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I do find it a little strange that you can't acknowledge how handsome some men (@Damian being a prime example) can be. I mean, I'm not into horses, but I even I would not deny that this horse puts the "beauty" in "Black Beauty".
Second and more importantly, I did not mean that I cannot recognize beauty in men or furniture; it is just not a beaurty that affects to me personally in a sexual way, not for men nor for furniture.
I do find it a little strange that you can't acknowledge how handsome some men (@Damian being a prime example) can be. I mean, I'm not into horses, but I even I would not deny that this horse puts the "beauty" in "Black Beauty".
Very good point.Let me add a perhaps irrelevant aside that I occasionally encounter women who are to me extremely beautiful in an aesthetic sense but who don't seem particularly sexy to me. Their beauty is more that of a work of art than of a human body, if that makes any sense. I don't really understand why tbh, but it is a reaction (or lack thereof) which I typically get to some glamour models. My perception of them is at least somewhat like my perception of a particularly handsome man or elegant piece of furniture.
-Ww
Let me add a perhaps irrelevant aside that I occasionally encounter women who are to me extremely beautiful in an aesthetic sense but who don't seem particularly sexy to me.
I do find it a little strange that you can't acknowledge how handsome some men can be
Do you mean you don't kiss and have sex with your furniture?Personally I don't feel disgust at the idea of homosexual activities or at witnessing them, rather (almost all) other men just seem sexually neutral to me, like a piece of furniture or something. The idea of, say, kissing them seems slightly absurd, pointless and completely unmotivated. Knowing that there are men who are sexually attacted to other men, I have a little curiosity about the whole thing, but it feels like just a vague intellectual curiosity. It would be like learning that there are people who like to have sex with tables and chairs; I'd think something like, "How odd! I wonder why and how they experience that?"
At the risk of igniting another (and doubtless repetitive) round of the trans debate, I still have to note that sex with a trans woman and sex with a man are not remotely the same sort of experience according to those who do or have done both. In that sense, I think you have had no sex with a man regardless of how the wave function were to collapse in this Schrodinger porblem. In other words, it is probably not relevant to this discussion.
-Ww
Do you mean you don't kiss and have sex with your furniture?
What stops me is the disgust/repulsion I mentioned earlier.
Sure.Those are quite strong words you use there...
Care to describe the disgust/repulsion to us ?
Sure.
When I picture myself mentally having sexual intimacy with a man, I feel an emotion called disgust, easily recognisable by the tendency to display a "yuck face" (studied by Paul Eckman), a slight slow down of my heart beat and a feeling there is something wrong located in my stomach. The basic physiological response to something you feel is repugnant.
I don't want to be offensive... I'm just trying to be descriptive.
As far as I heard and read, disgust can be hardwired in our brain (genetic component) or a part of a learning process through unpleasant situations (linked to our emotional memory).
May be I was told it was a very bad thing when I was 6 years old, may be it's something else.
My point is not that everybody should feel the same actually, more that I don't buy the lack of interest argument.
I've seen this argument, put up by some homosexuals and it's commonly repeated somewhat in popular media, that same sex is "better" because they are more familiar with the "equipment".To be honest, I'm not completely convinced by the argument of the lack of interest.
When gays are describing me, how good it is to have sex with another man, how stronger is the pleasure between two males that know men sensuality better than any woman could possibly know, I would feel at least curious about it.
What stops me is the disgust/repulsion I mentioned earlier.
I could understand that moral issues could play too.
例えば, multiple people are telling me how fantastic playing cricket is, how much good time they had playing cricket over the last week end, and they invite me to join them the following week, I would definitely consider joining despite my basic complete lack of interest for the activity (I remind you I'm a French dude who doesn't know anything about cricket).
Disclaimer : sorry for not being consensual. I just want to be convinced there...
例えば, multiple people are telling me how fantastic playing cricket is, how much good time they had playing cricket over the last week end, and they invite me to join them the following week, I would definitely consider joining despite my basic complete lack of interest for the activity
i can totally see that horse with white face painting headbanging his way into a black metal gig HAHAHAI do find it a little strange that you can't acknowledge how handsome some men (@Damian being a prime example) can be. I mean, I'm not into horses, but I even I would not deny that this horse puts the "beauty" in "Black Beauty".
Do you mean you don't kiss and have sex with your furniture?
What stops me is the disgust/repulsion I mentioned earlier.
I could understand that moral issues could play too.
I can completely relate to this. I have no morale reservation against being gay or whatsoever (neither am I religious), but the idea of kissing giving / receiving bj etc. And no it's not all imaginary, I have been approached by rather attractive guys. The feeling of repulsion is very strong.
A bit comparable to durian fruit for me. Even knowing that the taste is sweet (I tried), I can't bear the stink... and then I have thai friends telling me it actually smells good. Our brain works wonderous ways.
I have no trouble admitting that a guy looks good, just seems my genes are geared very strongly towards reproduction
I have no trouble admitting that a guy looks good, just seems my genes are geared very strongly towards reproduction
But judging by the thread's answer, having sex with another man is being linked directly with being gay...
Why is that?