Lately I’m hearing news of so many people (both SW and non SW) being outed or threatened to be outed online. I’m naturally a friendly person, but it makes me question provider friendships, opening up to people in my personal life or sharing personal information with clients.
Nikkie de Jager, aka Nikkietutorials on YT came out as a transgender woman on January 13 after being blackmailed by someone who found about her past. I’m not big on Youtubers but I know she is a talented artist on YouTube and she mostly sticks to herself. Back in the day I’ve learned a couple of makeup tricks from her and she was always respectful to others in her videos and didn’t turn herself into a clown for the sake of views.
Sadly, Nikkie is not the first transgender person to face the threat of outing. Both the intimidation and the act can be incredibly harmful to trans people. Their careers and lives are at stake. Nikkie is financially secure and working in an industry that’s more accepting of trans women, but that’s not always the case for others.
The same goes for sex workers since both LGBT people and sex workers are marginalized in society. Even if you’re a career sex worker, face out, being outed might lead to a stalker harming you.
Recently, some high end escorts from NYC have been outed. To protect their privacy I will not post receipts but real names and family members were leaked. Sadly, the perpetrators are most likely other women in the industry. They didn’t even bother to blackmail these women, the outings were maliciously posted online for no financial gain or perhaps the culprit didn’t want to reveal their identity. I just can’t fathom how a sex worker would out a fellow colleague just because she has a few too many Cartier bracelets. The industry is so big that with the right attitude and marketing everyone has a chance to be successful. Success doesn’t equate to harming others!
On the other end of the spectrum, there are providers who steal deposits and threaten to out clients to their families. This will not bring them long term success, plus blackmailing is illegal in some countries. Small businesses like ours benefit highly from trusted relationships and stellar reputation.
What do you gentlemen think?
Would you still meet a provider and feel safe if she was notorious for outing other women?
Nikkie de Jager, aka Nikkietutorials on YT came out as a transgender woman on January 13 after being blackmailed by someone who found about her past. I’m not big on Youtubers but I know she is a talented artist on YouTube and she mostly sticks to herself. Back in the day I’ve learned a couple of makeup tricks from her and she was always respectful to others in her videos and didn’t turn herself into a clown for the sake of views.
Sadly, Nikkie is not the first transgender person to face the threat of outing. Both the intimidation and the act can be incredibly harmful to trans people. Their careers and lives are at stake. Nikkie is financially secure and working in an industry that’s more accepting of trans women, but that’s not always the case for others.
The same goes for sex workers since both LGBT people and sex workers are marginalized in society. Even if you’re a career sex worker, face out, being outed might lead to a stalker harming you.
Recently, some high end escorts from NYC have been outed. To protect their privacy I will not post receipts but real names and family members were leaked. Sadly, the perpetrators are most likely other women in the industry. They didn’t even bother to blackmail these women, the outings were maliciously posted online for no financial gain or perhaps the culprit didn’t want to reveal their identity. I just can’t fathom how a sex worker would out a fellow colleague just because she has a few too many Cartier bracelets. The industry is so big that with the right attitude and marketing everyone has a chance to be successful. Success doesn’t equate to harming others!
On the other end of the spectrum, there are providers who steal deposits and threaten to out clients to their families. This will not bring them long term success, plus blackmailing is illegal in some countries. Small businesses like ours benefit highly from trusted relationships and stellar reputation.
What do you gentlemen think?
Would you still meet a provider and feel safe if she was notorious for outing other women?
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