Hello, I’m a long time lurker of the forum.
I registered on Happy Mail and emailed several women in Kansai who had listed in their profiles having an interest in finding sex friends. I told them beforehand about being foreigner and waited for their replies.
I only received a few positive replies (5% or 10% maybe), but they were rather promptly (same day or next day). The first replies were usually a prewritten message they probably use for anyone, but conversation after that was clearly not automated. In all cases I was told about them having bad experiences in the past, and they asked for 20.000 yen (always the same amount) as a condition for the first meeting. I was assured that meetings after that would not need money, and that they were interest in long term sex friends.
I don’t have experience at all on Happy Mail, or in general about sex friends found online in Japan. Is this sort of arrangement common and expected? Does anyone have experience with it? Keep in mind I’m talking about women in Kansai, not Tokyo, not sure if that is a factor. I might try it, but I’m wary of it.
Things that make me suspect it’s a scam:
—Profiles seem to be too good a deal: younger than 30, looks above average, previous sex work experience, married but without children. Maybe not your ideal romantic partner, but a turn on for mongers.
—They always ask for the same amount of money.
—In at least two cases (out of four) they designated the same meeting place.
—Replies were too promptly.
—No reservation whatsoever about being a foreigner or language. I’m not complaining about the attitude, but the lack of comment seemed unnatural.
Things that make me think it might be real:
—I can understand why would women looking for sexfriends need a money guarantee that you are serious and not just looking for a freebie.
—Messages were clearly different than those from women doing enjou kousai/freelance scorting. The latter are very curt.
—If the scam is just about 20.000 yen, the time they are spending on it is not worth it.
For unrelated reasons I’m not very interested in trying one of these meetings. I might try it, but would like to hear if anyone has had an experience like this before? Or maybe has someone read something about it in Japanese tabloids?
I registered on Happy Mail and emailed several women in Kansai who had listed in their profiles having an interest in finding sex friends. I told them beforehand about being foreigner and waited for their replies.
I only received a few positive replies (5% or 10% maybe), but they were rather promptly (same day or next day). The first replies were usually a prewritten message they probably use for anyone, but conversation after that was clearly not automated. In all cases I was told about them having bad experiences in the past, and they asked for 20.000 yen (always the same amount) as a condition for the first meeting. I was assured that meetings after that would not need money, and that they were interest in long term sex friends.
I don’t have experience at all on Happy Mail, or in general about sex friends found online in Japan. Is this sort of arrangement common and expected? Does anyone have experience with it? Keep in mind I’m talking about women in Kansai, not Tokyo, not sure if that is a factor. I might try it, but I’m wary of it.
Things that make me suspect it’s a scam:
—Profiles seem to be too good a deal: younger than 30, looks above average, previous sex work experience, married but without children. Maybe not your ideal romantic partner, but a turn on for mongers.
—They always ask for the same amount of money.
—In at least two cases (out of four) they designated the same meeting place.
—Replies were too promptly.
—No reservation whatsoever about being a foreigner or language. I’m not complaining about the attitude, but the lack of comment seemed unnatural.
Things that make me think it might be real:
—I can understand why would women looking for sexfriends need a money guarantee that you are serious and not just looking for a freebie.
—Messages were clearly different than those from women doing enjou kousai/freelance scorting. The latter are very curt.
—If the scam is just about 20.000 yen, the time they are spending on it is not worth it.
For unrelated reasons I’m not very interested in trying one of these meetings. I might try it, but would like to hear if anyone has had an experience like this before? Or maybe has someone read something about it in Japanese tabloids?
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