An escorts own pleasure

[Anna Summer]

Not sure if that title is suitable at all but couldn't come up with another one. And I think 'am I being selfish' sounds... well...

So there's the thing... As an Escort it's always the first priority to make to satisfy and make the client happy. Whatever that be. I guess the 'pop' is the one main goal.
I've been in situations where clients ask me what I want them to do. Mostly during DATY. I don't have any problems having an orgasm and I do enjoy it when it happens. When it's not happening, it's fine too. But sometimes I catch myself being so much into it, not really thinking about that as an escort-client date and being rather selfish to demand my own orgasm. Even tho the client is paying me to satisfy him, instead he is like paying me so I can have an orgasm.
Damn I think that sounds confusing.

How do you guys feel with an escort who openly asks to continue let's say, DATY, fingering etc. in order for her to reach an orgasm?

 

[KansaiBboy]

I like to give women orgasms, even if it's an escort. It's a pride thing.

But I guess it just depends on the guy

 

[Ladylisa]

If you are orgasming, then you are opening yourself up and being real - that may be more powerful and rewarding for him than anything else you could do.

It's not always comfortable or easy to open up - and no one could blame you for wanting to protect yourself - but after the other thread I think we can say that often what someone is looking for is a genuine human connection with another person.

 

[User#19043]

Not sure if that title is suitable at all but couldn't come up with another one. And I think 'am I being selfish' sounds... well...

So there's the thing... As an Escort it's always the first priority to make to satisfy and make the client happy. Whatever that be. I guess the 'pop' is the one main goal.
I've been in situations where clients ask me what I want them to do. Mostly during DATY. I don't have any problems having an orgasm and I do enjoy it when it happens. When it's not happening, it's fine too. But sometimes I catch myself being so much into it, not really thinking about that as an escort-client date and being rather selfish to demand my own orgasm. Even tho the client is paying me to satisfy him, instead he is like paying me so I can have an orgasm.
Damn I think that sounds confusing.

How do you guys feel with an escort who openly asks to continue let's say, DATY, fingering etc. in order for her to reach an orgasm?

I've actually had a provider ask me not to stop DATY so she could have an O. I was not in the least bit offered, but considered it a compliment. So of course I continued as she moaned "yes, yes". I find it better for me if the woman does cum first. Once or twice or so.

 

[Anna Summer]

If you are orgasming, then you are opening yourself up and being real - that may be more powerful and rewarding for him than anything else you could do.

It's not always comfortable or easy to open up - and no one could blame you for wanting to protect yourself - but after the other thread I think we can say that often what someone is looking for is a genuine human connection with another person.

That's very true! I haven't really thought myself that not opening up during an escort date as some sort of protection. But then, I've had my first oral orgasm at an escort date as well. Not sure if that triggered everything that I'm open to it or I'm just a horrible actress and can't fake orgasms, connections etc

I've actually had a provider ask me not to stop DATY so she could have an O. I was not in the least bit offered, but considered it a compliment. So of course I continued as she moaned "yes, yes". I find it better for me if the woman does cum first. Once or twice or so.

Sometimes I wish that the guys I meet in private would think the same I can literally count on one hand how many guys went down on me until I orgasm. I think for many it just takes too long or they are just not into it whatever.
On the other hand, I've had more orgasms as an escort. Does that say something about my choice in men? Haha

 

[Wwanderer]

If you are orgasming, then you are opening yourself up and being real - that may be more powerful and rewarding for him than anything else you could do.

This, very much this.

-Ww

 

[Ladylisa]

So there's the thing... As an Escort it's always the first priority to make to satisfy and make the client happy. Whatever that be. I guess the 'pop' is the one main goal.
I've been in situations where clients ask me what I want them to do. Mostly during DATY. I don't have any problems having an orgasm and I do enjoy it when it happens. When it's not happening, it's fine too. But sometimes I catch myself being so much into it, not really thinking about that as an escort-client date and being rather selfish

I just was thinking about this during my shower, and I can see the dilemma.

The date is about what he wants... he's paying for that. So as an excellent escort you feel that you need to put that first.

Hmmm... maybe you can find a way to let him know that if he continued on that you would orgasm - and that you are likely to get a bit selfish - and let him make he choice at that point.

