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This can make the difference between having sex or not on a date. Guys often fail to score on dates, because they run out of time. They fail to make any moves or were too SLOW in making moves, she leaves, and the chance is gone forever. Many simply don't understand the importance of going for it when they had the chance. Worse, some women will sneakily use the clock against their dates or cut time short.
When you go on a date, be strongly aware of the time, have it running in the back of your head and focus pushing the interaction forward. Don't check your watch too much, as this can give women the wrong impression that you want to leave or she's boring, just know approximately what time it is. Develop sneaky ways to do time checks, if you need to, so your date doesn't see you, and you only need to check 1x an hour.
Many guys don't know or realize that you can go from meeting her to almost or sex, in 3 to 4 hours. And in Japan, because of the last train, you need to time your dates accordingly. You might NOT have all night, like in many Western countries. 4 hours is also a well known time frame in PUA, in which a man can develop very strong rapport with a woman, IF the chemistry is there.
Example- 6pm to 10pm (work weekday), gives you the time frame to have sex, and get her on the last train. And you should be aware of when her last train is and how far away she lives. If a date says she lives in Saitama (for example) and you are meeting in Shibuya on a work weekday for her, do the time math. It means you need to be making some moves from 8:30ish on, and trying to hit the hugging or kissing point by around 9pm.
You need more time to work up to hugging and kissing? Start the date early on the weekends. However, let me tell you and contrary to popular belief or double-talk women can say, 4 hours is a time frame that is extremely viable. When a woman likes you and in the mood, they will have sex. Don't be fooled by any lies or double-talk that many women use to HIDE what they do.
Momentum
This is VERY important for any PUA to understand. When you fail to convert the date to sex, you might lose the chance at a next time or must start again from almost scratch, as if the last date didn't happen. Why?
1) Whatever emotional feelings she had on that date, can be lost as time moves on. The more DELAY between dates, the worse it gets. She might start to forget you or becomes preoccupied by other things.
This is especially a problem in Japan, where Japanese women are famous for delaying or postponing dates. Instead of the date being 3 days later, it's next week, 3 weeks later, next month...
2) Other guys can move into the picture.
The more time that goes by, the more likely another guy(s) will enter and is talking to her or asking her out. Many women are very FICKLE, and will keep jumping to dating another new guy, until somebody finally has sex with her and she forms a bond.
3) On each next date, you will AGAIN have to deal with her nervousness and panicking about sex, until you do it.
Some women become more relaxed each time they see you, but that is IF they are seeing you OFTEN. 2x or more in a week is positive, 1x a week or weeks/months later is negative.
If your next date is 2 or 3 weeks later, and especially with Japanese women, she may still be excessively nervous.
Some women can be even more ANTI-sexual the next time, not less, if she even meets you or shows up. On the 2nd and 3rd dates, she might even be aware of your moves or what you will do, and can even anti-romatically think up ways to block you. The beginning of her FRIEND-ZONING you and stopping any romantic relationship from ever happening.
Many women, and particularly in Japan, won't calm down until after you actually had sex. For many excessively nervous or panicking type women, SEX can actually CALM them down, as the big hurdle has been crossed. They can stop worrying and enjoy the relationship. But until you cross the "sex barrier", the behavior of a woman can be very difficult to deal with.
On average, sex on the 2nd or 3rd date is as much a GAMBLE, as on the first. There is no telling for sure which way it will go. Which is why you should use your time wisely and make each chance count. Don't waste time and assume there will be a next time, because there might NOT be.
When you go on a date, be strongly aware of the time, have it running in the back of your head and focus pushing the interaction forward. Don't check your watch too much, as this can give women the wrong impression that you want to leave or she's boring, just know approximately what time it is. Develop sneaky ways to do time checks, if you need to, so your date doesn't see you, and you only need to check 1x an hour.
Many guys don't know or realize that you can go from meeting her to almost or sex, in 3 to 4 hours. And in Japan, because of the last train, you need to time your dates accordingly. You might NOT have all night, like in many Western countries. 4 hours is also a well known time frame in PUA, in which a man can develop very strong rapport with a woman, IF the chemistry is there.
Example- 6pm to 10pm (work weekday), gives you the time frame to have sex, and get her on the last train. And you should be aware of when her last train is and how far away she lives. If a date says she lives in Saitama (for example) and you are meeting in Shibuya on a work weekday for her, do the time math. It means you need to be making some moves from 8:30ish on, and trying to hit the hugging or kissing point by around 9pm.
You need more time to work up to hugging and kissing? Start the date early on the weekends. However, let me tell you and contrary to popular belief or double-talk women can say, 4 hours is a time frame that is extremely viable. When a woman likes you and in the mood, they will have sex. Don't be fooled by any lies or double-talk that many women use to HIDE what they do.
Momentum
This is VERY important for any PUA to understand. When you fail to convert the date to sex, you might lose the chance at a next time or must start again from almost scratch, as if the last date didn't happen. Why?
1) Whatever emotional feelings she had on that date, can be lost as time moves on. The more DELAY between dates, the worse it gets. She might start to forget you or becomes preoccupied by other things.
This is especially a problem in Japan, where Japanese women are famous for delaying or postponing dates. Instead of the date being 3 days later, it's next week, 3 weeks later, next month...
2) Other guys can move into the picture.
The more time that goes by, the more likely another guy(s) will enter and is talking to her or asking her out. Many women are very FICKLE, and will keep jumping to dating another new guy, until somebody finally has sex with her and she forms a bond.
3) On each next date, you will AGAIN have to deal with her nervousness and panicking about sex, until you do it.
Some women become more relaxed each time they see you, but that is IF they are seeing you OFTEN. 2x or more in a week is positive, 1x a week or weeks/months later is negative.
If your next date is 2 or 3 weeks later, and especially with Japanese women, she may still be excessively nervous.
Some women can be even more ANTI-sexual the next time, not less, if she even meets you or shows up. On the 2nd and 3rd dates, she might even be aware of your moves or what you will do, and can even anti-romatically think up ways to block you. The beginning of her FRIEND-ZONING you and stopping any romantic relationship from ever happening.
Many women, and particularly in Japan, won't calm down until after you actually had sex. For many excessively nervous or panicking type women, SEX can actually CALM them down, as the big hurdle has been crossed. They can stop worrying and enjoy the relationship. But until you cross the "sex barrier", the behavior of a woman can be very difficult to deal with.
On average, sex on the 2nd or 3rd date is as much a GAMBLE, as on the first. There is no telling for sure which way it will go. Which is why you should use your time wisely and make each chance count. Don't waste time and assume there will be a next time, because there might NOT be.
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