Underperforming when using services?

[SteveC]

K not gonna lie a bit ashamed to admit and ask for suggestions, but you gotta admit the problem to fix it.

Anyways, I find myself underperforming when using services (soap, Tobita Shinchi, Escort).

When I had GFs, sex with GF typically isn't a problem. I mean I am no sex god but intensity and timing-wise I think I was doing ok.

When I am using services though(no GF of course), I find myself lasting only about half to 1/3 of my typical time.

NGL the very first time I went to SOAP I almost came right away, and I was not a virgin at the time.

I think it is a combination of nervousness, excitement and maybe a bit out of shape My japanese is also a bit rusty so maybe my brain was also overclocking too much to interpret and didn't leave much resources for sex.

Want to check if there's anybody else experience this and how do you solve/overcome it.

I think the best performance I did was my second shot during my visit Hisyo, at which point I was a bit more comfortable with environment, provider(I recall it was Minami, super nice girl but unfortunately no longer works there. If there's anyone who knows where she's at please let me know) and less sensitive. Maybe the way to go is let one out a few hours before encounters?

 

[SugoiBoy]

Part of it might just be the thrill of having a new partner even if she’s a pro.
Also, if it’s been a while since you last had sex, then that could be a factor as well.

 

[Sudsy]

When I am using services though(no GF of course), I find myself lasting only about half to 1/3 of my typical time.

Ever change a tire by yourself? Now, have you seen a mechanic do it?

Professionals get the job done more efficiently.

(And if you're not convinced, here's a former world's strongest man competing against a couple of lumberjacks)

 

[SugoiBoy]

Ever change a tire by yourself? Now, have you seen a mechanic do it?

Professionals get the job done more efficiently.

(And if you're not convinced, here's a former world's strongest man competing against a couple of lumberjacks)

Providers often want to get guys to cum as fast as possible. Cum and go!

 

[SteveC]

Ever change a tire by yourself? Now, have you seen a mechanic do it?

Professionals get the job done more efficiently.

(And if you're not convinced, here's a former world's strongest man competing against a couple of lumberjacks)

OMG this is why I love this community. That makes so much sense and makes me feel better lol.

Thanks man!

 

[SteveC]

Providers often want to get guys to cum as fast as possible. Cum and go!

Lol in this case I might be their favorite customer then? XD

 

[Alice]

Like other people said, I don’t think most professionals are very disappointed if you cum fast. So don’t worry about that.
Also for you it would mean you can book shorter sessions and save money that way.

You’re blessed because there are men that have trouble getting or staying hard when using services. Definitely the nerves play a big role, and this could make the session disappointing for the client.
Also use of condoms plays a big role when trying to stay hard or not being able to finish.
So don’t worry, there are people in worse situations than yours.

 

[hrbb]

K not gonna lie a bit ashamed to admit and ask for suggestions, but you gotta admit the problem to fix it.

Anyways, I find myself underperforming when using services (soap, Tobita Shinchi, Escort).

When I had GFs, sex with GF typically isn't a problem. I mean I am no sex god but intensity and timing-wise I think I was doing ok.

When I am using services though(no GF of course), I find myself lasting only about half to 1/3 of my typical time.

NGL the very first time I went to SOAP I almost came right away, and I was not a virgin at the time.

I think it is a combination of nervousness, excitement and maybe a bit out of shape My japanese is also a bit rusty so maybe my brain was also overclocking too much to interpret and didn't leave much resources for sex.

Want to check if there's anybody else experience this and how do you solve/overcome it.

I think the best performance I did was my second shot during my visit Hisyo, at which point I was a bit more comfortable with environment, provider(I recall it was Minami, super nice girl but unfortunately no longer works there. If there's anyone who knows where she's at please let me know) and less sensitive. Maybe the way to go is let one out a few hours before encounters?

What exactly do you mean by underperform?

 

[SteveC]

Like other people said, I don’t think most professionals are very disappointed if you cum fast. So don’t worry about that.
Also for you it would mean you can book shorter sessions and save money that way.

You’re blessed because there are men that have trouble getting or staying hard when using services. Definitely the nerves play a big role, and this could make the session disappointing for the client.
Also use of condoms plays a big role when trying to stay hard or not being able to finish.
So don’t worry, there are people in worse situations than yours.

Haha thanks.

I guess no matter what I do, likely I won't be the worst showing nor the strongest showing XD.

 

[SteveC]

What exactly do you mean by underperform?

Hmm, not sure how I can make this more clear, but basically similar to how you'd feel in one of the following situations.

1. You are completely drunk, want to rub one out but can't. (except I wasn't drunk).
2. You watched porn for 2 hours straight, highly excited, want to rub one out and it comes out earlier than you wanted/though(except I didn't watch porn beforehand)

 

[hrbb]

Hmm, not sure how I can make this more clear, but basically similar to how you'd feel in one of the following situations.

1. You are completely drunk, want to rub one out but can't. (except I wasn't drunk).
2. You watched porn for 2 hours straight, highly excited, want to rub one out and it comes out earlier than you wanted/though(except I didn't watch porn beforehand)

Ok then I think the solution is to get moderately drunk and watch 30 minutes of porn.

 

[kirayamato]

is this common view, that the longer you can hold before cumming the better?


I think in P4P, especially in japan, the faster you can the better (especially under unlimited firing system)

for example, 2 hours non stop pounding might be seen as good thing, but it is not. for shinchi, the unit price is 15 minutes or 20 minutes so ejaculating in 10 minutes is actually good thing.

another example,
1 hour love making session with GF, but ejaculating 3 times in 60 minutes at soapland is actually ideal for me. you dont want to have 120 minutes in soapland and only able to come once at last minute.

not sure about service provider, I thought they might be kind of proud if they can make you come in 1 minute for first pop?

 

[MikeH]

Ok then I think the solution is to get moderately drunk and watch 30 minutes of porn.

I never knew they make porn longer than 3 minutes. Now my only question is why?

 

[MikeH]

I think it is a combination of nervousness, excitement and maybe a bit out of shape

I think you have your answer right there.

Still you are just being a gentleman and a good customer by coming on time.

 

[Alice]

, I thought they might be kind of proud if they can make you come in 1 minute for first pop?

It’s kind of flattering I guess 😊