I don't know - maybe something on the lines of "that feels so good I think I could come. If you don't stop soon I'm going to forget what I'm doing and get very selfish.

 

[User#19043]

That's very true! I haven't really thought myself that not opening up during an escort date as some sort of protection. But then, I've had my first oral orgasm at an escort date as well. Not sure if that triggered everything that I'm open to it or I'm just a horrible actress and can't fake orgasms, connections etc



Sometimes I wish that the guys I meet in private would think the same I can literally count on one hand how many guys went down on me until I orgasm. I think for many it just takes too long or they are just not into it whatever.
On the other hand, I've had more orgasms as an escort. Does that say something about my choice in men? Haha

Well I hope to have opportunity to give you an oral orgasm. For me it's almost always about my lover first. I can count on one hand when my lover didn't orgasm first. Actually like one time when I wanted to get off more than I cared about the girl getting off. I'm an Aquarius, maybe that explains it????

 

[MikeH]

Even tho the client is paying me to satisfy him, instead he is like paying me so I can have an orgasm.

Well, I know several guys, myself included, who are happy to pay to make the girl orgasm. I feel that in a p4p encounter it is always the client who decides if he wants to do DATY anyway. Even when he asks what you would like to do it's his choice to ask and then comply. So I don't think you are being selfish as if the client wouldn't like to do it he could always not ask or stop.

Just it happens that I had a p4p encounter last night and as I think we really clicked with the provider and she seemed to enjoy the act too I decided to see if I could make her pop too. I normally do not ask with words but lower myself to the position and she will let you know as some girls don't like DATY in p4p as, I've been told, it feels too intimate or is something they just do in private.

But anyways, yesterday the girl seems to enjoy a lot but it was also taking quite a long time. And because this is a shop I know we are now racing against time. I have to admit I thought for a moment about aborting the mission and go for my own pop but quickly dismissed the idea. To the infinity and beyond is my motto! Finally when the clock was just about to run out we managed to get her over the finish line. Not the biggest world shattering the-earth-is-moving -kind of thing but an O nevertheless. And man I felt like a million bucks myself .

 

[User#18046]

I'm actually more interested in the girl having an orgasm than in having one myself. It feels less like I'm "doing something to someone" and more like a shared experience, which is the point of GFE. Plus, I really adore women and they are 1000 times sexier to me when they are turned on. Which was the one frustrating aspect of our 3P... there was too much going on for me to focus on getting you off. Manami is a show stealer.

 

[User#19043]

This, very much this.

-Ww

I'm in yot

That's very true! I haven't really thought myself that not opening up during an escort date as some sort of protection. But then, I've had my first oral orgasm at an escort date as well. Not sure if that triggered everything that I'm open to it or I'm just a horrible actress and can't fake orgasms, connections etc



Sometimes I wish that the guys I meet in private would think the same I can literally count on one hand how many guys went down on me until I orgasm. I think for many it just takes too long or they are just not into it whatever.
On the other hand, I've had more orgasms as an escort. Does that say something about my choice in men? Haha

I'm actually more interested in the girl having an orgasm than in having one myself. It feels less like I'm "doing something to someone" and more like a shared experience, which is the point of GFE. Plus, I really adore women and they are 1000 times sexier to me when they are turned on. Which was the one frustrating aspect of our 3P... there was too much going on for me to focus on getting you off. Manami is a show stealer.

What a dilemma to be faced with...I hope to partially duplicate your effort. I have a different choice for Anna. But you probably already know that. NED trust you are doing well. Cheers!

 

[Frenchy]

I'm not sure why it should necessarily be a either/or thing...
but say if the client made you pop and then it takes a bit more time to finish him as a result you won't probably be as selfish as to stop the clock and say "thanks for the O, but sorry game over!"

 

[MikeH]

but say if the client made you pop and then it takes a bit more time to finish him as a result you won't probably be as selfish as to stop the clock and say "thanks for the O, but sorry game over!"

This of course would depend also if you are an independent or working for a shop. Couple of years ago I was in one where they do have the timer clock running in the table beside the bed. Even if her legs were cramping over my head like trying to kill me I could clearly hear the alarm going on and on and on... By the power of the grip it was easy to figure out she had no intentions to stop at that time .

