I don't understand (at all) the connection between your comments on the one hand about your wife's intelligence and education and, on the other hand, about your sex life with her. Other than both being among her good traits (presumably she has many others), do you see some connection I am missing here?
-Ww
Ww,
Yes, you are missing a connection and on one level this is surprising.
Now, what I am about to write does not apply to everyone, however it does relate to the personal success of the relationship between my wife and me.
And, it does relate to the general topic of this thread which deals with women with sexless lives.
What surprises me, is your apparent failure to connect the whole person of a female with her sex life. Sexual satisfaction is much more complex, at least in ongoing relationships, than the mere physical act.
For many women, there are other factors, e.g. emotional attachment, shared values, share experiences, and on the intellectual level, which is your missing connection, the ability to meet each others intellectual needs, through conversation and discussion. To me this is a sign of respect to her, conveying,"I value you as a whole person."
Rowan Pelling, writing in the Journal,
Psychologies article
, Great Sex is all in the Mind notes:
As editor of The Erotic Review magazine for eight years, I had noticed that smart women often seemed well equipped to enjoy rewarding sex, particularly the academics who wrote regularly for me. The fact that they were intellectually adventurous led them to be sexually daring, too. A good education is, of course, a form of liberation and the best kind of sex generally involves a corresponding sense of abandonment, as well as a sophisticated imagination.
Psychotherapist and sex therapist Martin Lloyd-Elliott agrees. ‘The brain is key, ranging from the pituitary gland, which can significantly affect your libido, to your imagination,’ he says. ‘And the quality of your imagination is a crucial element in being able to achieve satisfactory orgasms.’
https://www.psychologies.co.uk/love/great-sex-is-all-in-the-mind.html
I will continue this discussion in a more relevant thread,
Which Do You Prefer: Long Term Relationship Or P4p? when I have more time. It will expand the discourse, as well as explain the level on which I am not surprised at your apparent missing connection.