That sounds nice. Thank you.
Can you or anyone give name of any adult dating website that is effective.
Normal dating and classified websites are more effective than AFF or so-called "adult dating websites" FOR Japan, in my opinion.
So:
JapanCupid (the most worth it pay site for Japan)
OkCupid (make a good profile, asks lots of questions)
POF
Happymail (better if you know some Japanese)
Craigslist Tokyo
Metropolis Classifieds...
Ashley Madison, is popping up as a possible site of consideration according to 1 friend at this time. They now have a website that recruits Japanese women.
Language exchange and certain Pen-pal sites (these are NOT date sites, but some guys might want to give them a try. It's more indirect and the guy needs to be more cautious and careful when e-mailing. Just focus on meeting. Teach some English, learn Japanese, have a good time at dinner, and feel the vibe if more is possible).
List: Japan-guide.com/penfriend , MyLanguageExchange, Metropolis Classifieds - Language Exchange, penpal-net.info , interpals.net , etc...
The key for single guys is to get a date, then go for it from that point. Where certain guys seems to have problems is how to "sexualize" or sexually escalate the date interaction, so they want to have some type of guaranteed or expectation of sex beforehand.
It has been my experience, that unless the AFF date was a P4P situation, that it's no different than meeting women from any other date site or classified ad. And since other date sites have more women than AFF, the odds of going on a date for a week were way, way better. AFF is kind of random Lotto, where regular date sites produce much better results.
The one area that I find AFF to be decent at, and Craigslist to a certain extent too, is for SWINGER couples.
If you want to be a guy for couples or swap with other couples, then AFF might be worth it for you. And if you are a woman, transsexual, or a bi-sexual woman then AFF appears to be good for that too. A couple of my Japanese bi-sexual girlfriends, met lots of other women on AFF and Craigslist, which worked out well for me in 3-ways.
As for "sexualizing an interaction on a date"... Tips:
. Trying meeting after 4PM.
Avoid early afternoon dates from online, unless meeting married women, as that's different. Early afternoon dates tend to be women taking a peak and running, because they have setup multiple dates. Like see you for 2 hrs, then meet some other guy. Many guys don't know that it's common for online women to setup multiple dates in one day. Usually the guy meeting in the evening or the last date, has the best shot for sex.
. Try meeting between Thursday to Sunday.
I know this seems weird, but dates on Monday to Wednesday have more of a tendency to go nowhere because people are more concerned about work. The exception is a holiday or the person is off work on weekdays.
. Meet at a normal location at first (for safety and comfort with online dating), like a coffee shop or resteraunt, then MOVE to a more semi-private and/or dimly lit place after awhile.
This can be a Karaoke spot, disco with seating, bar with seating for couples, etc... Any place where you are more comfortable hugging and kissing ;-) The seating should be arranged in such a way that you can sit next to and close to her. Like a round table, counter, booth, or couch...
. Plan the date location, so that you are near a hotel or your apartment.
Preferably, where from the train station, you walk past your apartment or hotel to get to the resteraunt you are going (for example and if you don't have a car). If things go well, it's best if a guy knows a place nearby to go. Knowing that a hotel or your apartment is nearby, can "sexualize" the interaction in the woman's mind too.
. Have an seemingly innocent sexual conversation about a sexual topic.
Talk about fashionable lingerie, are the sexual fantasies of women the same or different from men, why some people prefer the light on or off during sex.... Nothing too graphic or vulgar. Somewhat questioneer like, light, and fun.
Sexual conversations get women thinking about sex and horny, if done properly.
Note- don't over do it with the "friendly" sex talk. Talk about lots of other things too. But the sex conversation should be memorable and main part of the talk for the night.
. A little alcohol is good
Next to money, alcohol is the 2nd best aphrodisiac for women. It also helps people relax.
Any way, these are just some helpful tips. Some guys are very awkward or clueless in dates with women and don't know how to smoothly get the interaction in the direction of a sexual encounter. Consequently, they waste oppourtunies when they have them or want sexual "guarantees". If a guy wants a guarantee, he should pay. And if he is gambling, he should arguably take his best shot, and see how it turns out.