Asking girls in the streets

[Mr Cat]

You really have a deranged worldview if you think a country's population is behaving like it's porn actors. Reminds me of the the guys who think everyone behaves and speaks like they have seen it in animes.

Get out more, talk to real people and socialize. You will be surprised that our world is different than portrayed in any kind of media.

You mean Japanese don’t turn into super saiyan when they get upset ? How disappointing !

 

[Durg50]

you will not find TV stations where the news anchor is getting fucked and jizzed on like the famous one of Maria Ozawa back in the day (I wanked to that one too much myself.)

Id forgotten about that one. Same.

 

[Combat]

Some interesting discussion in this thread regarding nanpa.

I think the truth is in the middle somewhere. I don't disagree that there is some "manipulation" involved in PUA. Negating or otherwise blocking a woman's usual senses (for example, wrapping them up in conversation during transitions so they don't have the mental space to think about where you're taking them) are undeniably an aspect of PUA strategies and tactics. And it is also true that there are a lot of asshole-ish PUA guys who will touch/insult/block girls on the street. I agree that there are also a lot of PUA guys who twist themselves up trying to justify the less socially acceptable parts of PUA and rationalizing them by saying that it's part of some grander philosophical flourish than what it actually is (trying to get laid).

But as someone else in this thread said: at the end of the day, both parties are adults and can make their own choices. As long as it's consensual and nobody's forcing anybody to do anything then it really isn't relevant how you meet the girl. Nanpa isn't about forcing girls to do anything they don't want to or annoying them until they give in, it's about guiding them to a unique opportunity and then allowing them to make the ultimate decision on whether they take it or not. Yes, nanpa involves annoying some girls, but I think that's just a trade off you have to make. In order to do nanpa you have to value pursuing what you want more than being a minor nuisance to a stranger for 0.1% of their day. Plus, a lot of nanpa approaches end up much more positive than you might think. For every girl that ignores or is annoyed, there are other girls who blow wide open and are super happy you're talking to them.

 

[Frenchy]

@Combat
Well again if the “trade off” is annoying OTHERS to get what YOU want it’s not much of a trade off, really
You should try being harrassed all day long by gay guys , see how it feels

 

[Ken4fb]

You should try being harrassed all day long by gay guys , see how it feels

Humm? Challenge accepted 😁 @Tabanico you want to be my wing man for that?

 

[YokoMonger]

@Combat
You should try being harrassed all day long by gay guys , see how it feels

For men, it's more like "Imagine if you're approached by multiple strangers a day each asking for some money." A single instance feels awkward for some even if it might be a positive experience for those charitable souls out there.

 

[CharlieSimms]

@Combat
Well again if the “trade off” is annoying OTHERS to get what YOU want it’s not much of a trade off, really
You should try being harrassed all day long by gay guys , see how it feels

Ok ok. I know this topic is a pet peeve for you. But I have to chuckle at this. Annoying others to get what YOU want in the business world is called Sales and Marketing. Constant pursuit and harassment of individuals or organizations that very likely have no need or interest in your product or service. In the end some will of course. But overall wasting a lot of other people’s time and annoying them. Yet we all rely on Sales and Marketing at some level to maintain our lifestyles and way of life.

In the end I am not advocating being an unskillful dumbass. But like in the Art gallery case and the Starbucks case, I think it’s just fine to strike up a conversation and show interest in another person even though it may be outside the deemed “appropriate places” to engage socially, however subjective that is… As to the motivation of striking up a convo being to potentially get laid…. I wonder how many people met their wives or girlfriends first under that exact scenario. It’s rather core to boy meets girl at least from the boy’s view… 😂

 

[newbie]

One of my highschool friends got into pickup. He started dating 5 morbidly obese girls and wouldn't stop talking about how alpha he was getting "high value" women. Everyone eventually stopped talking to him. 15 years later, he's single and lives with his mom. Nothing wrong with that, I'm just wondering where all his high value women went...

I don't necessarily have anything against pickup or some that do it, but in my experience 85% of the guys doing it are massive dicks trying to mask their insecurities, lol.

 

[requiemmorrow]

Ok ok. I know this topic is a pet peeve for you. But I have to chuckle at this. Annoying others to get what YOU want in the business world is called Sales and Marketing. Constant pursuit and harassment of individuals or organizations that very likely have no need or interest in your product or service. In the end some will of course. But overall wasting a lot of other people’s time and annoying them. Yet we all rely on Sales and Marketing at some level to maintain our lifestyles and way of life.

