myself. Don't really know what to expect, but I'm confident that I'll manage well
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*wave* I'm here Anna!great if a guy likes to go down on a woman. (That doesn't really happen in private or I simply chose the wrong guys haha
Not saying that there would be anything to critisize about you, but it would actually not be very smart to do so. From a "customer" point of view, I would only devalue my own experience / enjoyment.
Ask yourself, do you prefer to dwell on things that didn't work out 100% or rather keep in mind the positives.
Giving some guidance is different, but a negative / critical mindset almost surely translates into negative experience too.
Seems pretty natural, at least to me
Of course that is the right mindset but there are always people who like to nag.*wave* I'm here Anna!
Not saying that there would be anything to critisize about you, but it would actually not be very smart to do so. From a "customer" point of view, I would only devalue my own experience / enjoyment.
Ask yourself, do you prefer to dwell on things that didn't work out 100% or rather keep in mind the positives.
Giving some guidance is different, but a negative / critical mindset almost surely translates into negative experience too.
Seems pretty natural, at least to me
Like people who go to a restaurant and complain a lot about the service and the food while it's not that bad but they seem to enjoy complaining.
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simply great if a guy likes to go down on a woman. (That doesn't really happen in private or I simply chose the wrong guys haha
The escort with whom I had a major/SO-type relationship for many years said much the same. She always used to talk about how much more oral sex she got to receive as an escort than she did in conventional dating and when she lived with an SO...and about how great a part of the job it was.
Of course that was a couple of decades back... I would have imagined that it would be more common in "civilian life" these days, but maybe not.
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I'll never understand guys that aren't willing to go down on their partners.
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Don't either...
Of course, I've had partners who were not really thrilled with getting gone down on for whatever reason.
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Well some do go down but only a few seconds for a short 'warm up the oven' type of thing. It seems that it is very bothersome and tiring because women take a little longer to orgasm. That's a least my point of view.
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I think that may say more about their technique than their partner....
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Some people aren't happy unless they are whining........
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Don't assume that's your problem, but it is incredibly encouraging to receive some sort of reaction (met a few girls in Japan who where just lying there like dead fish). As strange as I sounds, there are women who are not so much into it and it doesn't really help the endurance if you wonder whether she does that for you or you do it for her. Don't mean fake moaning (unless that turns you on), just let one know if you hit a good spot, softly pull the head bit between your legs, you can also simply ask for more. Guess once the oven gets hot and your body shows some physical reaction, motivation isn't the problem.
However @User#8628 pointed out that it's significantly more easy to get a guy very aroused than taking the last step orally too and I think the same applies for the other way around too.
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It's not always the technique but most guys I met private assumed that rubbing my clit for 30 seconds gets me off. Well, nope... Not even close.
But I agree with the rest.
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But it's in most Japanese AV so it must be true......
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You know that for constructive criticism some suggestions / guidance for improvement is absolutely necessary. E g. @Anna Summer made it very clear that she needs at least 31seconds of attention.
On another note I think you are fine if they only attack you with their fingers if they have been schooled by Japanese AV.
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A sort of corollary is that a guy should NOT think that what pleases one woman will also please another, and that goes double for oral stimulation - both kissing and cunnilingus. What sends one woman over the top may well be unpleasant or worse to another. Moreover, some women enjoy being stimulated in a wide variety of ways while others only get significant pleasures out of one very specific way of doing it. That's my experience at least.
Unfortunately, many women are reluctant to let you know what they like and don't like, most likely because they have had bad to very bad reactions from men whose (often hyper-sensitive) egos cannot tolerate anything that could be remotely construed as criticism of their love-making technique. Or maybe they are just shy about sexuality. Either way, it often leaves a guy who wants to please his woman in bed stuck with a guessing game or an extended series of trial-and-error "experiments". That said, it is definitely worth doing whatever is required to get it right imo.
One little trick - a lot of women who aren't comfortable telling you what feels particularly good or bad are ok with signaling it non-verbally in some way. For example, you can hold one of their hands while you go down on her and ask her to squeeze tighter when something feels particularly good (which is the natural reaction anyway); a downside is that this ties up one of your hands that could be doing something more creative.
Obviously all of this applies in general, not just to escorts.
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And please, by Skuld's holy hammer, tell us!i
Er, this isn't to say that you, yourself, do not (don't know), but I've had far too many partners who tend to treat their pleasure as a game of pin the tail on the donkey for the guy in question. It is... annoying and wastes time.
Soooo many bad tentacle hentai jokes to be made here. So, so many.
Actually I was also surpised, on the other side, of reading here that for example you are shy (it was about approaching/talking to men in the street and women approaching first). That would not be something I would expect.
Beside that, If I may ask a question about something that could surprise you (or any escort), is -for example - a good looking & confident guy would be your client. I am not , ofc, saying that only older or ugly or shy man are in your pool of possible clients. But since we are talking about p4p and that a good looking, eloquent & confident guy should be able to find sex for free..does it surprise you?
Or do you feel flatered because they are attracted by you and the experience you provide them?
I think you doI think the most what surprised me were married men. The first time someone told me that he's married I felt a little bit guilty
Another surprise is how well clients take care of my own pleasure. I rarely go out of a hotel room without an orgasm and that's simply great if a guy likes to go down on a woman. (That doesn't really happen in private or I simply chose the wrong guys haha
As for married man, it would be actually my first guess. If they are bored with their marriage, it is a safer way than for example trying to have a girlfriend on the side.
I am very very shy socially. But i'm also highly sexed and easily bored if i dont get a lot of exciting experiences.Actually I was also surpised, on the other side, of reading here that for example you are shy (it was about approaching/talking to men in the street and women approaching first). That would not be something I would expect.
Beside that, If I may ask a question about something that could surprise you (or any escort), is -for example - a good looking & confident guy would be your client. I am not , ofc, saying that only older or ugly or shy man are in your pool of possible clients. But since we are talking about p4p and that a good looking, eloquent & confident guy should be able to find sex for free..does it surprise you?
Or do you feel flatered because they are attracted by you and the experience you provide them?
I think you do
As for married man, it would be actually my first guess. If they are bored with their marriage, it is a safer way than for example trying to have a girlfriend on the side.
Being shy does sometimes stand in my way when doing escort, but its not impossible and some guys think it's kinda charming.
Yes, there have certainly been times that i met a guy and i was like "why do you need an escort???" But guys have their reasons. Some are probably especially attracted to me, some are shy as well, some just want some spice, for some its just easier to book an appointment with an escort.
I don't know, ask the men, not me.
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I don't know, ask the men, not me.
I wrote a bit about why someone who has attractive np4p sexual options/opportunities may still prefer p4p, at least at times, in these two posts:
http://www.tokyoadultguide.com/thre...ing-her-friends-could-be-bad.8786/#post-40053
http://www.tokyoadultguide.com/thre...ing-her-friends-could-be-bad.8786/#post-40110
The first of these is more detailed, and the latter has a bullet point summary of some of the reasons.
There are other possible reasons that are not in this list of course; for example, there is a naughty thrill to it that most np4p does not provide.
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