Some of the folks on our forum aren't known for their empathy, so you can't really get mad at them. And for future reference, you asked for pity and sympathy in a saloon of sexual revelry and debauchery AND revealed someone's name. On some platforms this is called doxxing, and it can have legal consequences. Don't do it again.
You are welcome to be bitter and folks like I have been reading this drama unfold quietly, so I am getting an undertone that you are looking to pick a fight rather than reflect on what happened and cope properly. I had a psycho girlfriend in college (Cantonese) who after we had a fight so bad that the cops had to come, she came to my department office and told me she was pregnant. I was petrified. Then she disappeared for a month, then told me she aborted the baby and it was all my fault that I ruined her life. I found out eventually that she lied about all of it and was just trying to get me to commit myself and my money to her comfy life in Southern California. Sigh...then I found out years later she married a millionaire and has kids. Good for her.
It sucks. It really does, so its fine to be bitter and groan about it. But don't be vengeful, and eventually you'll find yourself laughing about it.
