I don't disagree with the fact P4P is better than having affair, it's safer and all.
but better or not you can't tell me someone married who uses P4P doesn't know he's doing something that may ruin his marriage. he's taking a risk just by seing an escort and if he doesn't use condom he's taking a lot more risks so either he's (consiously or unconsiously) willing to take the risk or he's really super naive.
and I still think if someone get busted and has to divorce, the cause of the divorce won't be the how he was busted but what he was busted for.
I also think it's not fair to share the responsibility with the escort. the escort doesn't owe anyone, it's the married guy's duty to do what it takes to keep the secret.
Again, you are making assumptions, one of them being that a wife would file for divorce if she gets to know about her husband having p4p activities.. Nothing can be further from the truth than this... Women are far more intelligent than you seem to believe, and most (not all, I agree...) are not going to jeopardize their life and family because hubby just went for a p4p meeting...
I guess this difference of opinion may come from a generational gap; I may agree that soon after marrying, my wife would have been upset if i was going elsewhere for sexual satisfaction, but after decades, frankly....After some years, marriage is not anymore about sex, but children, family, and essentially mutual support with whatever unwanted life throws at you. I need my wife more to help me, for example, when I am stucked at home with a backache, unable to move. Sex , I can get with escorts, but no escort will come to bring me tea, and/or help me when I need it. And when my wife needs me as well, I am there, when her father dies, or she learns that has cancer, or when the last child leaves home.... There no sex there, but just simply love. . . In fact many women are relieved that hubby gets his hormones satisfied elsewhere, without having either to go through repeated unwanted sex activities (from their point of view), or worse, having long term costly affairs with other women...
I guess your misconception about marriage can come from your own unlucky experience, or perhaps it is a generational issue, you may be much younger than me, and so would your wife be... I understand that young people may be depressed at the idea that at some point , their marriage may be a sexless affair, but believe me, it's not a problem...thanks to our lovely escorts.
In conclusion I still have at my age a very high level of sexual appetite, whether this is not so often the case in "elderly, (meaning my age)" women. So what's wrong if I can get my problems solved by visiting escorts, at time and price which does not interfer with my wife/family life?
Which is why I have so much affection for all the women, p4p essentially, that have been (and hopefully will still in the future) kind enough to provide me with their services, while I could continue a happy loving married life...