Escorts preferences

[tad3239]

One of the most attractive thing about being in the Tokyo adult scene is the exposure you get to different people . I think many people here had repeat dates with escorts either independent or with an agency . So when you have the chance to have an appointment would you rather to get multiple dates with the same escort or try a new one ?

and for escorts : Do you have preferences toward clients and did you ever thought about reversing roles and maybe contacting a male escort/client for a date ?

 

[Coda87]

I have not repeated yet with the same escort. Not that I didn’t want to. Its just that there are so many good choices, I decided to try several before I repeat (I may next time). Also its more exciting to meet a new lady each time. I know there is a risk of no chemistry. But so far Ive been lucky.

 

[ndvd8]

there are plenty of shops. want to visit new ones . i have nearly 50 shops waiting on my list. infact i had perfect experiences in some shops, want to visit them again.

 

[Frenchy]

I used to always want to try new ladies but not anymore. Getting to know someone better , on repeated occasions, gives more intimacy and confidence. Also it limits the risks of being disappointed by a new person with whom you don’t click.
There are some posts here from escorts who reversed the roles, but it’s rather rare I suppose.

 

[tad3239]

I used to always want to try new ladies but not anymore. Getting to know someone better , on repeated occasions, gives more intimacy and confidence. Also it limits the risks of being disappointed by a new person with whom you don’t click.
There are some posts here from escorts who reversed the roles, but it’s rather rare I suppose.

Sometimes I think if they are attracted to some clients as we are attracted to some escorts and maybe reverse the role and call them ? .

 

[surak]

Personally I'll stop seeing new ones after I find enough favorites (probably 4 or 5) to repeat and rotate.

 

[Wwanderer]

Sometimes I think if they are attracted to some clients as we are attracted to some escorts and maybe reverse the role and call them ? .

I suppose it could happen and work if handled delicately enough, but in general clients will perceive such "reverse" contacts as attempts to manipulate or play/con them (i.e., to get more business) rather than as sincere preference or attraction...assuming the escort is not proposing np4p meetings. An escort doing this runs a serious risk of losing the client completely rather than seeing them more often.

However, it is a different story with sugaring...one of the differences between it and escorting.

-Ww

 

[Viggagadye]

I'm too much of a noob to know, but this is an interesting topic to me, so leaving a post.

 

[User#8628]

I know guys seem to like the thrill of new girls, but i want people to know that we immensely value and appreciate our regulars.

As for contacting a male escort, i’ve never used an actual male escort agency. I’m interested in trying it out of curiosity but I don’t quite like to make phonecalls and i suppose the person who shows up wont look like their pictures. I’ve tried a few p4p experiences out of curiosity and want to try more if i have a chance.

Contacting a customer? Is that about contacting someone we’ve met before again or about contacting potential customers we have never met? I generally wouldn’t do the second because it feels a bit desperate. Probably would consider an open message if I thought our play styles would be a really good fit, but no pressure.
I think contacting former customers to get them to see you again, “eigyo” is very accepted in the Japanese market and is not seen as something sleazy. Often, guys would be open to see a girl again but are hesitant to contact her first themselves.
However, i feel kind of too busy for that practice. I’d maybe check up on a good repeater to see how they are doing but I wouldn’t directly pressure for a date. I also generally wouldn’t contact a former customer for a free date, especially if unplatonic.

 

[User#6517]

for escorts : Do you have preferences toward clients and did you ever thought about reversing roles and maybe contacting a male escort/client for a date ?

I prefer clients who are kind, smart, romantic, passionate, have a good sense of humor, and practice good hygiene. Extra points if he likes dogs.

I do realize that you might’ve been referring to preferences in regards to physical appearances. In that case.. sure, attractive men are nice to look at. Everyone can appreciate what they find to be beautiful. But I believe personalities are what can make or break a booking. A genuinely nice, respectful guy can make a session go from just okay to incredibly fun and awesome.

As for male escorts.. I have thought about it, because I wanted to experience what it’s like to be a client for once. I’ve actually had my eyes on an older gentleman based in Australia for a couple of months now. He’s very well-spoken and quite the advocate for sexworkers’ rights. I think that’s what attracts me to him the most. To be honest, if we ever do get to meet, I’d probably be more excited to talk about and compare our work experiences (female SW vs. male SW) than the actual sex part. That would be fascinating.

