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I'd like to seek your advice, on eye contact rules at business scenes.
I used to work for western bosses, and I remember when he talked to me, his eye contact was rather long and intense, made me think, was that just his habit, or is there any meanings behind??? Obviously, there was no reasons in the end. But I remember we used to have abt 5 seconds or more of eye to eye contact.
As a shy Japanese, I got pretty uncomfortable to be honest.
Japanese people hardly make an eye contact these days, esp. at shops, supermarkets, internet cafes,,,etc. They look your hands to give you change. They look all the way back, at a different angle, when you say something. It seems like, even at home, their parents don't teach their kids to look at ones eyes, when they talk these days, which is totally the opposit from how I was raised. I was told, I should look into your eyes, whilst someone is talking to you. This was a protocol, that most parents used to teach their kids, in good old days.
Went slightly off track.
I had a chance to meet 1 on 1 with an European today for business meeting and he sometimes made pretty much long intense eye contact for sometimes. I tried to stay eye on eye, as I thought, it might be rude to look down first, to look away from that person. But it was little uncomfortable to be honest. I did my best.
My question is, how long would be appropriate, comfortable eye to eye contact on business scenes? Do you ever get uncomfortable? or when do you find it's rude, when eye contact?
I want to share this here, because "eye contact" can be a romantic thing. You hear sometimes, as the long you look into the other person's eyes, the more the person wants to know more of you, or personally interested. When they want the other person, they try to look into you more longer.
I don't want that to happen in business scenes...
So, look each other like 2-3 seconds maybe good enough...would that be too shallow?
What do you think guys?
Would be great to share your POV.
Thanks in advance.
I used to work for western bosses, and I remember when he talked to me, his eye contact was rather long and intense, made me think, was that just his habit, or is there any meanings behind??? Obviously, there was no reasons in the end. But I remember we used to have abt 5 seconds or more of eye to eye contact.
As a shy Japanese, I got pretty uncomfortable to be honest.
Japanese people hardly make an eye contact these days, esp. at shops, supermarkets, internet cafes,,,etc. They look your hands to give you change. They look all the way back, at a different angle, when you say something. It seems like, even at home, their parents don't teach their kids to look at ones eyes, when they talk these days, which is totally the opposit from how I was raised. I was told, I should look into your eyes, whilst someone is talking to you. This was a protocol, that most parents used to teach their kids, in good old days.
Went slightly off track.
I had a chance to meet 1 on 1 with an European today for business meeting and he sometimes made pretty much long intense eye contact for sometimes. I tried to stay eye on eye, as I thought, it might be rude to look down first, to look away from that person. But it was little uncomfortable to be honest. I did my best.
My question is, how long would be appropriate, comfortable eye to eye contact on business scenes? Do you ever get uncomfortable? or when do you find it's rude, when eye contact?
I want to share this here, because "eye contact" can be a romantic thing. You hear sometimes, as the long you look into the other person's eyes, the more the person wants to know more of you, or personally interested. When they want the other person, they try to look into you more longer.
I don't want that to happen in business scenes...
So, look each other like 2-3 seconds maybe good enough...would that be too shallow?
What do you think guys?
Would be great to share your POV.
Thanks in advance.