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Been a while since I last posted but here goes:

Met a potential SB for lunch one day (unpaid) and it went really well. I've been on a good handful of first meetups with potentials but this particular SB was different than the others. This particular SB was truly down-to-earth, humble, not money hungry towards me and got the impression she could potentially be real GF material. I sensed that she is potentially looking for a life partner eventually but living in the now moment and see what happens later. What was clear up front between the both of us is that she needs financial assistance (duh) and that she is leaving Japan in months time. I could sense this SB is really into me and is now asking to come over to my place for some fun even though the exact financial numbers were not discussed. As she doesn't even know my real name (yet or if I ever will tell her) is it a wise decision to bring her back or keep a line between us somewhere? I feel like if we both get too emotionally involved together (which I feel it could lead to) it will complicate things because she is leaving Japan in the end.
 
As a general principle, protect yourself at all times.
It’s way too soon to bring her back to your place or disclose your real name.
Trust your instincts. Keep it simple and uncomplicated.
Good luck.
 
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At the very least you should make clear the financial conditions and frequencies of meetings and end date at first. And other expectations (sexual and others) both sides.
Then for the rest... it’s trusting your guts and damn if you do and damn if you don’t. Just know yourself, if you are more of a FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) or FOFU (Fear of Fucking Up) guy.
 
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Majestyk said:
As a general principle, protect yourself at all times.
It’s way too soon to bring her back to your place or disclose your real name.
Trust your instincts. Keep it simple and uncomplicated.
Good luck.
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Agreed thanks. I'm paranoid about most women here regarding my privacy but this one felt different... Will keep the walls up a bit high for now.
 
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Frenchy said:
At the very least you should make clear the financial conditions and frequencies of meetings and end date at first. And other expectations (sexual and others) both sides.
Then for the rest... it’s trusting your guts and damn if you do and damn if you don’t. Just know yourself, if you are more of a FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) or FOFU (Fear of Fucking Up) guy.
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Sorry forgot to mention that the financial conditions (roughly), meetings and expectations were talked about. I'm a bit of a FOMO and a FOFU kind of dude but I think I need to keep the privacy filter up high still to avoid further complications as @Majestyk mentioned. I think I was getting into my own head too much
 
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macdaddymeister said:
Sorry forgot to mention that the financial conditions (roughly), meetings and expectations were talked about. I'm a bit of a FOMO and a FOFU kind of dude but I think I need to keep the privacy filter up high still to avoid further complications as @Majestyk mentioned. I think I was getting into my own head too much
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Yeah well I could start to write a book about that. Im more FOMO than you , I guess. Escorts are different, they really don’t give a shit about your private life (and I suppose, vice-versa). Long-term/frequent SBs... even if you don’t have feelings and you think boundaries are clear, there will come a point when you two will know a lot about each other, I don’t think you can hide completely for such a long time in an intimate (yet “arranged” ) relationship. My previous SB found my name in 10mn on the net just after the meet and greet... and honestly at that point I had disclosed nearly nothing.
 
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Frenchy said:
My previous SB found my name in 10mn on the net just after the meet and greet... and honestly at that point I had disclosed nearly nothing.
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You should have told her you are a genderqueer from Senegal, instead of a male from France and see how much she can dig up with that.

But that's why escorts are better, I bet none of them have gone to the net to find out things about me after me wet.
 
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MikeH said:
You should have told her you are a genderqueer from Senegal, instead of a male from France and see how much she can dig up with that.

But that's why escorts are better, I bet none of them have gone to the net to find out things about me after me wet.
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You should have said “I am the one and only MikeH on TAG and I want you to increase my likes count” :D
 
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Frenchy said:
You should have said “I am the one and only MikeH on TAG and I want you to increase my likes count” :D
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Yeah, you know I don't need to do that. After we meet all the girls will just type "the most beautiful dick in the world" in Google and they will find everything about me, or him, in 0.3 seconds.

Which is pretty much the same amount of time I lasted with them girls. But he gets the likes anyway, not me.
 
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Yeah, you know I don't need to do that. After we meet all the girls will just type "the most beautiful dick in the world" in Google and they will find everything about me, or him, in 0.3 seconds.

Which is pretty much the same amount of time I lasted with them girls. But he gets the likes anyway, not me.
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I would feel slightly jealous of that dick, if it was mine. Which it obviously isnt so at least I am spared this kind of jealousy :)
 
Sorry , back to topic: i guess what i wanted to say, in short, is that the very concept of sugaring is about blurred lines. Thats what makes it exciting for some, repulsive for others, and both opinions are valid
 
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Frenchy said:
Yeah well I could start to write a book about that. Im more FOMO than you , I guess. Escorts are different, they really don’t give a shit about your private life (and I suppose, vice-versa). Long-term/frequent SBs... even if you don’t have feelings and you think boundaries are clear, there will come a point when you two will know a lot about each other, I don’t think you can hide completely for such a long time in an intimate (yet “arranged” ) relationship. My previous SB found my name in 10mn on the net just after the meet and greet... and honestly at that point I had disclosed nearly nothing.
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Totally agree with what you're saying. Not sure how much info of this potential SB of mine knows about me yet. She did ask what name she should call me when meeting and I responded back with calling me the macdaddy.
 
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Totally agree with what you're saying. Not sure how much info of this potential SB of mine knows about me yet. She did ask what name she should call me when meeting and I responded back with calling me the macdaddy.
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Well if she accepts to call you that she is either really into you or has no self-esteem! :D
 
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Well if she accepts to call you that she is either really into you or has no self-esteem! :D
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Well, according to the latest reports that would be an apt name for a daddy that gets you laid! Not a bad name for an SD if you ask me.
 
MikeH said:
Well, according to the latest reports that would be an apt name for a daddy that gets you laid! Not a bad name for an SD if you ask me.
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Ok but at least with a more palatable first name. I dunno. Fleetwood maybe.
FleetwoodMacDaddy. Yeah, sounds better.
 
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macdaddymeister said:
Been a while since I last posted but here goes:

Met a potential SB for lunch one day (unpaid) and it went really well. I've been on a good handful of first meetups with potentials but this particular SB was different than the others. This particular SB was truly down-to-earth, humble, not money hungry towards me and got the impression she could potentially be real GF material. I sensed that she is potentially looking for a life partner eventually but living in the now moment and see what happens later. What was clear up front between the both of us is that she needs financial assistance (duh) and that she is leaving Japan in months time. I could sense this SB is really into me and is now asking to come over to my place for some fun even though the exact financial numbers were not discussed. As she doesn't even know my real name (yet or if I ever will tell her) is it a wise decision to bring her back or keep a line between us somewhere? I feel like if we both get too emotionally involved together (which I feel it could lead to) it will complicate things because she is leaving Japan in the end.
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This is what love hotels are for.
 
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Love hotels are good but not as low key if you really don't want to be seen coming in/out of one.
 
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So by the way, care to give us an update ? How is it going with her?
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Just met up for the second time recently which was a totally casual day checking out an event in Tokyo followed by coffee and that was it. We often communicate on Line several times a week and I really could sense she's a good woman and see this potentially leading to a genuine relationship. As I'm no longer a lone ranger anymore and the fact that I know she is leaving Japan in a few months is sort of a bummer. It seems like all the good people (bother men and women) I meet and get along with all end up leaving Japan which in turns makes me feel like to leave in a way.
 
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This is very true for me as well. However, i see no point in leaving as they all move to different destinations.
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I've traveled extensively all throughout Asia and there are so many wonderful places I could see myself living in if the jobby job situation wasn't such the challenge.
 
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