 

[gentletouch]

I'd say it all boils to what it is you're looking for... It's so personal...
I, for one, am in search of contact, emotion, connection and authentic mutual pleasuring. Evidently, I can find it only with repeat women. As you learn their bodies, and they learn yours, many of the more technical aspects of the encounter kind of melt into the act. It elevates, for me at least the encounter to another level of sensuality
I never had the slightest illusion that an escort woman would fall for me and will want to see me in her after-hours. Not that I wouldn't like that to happen. But I guess that with their sliced daily schedule, flipping the attachment-detachment switch at the ring of the bell, and switching that many partners, it's understandable that they will max their pleasure with the encounter, while efficiently reset when time hits.
So yes, she wrote me "wish you lived in Tokyo" on Line. But then what? Full time wife and mother, we smoke when we meet, burn the sheets. But we both know it's this dark hotel room that is our kingdom. Outside we are flies and ants. Inside we are fairies and dragons. So we channel it to these sporadic encounters.
So each one to his own narrative, each one to his own story...

 

[Viggagadye]

I'd say it all boils to what it is you're looking for... It's so personal...
I, for one, am in search of contact, emotion, connection and authentic mutual pleasuring. Evidently, I can find it only with repeat women. As you learn their bodies, and they learn yours, many of the more technical aspects of the encounter kind of melt into the act. It elevates, for me at least the encounter to another level of sensuality
I never had the slightest illusion that an escort woman would fall for me and will want to see me in her after-hours. Not that I wouldn't like that to happen. But I guess that with their sliced daily schedule, flipping the attachment-detachment switch at the ring of the bell, and switching that many partners, it's understandable that they will max their pleasure with the encounter, while efficiently reset when time hits.
So yes, she wrote me "wish you lived in Tokyo" on Line. But then what? Full time wife and mother, we smoke when we meet, burn the sheets. But we both know it's this dark hotel room that is our kingdom. Outside we are flies and ants. Inside we are fairies and dragons. So we channel it to these sporadic encounters.
So each one to his own narrative, each one to his own story...

Well that escalated quickly.

 

[gentletouch]

Well that escalated quickly.

Well, not all of us were blessed with DE...

 

[tad3239]

I'd say it all boils to what it is you're looking for... It's so personal...
I, for one, am in search of contact, emotion, connection and authentic mutual pleasuring. Evidently, I can find it only with repeat women. As you learn their bodies, and they learn yours, many of the more technical aspects of the encounter kind of melt into the act. It elevates, for me at least the encounter to another level of sensuality
I never had the slightest illusion that an escort woman would fall for me and will want to see me in her after-hours. Not that I wouldn't like that to happen. But I guess that with their sliced daily schedule, flipping the attachment-detachment switch at the ring of the bell, and switching that many partners, it's understandable that they will max their pleasure with the encounter, while efficiently reset when time hits.
So yes, she wrote me "wish you lived in Tokyo" on Line. But then what? Full time wife and mother, we smoke when we meet, burn the sheets. But we both know it's this dark hotel room that is our kingdom. Outside we are flies and ants. Inside we are fairies and dragons. So we channel it to these sporadic encounters.
So each one to his own narrative, each one to his own story...

Love your language . Very GOT-ish.

 

[tad3239]

I prefer clients who are kind, smart, romantic, passionate, have a good sense of humor, and practice good hygiene. Extra points if he likes dogs.

I do realize that you might’ve been referring to preferences in regards to physical appearances. In that case.. sure, attractive men are nice to look at. Everyone can appreciate what they find to be beautiful. But I believe personalities are what can make or break a booking. A genuinely nice, respectful guy can make a session go from just okay to incredibly fun and awesome.

As for male escorts.. I have thought about it, because I wanted to experience what it’s like to be a client for once. I’ve actually had my eyes on an older gentleman based in Australia for a couple of months now. He’s very well-spoken and quite the advocate for sexworkers’ rights. I think that’s what attracts me to him the most. To be honest, if we ever do get to meet, I’d probably be more excited to talk about and compare our work experiences (female SW vs. male SW) than the actual sex part. That would be fascinating.

