Overtime Mode - When The Time Is Over!

[TAG Manager]

This forum is probably the best place for what I am putting out here for discussion. This thread is kind of important as it will serve a collection point of opinions on this subject.

When booking a service for a certain block of time, it's accepted that is the set time limit and the service ends at that point unless an extension is requested. In the Japanese shops, the girls will either set a timer or the shop will call at a designated time to signal that the time is coming to a close and that everyone should get cleaned up to leave. For the escort scene, both agency and independents, some ladies will set timers and others simply watch the clock (to a certain degree).

The question that pops up from time to time, is how to handle situations where a client is pushing into the 'overtime' area which is of course beyond the agreed service time.

Example: Service provider (outcall type) has agreed to 60 minute service and the appointment has progressed to the 50min. mark which is about the time when the clean-up may start by heading to the shower (This time will vary, not intended to be the golden rule!) - However, the client has not 'finished' yet and he would like to continue until finish, but hasn't agreed on an extension to go beyond the preset time.

There are a few options that the service providers have:

A) Stop the service at the time limit (i.e. a cold stop) [Means: Session is done, the provider has to go.]
B) Continue the service for a certain grace period so that the client may finish. (without extension fee paid)
C) "Pause" the service and agree upon the extension and move onward. [If time permits on the provider's side]

What is the feedback of the community on what is the preferred course of action?

 

[TAG Manager]

I thought for sure we'd get some feedback on this topic, but no one wants to bite?

 

[Wwanderer]

We need

"D) None of the above."

More seriously, there are serious downsides to all three options, and all the latter two options invite abuse by either the escort or the customer.

-Ww

 

[Wwanderer]

Ideally, the escort should continue the service for a reasonable "grace period" without asking for additional compensation, and then the customer should insist on giving her a generous tip for being so understanding and accommodating.

-Ww

 

[RandomTokyoGuy]

To me option A) and C) mean the same, just that I pay on top in option C). The provider calling the shop to verify schedule and price then me crawling out of whatever we were doing to fetch my purse and put some more money on the table would completely ruin the mood for me.
If I want to extend, then in some break we take in between, which then would be on my initiative.

I would actually expect the provider to somewhat manage time to finish the agreed service instead of waiting for the shop calling.

Sometimes it's not really the provider's fault that things take time, e.g. the combination of lots of lube or "natural wetness " in combination with the reduced sensitivity due to protective measures taken, can make it more difficult for me to finish on the main act. Then you can maybe guide the provider to a technique that finishes the job in due time or even lend a hand yourself

I certainly would not want to extend just for the finish. Wrong incentives for the provider and lots of room for abuse. In such case a small grace period would be more preferable. Anyways, in my experience the time (with shops) is always managed in a way to leave some buffer.

With independents I usually pick enough time, so that we are speaking about 2nd or 3rd finish and at least I haven't really experienced alarms or something, so if we are close to the finish line she would probably follow through till the end without discussing about 5minutes and otherwise slowly phase out. And if you want to extend there is no call involved and often you don't have to pay upfront so much easier to stay in the mood.

 

[meiji]

I dunno. I generally have a really good idea of whether it's taking me a lot longer than normal to finish. The times where it just wasn't happening, I knew that it wasn't, and the provider sort of gave me a 'we've only got a few more minutes here' notice, which I think is fine, vs stopping on the spot when the hour is over.

That being said, having a clock in the room or something for either party to check is a good thing.

 

[ShibaKen]

Have had several times where the provider was trying to help me release a second time but I just wasn't going to make it in time(she would tell me there was only a few mins remaining) and I would just apologize(I personally feel bad) and we would stop. I think I'm fine with it that way although I may probably think differently if I'm unable to even finish once in a given session. Haven't had that experience yet so I don't really know.

 

[User#6326]

when i was with manami, we went a little over time i think, i couldnt finish and we had to give up, then as she was cleaning me in the shower, she had been going for at least two minutes on me, i had to tell her to stop.. he is clean already dammit! haha

 

[MacMackerson]

In my experience the timer is typically a 5 minute warning. I hate the phone alarms though - just unpleasant.

Twice I have seen girls who went timerless. Very smooth both times. And as you say, escorts typically have a lot more leeway than deli health girls. One of the benefits of going with escorts.

 

[Wwanderer]

Not having to worry about awkward fixed time limits is a major way in which sugar dating sex is better and more natural feeling than escort sex, imo.

Of course there can still be time pressure in a sugar situation (last train, getting to the restaurant before LO etc), but it does not have that mood-killing artificial feeling of a timer or equivalent.

-Ww

 

[DJV]

I try to carefully select the duration so that at the end everyone is happy and done with.
Sometimes I fail at this, and negociate an extension. It's always when I get sucked into giving oral sex, time is running out, and I feel that me or my partner would enjoy intercourse as a proper/standard conclusion.

I have to say that I almost always enjoy the time limits of P4P : now with the experience of various timeframes, I handle my regular dates better when time is critical (a meeting to attend the day after for example).
It's tough to talk about this with non p4p partners