In the end I am not advocating being an unskillful dumbass. But like in the Art gallery case and the Starbucks case, I think it’s just fine to strike up a conversation and show interest in another person even though it may be outside the deemed “appropriate places” to engage socially, however subjective that is… As to the motivation of striking up a convo being to potentially get laid…. I wonder how many people met their wives or girlfriends first under that exact scenario. It’s rather core to boy meets girl at least from the boy’s view… 😂

Starbucks…movie theaters…drug stores…art museums…

 

[Frenchy]

Starbucks…movie theaters…drug stores…art museums…

Funny. i also thought about that … where are the streets in this list?
Anyway, in this day and age there’s also something wonderful called the internet and dozens of dating sites catering to various sexual orientations, races, faiths etc…
Trying to pick up in the streets seems a bit medieval nowadays (not just for the torturous aspect)

 

[MrDuBois]

Guess it's also somewhat of an ego thing. Being "able to pull" from the street is a "greater achievement" than swiping right on an app and get a match. Well, or so I have read - I don't personally put much value on this lol.

That being said, your first sentence got me thinking. Personally, I find myself much more inclined to strike up a conversation with someone (whether man or woman, doesn't matter) in a place that both of us are in for the same reason. All those examples by requiem are good because yeah, if I am in an art museum, I assume the other person is there because they are interested in whatever the museum is about, so it's much easier to talk to someone, even if just briefly.

 

[Karen]

In the line at 2F Starbucks in Roppongi Hills, asked the cute girl behind me if she had tried the latest seasonal drink and was it worth a try. Six hours later, we're at Rigoletto sharing dinner... that went on for about 6/7 months. (It was a totally innocent question and we just kept talking after we ordered our drinks...)

This is a good pickup, though it wasn't intended, I assume? You definitely do not strike me as the PUA type.

Being a white woman, none of you other foreigners really notice me on the street.
Japanese men must have brass balls, they can be annoying little twits when the white fever strikes. They might have better game if their breath didn't reek 90% of the time.

The best pick-up experience I have experienced was in a bookstore while buying a fantasy novel. A common chord among fantasy book lovers spun a song of passion.

 

[TAG Manager]

This is a good pickup, though it wasn't intended, I assume? You definitely do not strike me as the PUA type.

No, it was just a random conversation that led elsewhere.

A common chord among fantasy book lovers spun a song of passion.

I lol'd.

 

[MrDuBois]

One more thing I am very curious about is...how do these PUA guys work in these mask-times? Do they just hit on the girls that don't wear masks? Do they don't give a shit and just talk to every Japanese woman with a nice set of eyes (which I think is like 99% of Japanese women in my totally unbiased opinion), not fearing what might be underneath? Shallow thinking I know but considering the whole nampa thing is about fucking, face should play a big part in attractiveness, no?

 

[MikeH]

considering the whole nampa thing is about fucking, face should play a big part in attractiveness, no?

If it's only about fucking you can always flip her over and do her doggie style.

 

[CharlieSimms]

One more thing I am very curious about is...how do these PUA guys work in these mask-times? Do they just hit on the girls that don't wear masks? Do they don't give a shit and just talk to every Japanese woman with a nice set of eyes (which I think is like 99% of Japanese women in my totally unbiased opinion), not fearing what might be underneath? Shallow thinking I know but considering the whole nampa thing is about fucking, face should play a big part in attractiveness, no?

• I have seen plenty of approaches to ladies in masks. In fact most have been.
• They approach girls who they are interested in. Do you think only eyes are observable when a mask is worn? body, hello?
• Of course there is a risk with the mask. It is the マスク美人 dilemma discussed in several past threads
• To say nampa is only about fucking might as well say all dating if not life itself as the perpetuation of the human race is only about fucking. True on some level but a gross oversimplification.
• In fact most nampa you will observe are scouts out for commissions not sex. Goes back to my point that nampa is just sales in a different context. Although for scouts a direct context.

 

[MrDuBois]

They approach girls who they are interested in. Do you think only eyes are observable when a mask is worn? body, hello?

Sure is, but face > body to me and I am probably not the only one who thinks that way. But yeah - I suppose Mike has a point there...

Also, no need to bring up the obvious scouts when we both know what type of nampa I was talking about here but as previously stated: no point in talking about the grand, underlying schemes of nampa that many a PUA try to perpetuate to make it sound like it's NOT just about fucking.

 

[CharlieSimms]

Sure is, but face > body to me and I am probably not the only one who thinks that way. But yeah - I suppose Mike has a point there...

Also, no need to bring up the obvious scouts when we both know what type of nampa I was talking about here but as previously stated: no point in talking about the grand, underlying schemes of nampa that many a PUA try to perpetuate to make it sound like it's NOT just about fucking.

Is p4p just about fucking? If you think it is, I think you are wrong but at least you are somehow consistent in your views.

 

[requiemmorrow]

Sure is, but face > body to me and I am probably not the only one who thinks that way.

Dunno the model, but if you can't get excited looking at that booty, I've got some news for you...

 

[MrDuBois]

Hey man, I can get excited by that booty.

But the face can turn that right off again. To each their own lol.

 

[requiemmorrow]

Hey man, I can get excited by that booty.

But the face can turn that right off again. To each their own lol.

I agree. So...just put the mask right back on her then...lol

 

[MrDuBois]

Fair enough.

 

[just4fun]

 

[CharlieSimms]

I will not Sir!! 😂

 

[just4fun]

I will not Sir!! 😂

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