Sometimes , I was thinking that as we clients prefer some escorts over others and thus , we choose to be repeat clients for them . Maybe escorts have the same distinguish , they may find some clients OK-ish and others as incredibly fascinating and maybe once in a while , you may meet someone who would blow your mind away. If that happened , would you - the escort - contact this particular client or see that as in-professional attitude and refrain from doing it ?

 

[tad3239]

there are plenty of shops. want to visit new ones . i have nearly 50 shops waiting on my list. infact i had perfect experiences in some shops, want to visit them again.

I'd like to see that list

 

[User#8628]

you may meet someone who would blow your mind away. If that happened , would you - the escort - contact this particular client or see that as in-professional attitude and refrain from doing it ?

I would stay in touch with them but i would leave it up to them to meet me or not, certainly if they will be paying money.

 

[quizmaster]

By meeting a new girl, there's some time spent on formalities ("You've been in Japan that long! So you must know Japanese" kinda thing). And even throughout the time, there's some time spent getting a feel of each other to get the sparks really flying. Seeing a regular I feel is just a more effective use of my time.

The one regular I do have, I have her Line. But that's because she only comes to Japan every few months so it's nice to get a heads up on when she's coming back. It's not like I'm on there bugging her every day.

 

[ndvd8]

dear tad3239
infact i have a list of todo and one for gaijin dame.
i am trying to keep track of rejections also. i think that is also valuable.
i will find a title and share those soon

 

[User#6517]

Sometimes , I was thinking that as we clients prefer some escorts over others and thus , we choose to be repeat clients for them . Maybe escorts have the same distinguish , they may find some clients OK-ish and others as incredibly fascinating and maybe once in a while , you may meet someone who would blow your mind away. If that happened , would you - the escort - contact this particular client or see that as in-professional attitude and refrain from doing it ?

Before I say this, let me add that I’ve been escorting for a little over 2 years.. so these are very rare exceptions.

I’ve dated two clients in the past and I don’t regret it at all. Sometimes you just get tired of all the “wyd?” texts and the boys who think that Netflix & Chill is an acceptable choice for a first date. I like gentlemen, and for some reason, it’s hard for me to come across them outside of this business.

But I am feeling slightly hesitant to date clients again because something odd happened a few weeks back. I felt a lot of chemistry with this one client, and after our session ended, I wanted to ask him out on a date. I fear rejection like the average person, so it was terrifying, but I kept telling myself to just do it because it’ll bother me if I go home without at least getting a yes/no answer. I surprisingly managed to do it and asked him if he had any free time later that week because I wanted to see him again. He seemed flattered and said that he’d have to check his schedule first, so he’ll e-mail me later.

Hours pass and he finally e-mails me, but asks for another appointment. I was slightly confused, but accepted it anyway. During the session, I was tempted to ask him if he understood what I meant when I tried to ask him out, but decided not to. I still think about it from time to time and wonder if it was just a misunderstanding because I didn’t explicitly say that I wanted to meet him off-work, or if he just gave me the world’s most polite rejection.. but I cherish the fact that he was kind enough to at least spend time with me.

 

[tad3239]

Before I say this, let me add that I’ve been escorting for a little over 2 years.. so these are very rare exceptions.

I’ve dated two clients in the past and I don’t regret it at all. Sometimes you just get tired of all the “wyd?” texts and the boys who think that Netflix & Chill is an acceptable choice for a first date. I like gentlemen, and for some reason, it’s hard for me to come across them outside of this business.

But I am feeling slightly hesitant to date clients again because something odd happened a few weeks back. I felt a lot of chemistry with this one client, and after our session ended, I wanted to ask him out on a date. I fear rejection like the average person, so it was terrifying, but I kept telling myself to just do it because it’ll bother me if I go home without at least getting a yes/no answer. I surprisingly managed to do it and asked him if he had any free time later that week because I wanted to see him again. He seemed flattered and said that he’d have to check his schedule first, so he’ll e-mail me later.

