I'm going to Sophia University in Japan.
I'm not going to lie, I have never been in a relationship with anyone.
That is my fault, of course. I'm very academia-oriented and tend to prefer being on the "fringe"; that is, observing from afar but rarely participating in group activities. Not that I don't enjoy doing things, I just can't stand to do things with people that aren't worth my time.
That is not to say I'm better than them; on the same token I am not worth their time either.
I would guess that it's more about the efficiency of time spent with people rather than the people themselves, but who knows.
Anyhow!
I have some questions about dating in Japan, especially in regards to dating while at University.
1) Where are good places to meet people? Preferably energetic people. Not necessarily athletic; I mean a person who "exudes" energy. Something like a passionate person, although everyone has something they are passionate about...
2) What sort of activities are to be done, apart from sex. Common date activities, for example.
3) From my understanding the Japanese aren't strongly interested in sex. Would it be considered strange for me to withhold sex until I know a person better? The answer to this question won't have an effect on my current position regarding sex, I'm just curious and unknowledgable of Japanese dating practices.
4) I also understand that the Japanese generally have low libido. Despite my (seemingly obvious) virginity and aversion to sex early in a relationship, I am very sexual. I have no religious beliefs regarding sex. When I do decide to have sex, will I have to satisfy myself or will my partner (assuming my partner is male; although I also like women, they seem too dramatic as a whole for a serious relationship. That being said, maybe the women I would associate with will be more mature) respond to sexual advances. I am looking for a general answer regarding males, preferably Japanese, as a whole. I do realize that everyone is different and that such generalizations may not apply to any particular person.
5) I was born infertile. I realize that for many people who may seek long term relationships or marriage, this is a deal breaker. What are your opinions on this matter in regards to Japan and Japanese culture?
6) I have heard terms such as "carnivorous" and "grass-eating" in reference to types of males. I would like opinions on this matter.
7) Is it considered rude to spend time by yourself while in a relationship? It seems as though couples rarely spend time apart, but I would lose my mind being with someone constantly.
8) I tend to prefer spending time with people older than me (30-45 range) and often find people in that age range to be more attractive. While I have no qualms about dating in my age range, what would your advice be on the matter to dating an older person.
9) I will now describe my physical attributes. Please give me your opinions on how my appearance may affect dating and/or general life in Japan. From my understanding, my body type is not "popular" in Japan; however, my coloring is. I do not know anything about Japanese fashion or what manner of clothing is considered "attractive".
Height: 5'3"
US Shoe Size: Women's 11 (supposedly it will be impossible to find shoes in Japan)
Body Shape: Hourglass (broad shoulders, D cup, wide hips, small waist (emphasized due to shoulders/bust/hips)
Body Type: Thin/Athletic (I have muscular legs, especially my thighs. Not huge, but you can see "muscle lines")
Hair: Medium-Dark blonde, straight, tailbone length. Generally worn in braids or braided buns.
Skin: Clear and very pale (I'm terrified of skin cancer and sun damaged skin, so I don't tan)
Eyes: Blue
"Style": I like modest, feminine clothing. Think along the lines of a Catholic schoolgirl. That being said, I would love to try provocative clothing some day!
Thank you for spending the time to read/answer this.
I'm not going to lie, I have never been in a relationship with anyone.
That is my fault, of course. I'm very academia-oriented and tend to prefer being on the "fringe"; that is, observing from afar but rarely participating in group activities. Not that I don't enjoy doing things, I just can't stand to do things with people that aren't worth my time.
That is not to say I'm better than them; on the same token I am not worth their time either.
I would guess that it's more about the efficiency of time spent with people rather than the people themselves, but who knows.
Anyhow!
I have some questions about dating in Japan, especially in regards to dating while at University.
1) Where are good places to meet people? Preferably energetic people. Not necessarily athletic; I mean a person who "exudes" energy. Something like a passionate person, although everyone has something they are passionate about...
2) What sort of activities are to be done, apart from sex. Common date activities, for example.
3) From my understanding the Japanese aren't strongly interested in sex. Would it be considered strange for me to withhold sex until I know a person better? The answer to this question won't have an effect on my current position regarding sex, I'm just curious and unknowledgable of Japanese dating practices.
4) I also understand that the Japanese generally have low libido. Despite my (seemingly obvious) virginity and aversion to sex early in a relationship, I am very sexual. I have no religious beliefs regarding sex. When I do decide to have sex, will I have to satisfy myself or will my partner (assuming my partner is male; although I also like women, they seem too dramatic as a whole for a serious relationship. That being said, maybe the women I would associate with will be more mature) respond to sexual advances. I am looking for a general answer regarding males, preferably Japanese, as a whole. I do realize that everyone is different and that such generalizations may not apply to any particular person.
5) I was born infertile. I realize that for many people who may seek long term relationships or marriage, this is a deal breaker. What are your opinions on this matter in regards to Japan and Japanese culture?
6) I have heard terms such as "carnivorous" and "grass-eating" in reference to types of males. I would like opinions on this matter.
7) Is it considered rude to spend time by yourself while in a relationship? It seems as though couples rarely spend time apart, but I would lose my mind being with someone constantly.
8) I tend to prefer spending time with people older than me (30-45 range) and often find people in that age range to be more attractive. While I have no qualms about dating in my age range, what would your advice be on the matter to dating an older person.
9) I will now describe my physical attributes. Please give me your opinions on how my appearance may affect dating and/or general life in Japan. From my understanding, my body type is not "popular" in Japan; however, my coloring is. I do not know anything about Japanese fashion or what manner of clothing is considered "attractive".
Height: 5'3"
US Shoe Size: Women's 11 (supposedly it will be impossible to find shoes in Japan)
Body Shape: Hourglass (broad shoulders, D cup, wide hips, small waist (emphasized due to shoulders/bust/hips)
Body Type: Thin/Athletic (I have muscular legs, especially my thighs. Not huge, but you can see "muscle lines")
Hair: Medium-Dark blonde, straight, tailbone length. Generally worn in braids or braided buns.
Skin: Clear and very pale (I'm terrified of skin cancer and sun damaged skin, so I don't tan)
Eyes: Blue
"Style": I like modest, feminine clothing. Think along the lines of a Catholic schoolgirl. That being said, I would love to try provocative clothing some day!
Thank you for spending the time to read/answer this.