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I have been dating a Japanese girl since Feb and I told her that I would try and learn Japanese. Here is the thing though, I have not really been progressing at the rate that she has with her English abilities and it is showing.
I know that my sorry excuses of work, school, and volunteer work can only go so far however I am very busy and can commit very little time to my studies of the language. I have downloaded Pimsleur and even had a Japanese college class, but from what I have noticed I only learned phrases and a few words. Nothing really to form my own thoughts and what not.
Everything came full circle and a argument ensued over my language abilities and hers. The sad part is that it came after a very lovely night I had spent with her and a even better Sunday morning. Things I thought in my mind were going good. Then the argument. She claimed that I am not taking her seriously and do not like her because of my half ass attempt of trying to learn Japanese. She went on to cite different instances of me not caring for her feelings (I will not go into detail there), but suffice to say I was a little upset with her at this point.
She even went as far to accuse me of cheating.
I simply told her my feelings on the matter and said that I was trying however she seems set in her ways and is thinking about our situation and I guess at least in my mind whether or not she wants to still be in this relationship.
I am a little frustrated about the whole ordeal and I am very close to telling her to find a Japanese boyfriend or a gaijin who speaks the language. I guess I just need some clarity in the matter and advice from people who are not my friends.
I know that my sorry excuses of work, school, and volunteer work can only go so far however I am very busy and can commit very little time to my studies of the language. I have downloaded Pimsleur and even had a Japanese college class, but from what I have noticed I only learned phrases and a few words. Nothing really to form my own thoughts and what not.
Everything came full circle and a argument ensued over my language abilities and hers. The sad part is that it came after a very lovely night I had spent with her and a even better Sunday morning. Things I thought in my mind were going good. Then the argument. She claimed that I am not taking her seriously and do not like her because of my half ass attempt of trying to learn Japanese. She went on to cite different instances of me not caring for her feelings (I will not go into detail there), but suffice to say I was a little upset with her at this point.
She even went as far to accuse me of cheating.
I simply told her my feelings on the matter and said that I was trying however she seems set in her ways and is thinking about our situation and I guess at least in my mind whether or not she wants to still be in this relationship.
I am a little frustrated about the whole ordeal and I am very close to telling her to find a Japanese boyfriend or a gaijin who speaks the language. I guess I just need some clarity in the matter and advice from people who are not my friends.