But after we managed to get her over the goal line she, to my surprise, took a very, and I mean very, good care of me too. Afterwards when I was in the shower I heard the shop manager trying to scold here for not stopping when the alarm went on. She just replied "didn't hear it, was too busy having an orgasm" . But I am guessing her position in the shop was a pretty strong one for her to afford that kind of reply and would not expect many girls to be able to pull that off.

 

[Frenchy]

This of course would depend also if you are an independent or working for a shop. Couple of years ago I was in one where they do have the timer clock running in the table beside the bed. Even if her legs were cramping over my head like trying to kill me I could clearly hear the alarm going on and on and on... By the power of the grip it was easy to figure out she had no intentions to stop at that time .

But after we managed to get her over the goal line she, to my surprise, took a very, and I mean very, good care of me too. Afterwards when I was in the shower I heard the shop manager trying to scold here for not stopping when the alarm went on. She just replied "didn't hear it, was too busy having an orgasm" . But I am guessing her position in the shop was a pretty strong one for her to afford that kind of reply and would not expect many girls to be able to pull that off.

Kudos to her ! (And you too, obviously )

 

[User#18046]

I'm not sure why it should necessarily be a either/or thing...
but say if the client made you pop and then it takes a bit more time to finish him as a result you won't probably be as selfish as to stop the clock and say "thanks for the O, but sorry game over!"

That's likely a real consideration for most people, based on what they are looking for, and the amount of time they have. If a guy is really into FS and only has an hour to get his three favorite positions in plus shower time, he's less likely to be willing to spend 20 minutes trying to get the girl off. I prefer oral to FS anyway, and prefer longer dates; but if DATY or fingers are not working and the girl is both unresponsive and unwilling to give me any feedback on how to adjust to her wants, then it can feel more like work than fun. But if she's into it, I'm perfectly happy to spend the time at it, even in a soapland like with Mimi. Going back to the OP, to me it's not like "I just paid money to make you cum," its more like "I paid for the experience of doing what I enjoy and going on a great ride." Damn, seriously... got me daydreaming now...

 

[Frenchy]

That's likely a real consideration for most people, based on what they are looking for, and the amount of time they have. If a guy is really into FS and only has an hour to get his three favorite positions in plus shower time, he's less likely to be willing to spend 20 minutes trying to get the girl off. I prefer oral to FS anyway, and prefer longer dates; but if DATY or fingers are not working and the girl is both unresponsive and unwilling to give me any feedback on how to adjust to her wants, then it can feel more like work than fun. But if she's into it, I'm perfectly happy to spend the time at it, even in a soapland like with Mimi. Going back to the OP, to me it's not like "I just paid money to make you cum," its more like "I paid for the experience of doing what I enjoy and going on a great ride." Damn, seriously... got me daydreaming now...

Yeah, if it's "work" I definitely won't do it anyway. I'm not the one supposed to work in this relationship! But sometimes I love to be the one giving head and like last time with Sophie it was a win-win, she tastes so good! Damn I'm daydreaming too now ...

 

[Jaaz]

I'm a bit late to this rather active thread, but agree with all that was said. For me personally, I feel more connected and aroused if my partner is enjoying herself as well. If she's not into it, I'm less concerned about how to get myself off (most of the time) and more concerned with getting her off and getting aroused together.

 

[e-smile]

Not sure if that title is suitable at all but couldn't come up with another one. And I think 'am I being selfish' sounds... well...

So there's the thing... As an Escort it's always the first priority to make to satisfy and make the client happy. Whatever that be. I guess the 'pop' is the one main goal.
I've been in situations where clients ask me what I want them to do. Mostly during DATY. I don't have any problems having an orgasm and I do enjoy it when it happens. When it's not happening, it's fine too. But sometimes I catch myself being so much into it, not really thinking about that as an escort-client date and being rather selfish to demand my own orgasm. Even tho the client is paying me to satisfy him, instead he is like paying me so I can have an orgasm.
Damn I think that sounds confusing.