Hours pass and he finally e-mails me, but asks for another appointment. I was slightly confused, but accepted it anyway. During the session, I was tempted to ask him if he understood what I meant when I tried to ask him out, but decided not to. I still think about it from time to time and wonder if it was just a misunderstanding because I didn’t explicitly say that I wanted to meet him off-work, or if he just gave me the world’s most polite rejection.. but I cherish the fact that he was kind enough to at least spend time with me.

I just wanna applaud your honesty and your openness .

 

[Viggagadye]

Before I say this, let me add that I’ve been escorting for a little over 2 years.. so these are very rare exceptions.

I’ve dated two clients in the past and I don’t regret it at all. Sometimes you just get tired of all the “wyd?” texts and the boys who think that Netflix & Chill is an acceptable choice for a first date. I like gentlemen, and for some reason, it’s hard for me to come across them outside of this business.

But I am feeling slightly hesitant to date clients again because something odd happened a few weeks back. I felt a lot of chemistry with this one client, and after our session ended, I wanted to ask him out on a date. I fear rejection like the average person, so it was terrifying, but I kept telling myself to just do it because it’ll bother me if I go home without at least getting a yes/no answer. I surprisingly managed to do it and asked him if he had any free time later that week because I wanted to see him again. He seemed flattered and said that he’d have to check his schedule first, so he’ll e-mail me later.

Hours pass and he finally e-mails me, but asks for another appointment. I was slightly confused, but accepted it anyway. During the session, I was tempted to ask him if he understood what I meant when I tried to ask him out, but decided not to. I still think about it from time to time and wonder if it was just a misunderstanding because I didn’t explicitly say that I wanted to meet him off-work, or if he just gave me the world’s most polite rejection.. but I cherish the fact that he was kind enough to at least spend time with me.

If it was me in that guy's situation, I think I would have understood you to mean another p4p session. I would have been flattered that a provider felt chemistry enough to suggest another appointment, but I wouldn't have thought it was her asking me out.
Or perhaps he was confused too, and for safety's sake, asked for an appointment and was waiting for you to clarify or not.
What isn't likely, in my opinion, is that it was a rejection. If he knew you were asking him out for real, and didn't like you, I don't think he would have seen you again. More likely a miscommunication.

 

[User#6517]

If it was me in that guy's situation, I think I would have understood you to mean another p4p session. I would have been flattered that a provider felt chemistry enough to suggest another appointment, but I wouldn't have thought it was her asking me out.
Or perhaps he was confused too, and for safety's sake, asked for an appointment and was waiting for you to clarify or not.
What isn't likely, in my opinion, is that it was a rejection. If he knew you were asking him out for real, and didn't like you, I don't think he would have seen you again. More likely a miscommunication.

You’re probably right. I could have worded it better. This is what I get for trying to make the first move.

 

[gentletouch]

You’re probably right. I could have worded it better. This is what I get for trying to make the first move.

I think you just came across on the least expected moment in a man's life. For us, escorts are all about detachment. Acrobatic as they are with their emotions, they just flip that switch as soon as the clock hits midnight. So we all got used to the fact that once the time expires, so do they... We all crave that moment when our favorite escort, for whom we hold a secret candle, will turn to us and ask: Maybe I'll stay here for a few hours?
So when you ask a client on a formal date, you kind of moved from the drama section to the sci-fi. I mean, who are you, girl? you don't do this stuff!
So as much as your comment touched so many hearts here, and I am sure it did, it also exposed an extremely fascinating aspect of this life we go through. The fragility of our personae, our split being.
And for a moment there you shone in a beautiful, vulnerable yet elevated light. If for nothing else, you won me over totally with that comment !

 

[MikeH]

This is what I get for trying to make the first move.

It's not that you did the first move, you do have to hammer it to our heads. I agree with Viggagadye said; I would not dare to suppose an escort I am seeing is proposing a non-p4p date with me. As even if I would really really like her and would like to take the relationship that way I would never propose it myself. It's her work after all and it would be kind of asking your dentist friend to check out your teeth while you are drinking together.

So your job is twice as hard as normally; you would need to take the first step and spell it out that you want to do non-p4p date, not another paid session with him.