How do you guys feel with an escort who openly asks to continue let's say, DATY, fingering etc. in order for her to reach an orgasm?

satisfying a woman is a big part of a man's satisfaction. the fact you enjoy the encounter and want to have a real orgasm is a very good point.

also popping is not the main goal, that is some thing we can do with our own hand. the pop is only the peak of the encounter and there will be a drop of excitation right after that so what will be remembered the most is all what happened before.

if a girl only focus on making the guy cum as fast a possible without really enjoying it the encounter will be remembered as a bad experience even if the pop was given.

 

[User#18046]

satisfying a woman is a big part of a man's satisfaction. the fact you enjoy the encounter and want to have a real orgasm is a very good point.

also popping is not the main goal, that is some thing we can do with our own hand. the pop is only the peak of the encounter and there will be a drop of excitation right after that so what will be remembered the most is all what happened before.

if a girl only focus on making the guy cum as fast a possible without really enjoying it the encounter will be remembered as a bad experience even if the pop was given.

Yeah. What he said.

 

[Frenchy]

satisfying a woman is a big part of a man's satisfaction. the fact you enjoy the encounter and want to have a real orgasm is a very good point.

also popping is not the main goal, that is some thing we can do with our own hand. the pop is only the peak of the encounter and there will be a drop of excitation right after that so what will be remembered the most is all what happened before.

if a girl only focus on making the guy cum as fast a possible without really enjoying it the encounter will be remembered as a bad experience even if the pop was given.

+1!

 

[Wwanderer]

I really adore women and they are 1000 times sexier to me when they are turned on.

Even without having ever met you, I feel that the number must be far far far higher than 1000!

-Ww

 

[Soapysoap66]

satisfying a woman is a big part of a man's satisfaction. the fact you enjoy the encounter and want to have a real orgasm is a very good point.

also popping is not the main goal, that is some thing we can do with our own hand. the pop is only the peak of the encounter and there will be a drop of excitation right after that so what will be remembered the most is all what happened before.

if a girl only focus on making the guy cum as fast a possible without really enjoying it the encounter will be remembered as a bad experience even if the pop was given.

This is almost exactly what I was going to write. +1 from me as well.

 

[TheScientist]

Even tho the client is paying me to satisfy him, instead he is like paying me so I can have an orgasm.

Personally I'm paying for a sexual experience which for me almost always includes giving pleasure to the woman as well and often as the primary goal. Same even when the clock is ticking.

 

[Rebeccalee]

Honestly, I find myself getting carried away with getting myself to orgasm too when I'm with a client. I don't think it's selfish at all! Give and receive I say! I agree with what @Wwander said, being real and opening yourself this way to a client can be extremely rewarding to them. This is something I take great joy and pride in doing.

I think I'm lucky that I orgasm easily with fingers/oral - and intensely, especially with my trusted toys - It seriously helps cause I don't have to fake it, and my clients think I look cute when I am all flushed with a dizzy look on my face. They also like it when I put on a show for them, I do love being an exhibitionist in the bedroom.

satisfying a woman is a big part of a man's satisfaction. the fact you enjoy the encounter and want to have a real orgasm is a very good point.

also popping is not the main goal, that is some thing we can do with our own hand. the pop is only the peak of the encounter and there will be a drop of excitation right after that so what will be remembered the most is all what happened before.

if a girl only focus on making the guy cum as fast a possible without really enjoying it the encounter will be remembered as a bad experience even if the pop was given.

I agree with this too. The narrative that intimacy is only considered "good" if there is ejaculation is involved is narrow. If I had a good time with a client(and vice versa), I had a good time

 

[hkAlone]

I have been starting p4p to accommodate my sexual desires / getting a sexual release.
As time went, I've been seeing many other facets of it.
After some time, I saw it as a good way to gain a variety of sexual experiences. In such regard, provider's physical pleasure matters if you're really want to gain a real sexual expertise.
Then later came the need for more intense human experience. Then finally the grey zone.
For the latter two, the general well being of your provider suddenly matters even more than her physical pleasure alone.
There are many ways to play that game and to enjoy it.

To come back to the original topic, if the provider gives direction to get off, I would easily guess that the immense majority of mongers would be pleased to oblige.